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The user's comments demonstrate:
- Personal, nuanced experience with detransitioning and dysphoria.
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- Natural language with varied sentence structure, personal anecdotes, and direct engagement with other users' points.
The content is consistent with a genuine desister/detransitioner who is highly opinionated on certain issues.
About me
I started questioning my identity as a teenage girl because I felt uncomfortable with my body and the sexism I saw in my male-dominated hobbies. I thought becoming a man was the only way to escape those feelings and my low self-esteem, so I started taking testosterone at 18. After three years, I realized my dysphoria was really about my poor self-image and struggling with societal expectations, not about being born the wrong sex. I stopped hormones and focused on therapy to address my depression and build real self-worth. Now I'm learning to live comfortably as a woman, having understood that transitioning wasn't the solution to my deeper problems.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was really struggling with the changes that came with being a girl during puberty. I hated developing breasts and just felt incredibly uncomfortable in my body. Looking back, I think a lot of this was tied to the misogyny I saw around me. It felt like being a girl came with a lot of baggage and limitations, especially in the male-dominated hobbies I was interested in. I had really low self-esteem and I think I saw transitioning as a way to escape all of that.
I started identifying as non-binary first, around age 16, and then that shifted to identifying as a trans man. A lot of my thinking was influenced by what I saw online. I spent a lot of time in communities where transitioning was presented as the solution for anyone who felt uncomfortable with gender roles or their body. I didn't really stop to question if it was right for me. I was also dealing with depression and anxiety, and I thought becoming someone else would fix everything.
I started taking testosterone when I was 18. I was on it for about three years. I never got any surgeries, but I thought about top surgery a lot because I hated my breasts. During that time, I also thought a lot about sexuality. I'm bisexual, but I felt a lot of pressure and confusion about it. I used to get into arguments online, insisting that bisexual women in relationships with men had privilege, and I think that was me trying to make sense of my own feelings. I was uncomfortable with the idea of being seen as a straight woman, and transitioning felt like a way to avoid that.
After a few years, I started to realize that my reasons for transitioning weren't solid. My dysphoria would come and go, and I began to understand that it was more linked to my general self-esteem and my discomfort with sexism than with being fundamentally born in the wrong body. I decided to stop taking testosterone when I was 21. I was lucky that I didn't have any serious health complications from it, and I don't believe it made me infertile, but I know I got off easier than some.
I don't regret exploring my gender because I think I needed to go through it to understand myself better. But I do regret not getting the right kind of help sooner. I needed therapy for my underlying issues like low self-esteem and depression, not just affirmation about being trans. What really helped me in the end was focusing on the things that made me happy, building a supportive circle of female friends who shared my interests, and learning to challenge my own negative self-talk. I had to rebuild my self-esteem from the ground up.
Now, I see gender differently. I think for me, it was never about having a male brain in a female body. It was about struggling with the expectations placed on women and feeling like I didn't fit. I'm comfortable now living as a woman, and I'm trying to make peace with my body. My advice to anyone questioning is to really take your time and ask yourself the hard questions about why you want to transition and if it will truly address the root of your unhappiness.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone and began identifying as a trans man. |
| 21 | Stopped testosterone and began detransitioning. |
| 22 (Present) | Living as a woman, focusing on therapy for self-esteem and building a positive life. |
Top Comments by /u/Zymmie:
100% yes. I was just thinking about this last night. I know it’s silly to ruminate on, but my mother didn’t even have a female name picked out yet she had a male one. My mother often spoke of boys being easier to raise, mainly because they don’t have periods. I don’t think my father said anything negative, though it’s hard for me not to believe he would have preferred a son.
Dysphoria waxes and wanes for me. I’ve never seriously considered re transitioning. If I were you I’d take some time to myself and ask questions. Why did you desist in the first place? Why do you want to transition? Can your goals be met with transition? Are you prepared for the potential negative effects of transitioning? Things of that nature.
I'm also Gen Z and I relate in a way I just disagree that it's worse now. I mean in the 90s-2010s those things happened and it was bad then too. Going further back than that and misogyny is worse for sure. I think part of your experience of it seeming more common now is just that you're at the age people more readily spout those views or maybe due to social media you're more aware of it. For example, the manosphere has for sure been around since the 2000s. Part of why I transitioned was misogyny and that was more than a few years ago. As for advice are you seeing a therapist? Maybe they could help you rebuild your self-esteem. I wouldn't mention the dysphoria since then they'll probably just encourage you to transition. Focus more on the things that make you happy. Don't ruminate on negative things if you can't get it out of your head write it down then forget about it. Find female friends who also enjoy the male-dominated hobbies you mentioned. Shut down negative self-talk and replace it with positive thoughts. That's all I can think of for now...
"Looking more broadly at LGBT adults who are in committed relationships
(whether married or not), almost all gay men (98%) and lesbians (99%)
are in relationships with same-sex partners. Only 9% of bisexuals have
same-sex partners; fully 84% are involved with someone of the opposite
sex."
https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/02/20/among-lgbt-americans-bisexuals-stand-out-when-it-comes-to-identity-acceptance/
https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/how-many-people-lgbt/
Why can't bi-women date each other? Bi-women always bring up lesbians and their "biphobia" for reasons they aren't in a same-sex relationship. There are fewer same-sex attracted women yet lesbians are still able to be in same-sex relationships.
I never said anything about staying closeted though I see no reason for coming out if you're in a het relationship. It is not just "slightly" easier for bisexual people. Bi people are still attracted to the opposite sex. Being in a heterosexual relationship is a privilege and you can't change my mind.
There’s less lesbians than straight men, so bisexual women tend to end up in a lot of heteronormative relationships simply due to availability.
I wish bi women would stop saying this. Why is bisexual women dating each other not an option? The truth is most bi women are more attracted to men. The majority of the "community" is bisexual women why do you care if the L&G dislikes you? The reason bi women are seen as "straight-lite" is because the majority are in straight relationships. Bi people do have the privilege of being able to have heterosexual relationships.