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About me
I started identifying as trans at 15 after finding acceptance in online communities, but they became a toxic echo chamber. I began hormones at 18 and was on them for three years before starting therapy and using meditation and cannabis, which completely changed my perspective. I realized my desire to transition was a band-aid for my discomfort with how society treats women and my own body issues. I stopped HRT a little over a month ago and am already seeing my body return to its natural male state. I'm now learning to accept myself as I am, believing that while people can present however they want, you cannot change your biological sex.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was 15. I found a community online, specifically on a subreddit, that felt like a safe space at first. It was just an echo chamber of constant validation, and it felt really good to be accepted. But looking back, it was incredibly unhealthy. I think if people just logged off social media for a few days, they might realize what's truly important to them. For me, a big part of wanting to transition was about friends and having a group. The friends I made in those spaces were toxic and, honestly, really cringe. I ended up isolating myself because trying to have cis friends was hard where I lived, as it was a pretty conservative area.
I started taking hormones when I was 18 and was on HRT for three years. During that time, I never got any surgeries. I started to really question everything after I began therapy. My therapist told me some things I needed to hear, but I didn't believe her at the time and stopped going. The real turning point for me was meditation and, I have to be honest, smoking weed. Smoking weed completely opened my mind and changed my thought patterns in a way that left me feeling wiser. When I stopped, I could apply what I had learned, and within a month, I knew with complete certainty that I needed to stop HRT and just accept who I am. I also had a profound experience with psychedelic mushrooms that helped me look inward.
Through that process of looking inward, I was able to review my past. I saw the events in my childhood and early teens that made me grow discontent with my body. I realized my feelings were tied to a dislike of how society treats women. It’s like, oh, you don't like being a woman because society treats women like shit? You must be a man then! That was a big part of it for me. I had to work through those feelings and recognize that transition was being used as a band-aid solution instead of learning to cope with the root issues.
I believe people should be allowed to do anything they want with their bodies when they are of sound mind, but I really dislike the idea that transition will fix all your problems with no downsides. For me, trying to learn to cope should be prioritized. My thoughts on gender are that the human race is divided into two physical sexes, with some occasional genetic deviations. That's a fact. With that in mind, people should be allowed to dress, behave, and be addressed however they want. You can be the most feminine person in the world, but if you're male, you're male. To claim otherwise feels delusional to me now. You are not your body and you are not your gender. It's the mind and soul that truly matter.
I do have regrets about transitioning. Now that I'm detransitioned, it really feels like I was just delusional. Even if I truly believed it, I couldn't reasonably expect everyone else to believe it too. Being a biological male, whatever that means for me, is immensely better than pretending to be female. I've been off HRT for about a month and a week now, and I'm already seeing my sexual function return to normal and facial hair start to grow back at a noticeable rate. I'm learning to accept my past without judging it, so I can move forward.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Started spending time in online trans communities and began identifying as trans. |
| 18 | Started taking hormone replacement therapy (HRT). |
| 21 | Began therapy, meditation, and used psychedelics/weed, leading to the decision to detransition. |
| 21 | Stopped HRT after being on it for 3 years. |
Top Comments by /u/ajakakaks:
honestly i only came to this subreddit at first to share my experience but now im invested. this shit is WACK man its so cult-like. if they would just step out of the echo chamber for a minute and consider that we're real people with real experiences just like they are it wouldnt be a they vs them it would just be people. makes me sad
in addition to the other comments, i think its good to consider the bodily health of your child. trans activists will tell you that puberty blockers have zero negative health effects and are completely reversible but this just isnt true. admittedly this is not my area of expertise as I'm not a doctor, but in my direct personal experience it can definitely affect your child long-term even after stopping. especially at his age. should he later decide that he doesn't want to be on blockers anymore, his natural ability to produce testosterone is likely to be significantly reduced from what it would have been had he never been on blockers. theres also increased chance of conditions like gynecomastia.
in the end the choice is yours alone, but i think it would be worthwhile to discuss the potential heath effects with your child should he decide he wants blockers. i also don't think it's a good idea to start him on blockers before he's even really started puberty so that you both can make an informed decision.
i wish more people were this open-minded. the way i see it, the human race is divided into two physical sexes (plus some occasional genetic deviation). this is fact. with this fact in mind, people should be allowed to do whatever they want! dress, behave, be addressed, etc., however tf they want. you can be the most feminine person in the world, but if youre male youre male, that's just the way it is. to claim otherwise is just pretty delusional in my opinion
ive always said that if people simply logged off social media for even just a few days they might actually realize whats really important to them. traa specifically is just an echo chamber of "validation" and if people surrounded themselves with ANYTHING else they might feel differently. traa is where i started when i was 15 and it is SO unhealthy
honestly a big part of being trans for me was friends and having a group but the friends and groups were honestly just so toxic (and really fkn cringe) so i just ended up isolating myself because having cis friends was hard due to where i lived at the time being pretty conservative
the way i see it, trans or not, if someone isnt good to be around socially youre under no obligation to keep them in your life so just do whatever u gotta do fam
its like how theyll just assign any number of mind-numbing antidepressants instead of actually addressing the societal issues that lead to depression on a large scale
oh, you dont like being a woman because society treats women like shit? you must be a man then!
i see you're already feeling better which is really good. just wanted to add that i was on hrt for 3 years and ive been off for only about a month and a week and im already seeing sexual function return to normal and facial start to grow back at a noticable rate.
congrats on figuring this out im very happy for you i hope you're journey is an easier one
the way i see it with myself, being a biological male, whatever that means for me, is immensely better than pretending to be female. it might be offensive to say pretend but now that im detransitioned it really feels like i was just delusional. even if i truly believed it i couldn't reasonably expect everyone else to believe it too.
in the end it's really about what makes you happy. if you dont think you could be happy being trans then you know what to do and vice versa
yeah personally i believe people should be allowed to do anything they want with their body when theyre of sound mind, but i dislike the idea that transition absolutely will fix all of your problems with no downsides whatsoever. trying to learn to cope should definitely be prioritized over using transition as a bandaid solution
i think you should give meditation a serious try. whether it's mindfulness or simple contemplation, it might help guide you to the answers you seek.
if you focus on putting all of your previous experience and belief aside, everything youve ever known, and start from scratch on a new day, do you think you would still end up the way you are today? sometimes all it takes it putting aside everything you think you know and starting anew