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About me
I started because I was deeply unhappy with my body and felt like I never fit in, especially as a teenager. I thought my discomfort with puberty meant I was trans and that testosterone would fix my depression. I was on it for a month, a decision I made from unhappiness, and it left me with permanent infertility. I realized I was using transition to escape my real problems with self-esteem and internalized homophobia. Now, I'm a woman who has learned to address my mental health directly instead of trying to become someone else.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I was deeply unhappy with myself and my body. I never felt like I fit in, especially as a teenager. I think a lot of it was tied to low self-esteem and a kind of self-obsession with my appearance that I couldn't shake. I hated going through puberty and developing breasts; it felt wrong and foreign to me, like my body was betraying me. I spent a lot of time online looking for answers and found communities that told me this discomfort meant I was trans. It felt like I had finally found an explanation for all my pain.
I started identifying as non-binary first. It felt like a less scary step than saying I was a man. But the communities I was in kept pushing things further, suggesting that real happiness and authenticity would only come from medical transition. I was influenced heavily by what I saw online and by friends who were also exploring their gender. I convinced myself that testosterone was the solution. I remember thinking, "I can't ever see myself disliking these changes." I was so sure it would fix my depression and anxiety.
I was on testosterone for a short time, about a month. I lied to get it, telling a doctor what I thought they needed to hear. I realize now I was treating a problem I didn't truly have with a very powerful drug. It was a drastic decision made from a place of deep unhappiness, not a clear-headed one.
Looking back, I can see that a lot of my drive to transition was a form of escapism. I thought I could become a completely different person and leave all my problems behind. I was running from myself. I also struggled with internalized homophobia; it was easier to think of myself as a straight man than to accept being a lesbian. My obsession with my appearance and my body dysmorphia got wrapped up in this identity.
I did not get any surgeries. I am grateful for that now, as the changes from testosterone were mostly reversible after such a short time. But the experience did make me infertile, which is a permanent consequence I have to live with. It's a serious health complication that I wasn't properly warned about.
My detransition began when I started to realize that my problems weren't going to be solved by changing my body. The initial validation I got from transitioning socially wore off, and I was left with the same underlying issues. I had pushed my friends away during this time because the process was so all-consuming. I was so focused on myself that I neglected my relationships. I learned that "cutting people out" for not supporting you 100% is just a way to isolate yourself. I regret the hostility I showed to people who were genuinely concerned for me.
I don't regret transitioning in a way, because it was a path I had to go down to learn these hard lessons. But I deeply regret not addressing my mental health first. I benefited immensely from therapy that wasn't just about affirming my gender identity, but about digging into my depression, anxiety, and self-esteem issues. That was what actually helped me.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's often a distraction from deeper psychological issues. For me, it was never really about gender at all. It was about trauma, self-hatred, and a desperate need to escape. I'm just a woman who had a very hard time accepting herself.
Here is a timeline of my events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing breasts. |
| 19 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 20 | Started testosterone after lying to a doctor to acquire it. |
| 20 | Stopped testosterone after one month due to doubt and realizing it was a mistake. |
| 20 | Began the process of detransition and started non-affirming therapy. |
Top Comments by /u/adoptedbypizza:
I feel like constant “selfie” threads will end up delegitimizing this sub as they tend to read as someone seeking validation.
A self obsession with one’s appearance is typically a catalyst that leads a lot of people down the path of transition in the first place. You posted 8 images of yourself less then 24 hours ago.
You definitely aren’t interested in what anyone has to say. Some people left you extensive replies in the last post you made in this sub and you dismissed all of it.
Here is a link to some mental health crisis resources in your province. You’d likely benefit from talking to someone that isn’t just a random on the internet.
“Everyone is useless and I don’t benefit from anything anyone has ever said. There are no solutions. But please help me!”
Yeah, it’s obvious why other subs have banned you. I wonder how many people told you not to transition in the first place. Try doing something to help yourself.
You know people can see that you edited your post right? At least you fixed your error. Maybe you should trying “manifesting” some honesty (and manners) next time rather than your ex boyfriend. I get being embarrassed because you got called out being a weird creepy liar, but it’s pretty obvious from your spamming of this sub that you’re unhinged and hostile. I feel bad for your friend.
You’re just full of weird hypocrisy. You say “why do people take Reddit so seriously” when a person points out your awful behaviour, but you’re also the one “freaking out badly!” and “needing to call the police” because I pointed out two lies you made?
We can also see you have a history of bullying behaviour by watching your Tiktoks. I hope people stop wasting their breath responding to your threads, it’s obvious you don’t listen to a word anyone says.
"Is that even enough to justify HRT?"
The trans community will tell you it is, but any rational person would see the danger of taking powerful drugs to treat a problem you do not have, especially when you have to lie to acquire them.
" I guess it would suck if I decided I hated it after all given the permanence, but I can’t really see myself ever disliking these changes. "
Out of curiosity, how old are you?
You should go reread your own post in the birth control sub, it literally says that you’ve “been on testosterone” for a month. Your own words.
And don’t lie about not clicking and reading people’s profiles and history, because you did exactly that to me the last time we talked on this sub. Guess we’re both “creepy”.
Have you considered asking your friends how they feel? A person transitioning/detransitioning over such a short amount of time is pretty drastic, they likely have some whiplash from all of it. A lot of people still grieve on some level, as a transition can understandably be viewed as the loss of someone, whether you support it or not.
They may be afraid you’re unstable and in an attempt to maintain homeostasis for both your sake and their’s, they’ve built up some boundaries with you and that is why you feel a lack of closeness with them. They also are likely concerned for you. “How is she going to feel six months from now? Do I keep supporting these decisions?”
We currently exist in a paradigm where we are encouraged to support transition no matter what, otherwise we’re labelled transphobic bigots. Not a lot of people understand how to navigate a detransition. You’re going through something they cannot relate to and they’re probably walking around on eggshells.
Transitions can also be all consuming for the person experiencing them, as it inherently is a self-obsessed process. Perhaps you’ve neglected friendships? Friendships take work, they can rot and spoil if they’re not tended to. Relationships are complex and the trans echo chamber will have told you to “cut out toxic people”, which really just comes down to them saying to “ignore people that don’t support every single decision you make”. That isn’t friendship, a friend should be able to tell you the truth about how they feel. “Cutting people out” is lazy, unrealistic, and a quick way to isolate yourself. It is also usually targeted at the wrong people and is the exact kind of cheap Twitter life advice that gets people trapped into group-think mentalities.
At the end of the day, you can’t read people’s minds and you really have no idea what your friends are thinking. This is a cognitive distortion called “fortune telling” that can lead to stress and anxiety and it isn’t rooted in any reality. You need to talk to your friends if you consider the friendship important.
Whatever the case, good luck.