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About me
I started taking testosterone at 20 because I was deeply uncomfortable with my female body and lived as a man for seven years. I realized that path wasn't right for me and stopped the hormones to embrace being a woman again. My voice is still deeper now, but I've learned that doesn't make me any less of a woman. I'm currently undergoing procedures to rebuild my breasts, which finally feels right for me. I don't regret my past, as it was a necessary journey that taught me how to truly love and accept myself.
My detransition story
Of course. Here is a summary of my experience, written from my perspective.
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was really uncomfortable with my body, especially when I went through puberty and developed breasts. I hated them; they never felt like they belonged to me. I felt like I didn't fit in anywhere and was deeply insecure. I think a lot of my feelings were tied up in a general discomfort with myself and the changes happening to my body, rather than it being strictly about gender.
I ended up deciding to transition. I started taking testosterone when I was 20 years old. I was on it for a long time—seven years. It lowered my voice and changed my body in a lot of ways. I never got top surgery or bottom surgery, but I did live as a man socially for that entire period.
After those seven years, I realized that this path wasn't right for me anymore. I stopped taking testosterone. I didn't taper off; I just quit. I was 27 and relatively healthy, so I was okay physically. Emotionally, it was a big shift. I had to navigate a whole new set of feelings about who I was.
My voice has lightened up a bit since going off testosterone. It's not back to how it was before I started, but it's closer to how it sounded when I was only a few months on T. Sometimes people on the phone mistake my voice for a man's, and people online have even called me a trans woman or said I sound masculine. It used to bother me, but I've had to learn to accept that all women look and sound different. I have female family members who have had double mastectomies, have short hair, or deep voices, and that doesn't make them any less women. The same is true for me.
Right now, I'm actually undergoing a different kind of procedure. I'm having fat grafting to rebuild my breasts. I chose this over implants because the chance of complications is so low, and after four or five procedures, I should have a natural result that I won't have to worry about again. I was told I'll never have a completely flat chest again, which is fine with me. It’s a process that requires patience as my skin needs to stretch with each session.
Looking back, I've decided not to live with regret. I have a lot of sympathy for my younger self. I was just trying to make the best decisions I could with the knowledge and experiences I had at the time. Nobody has a rulebook for life. We're all just trying to find ourselves, and sometimes that means trying things we might not do again. But at least we learn how we truly feel, and that takes bravery.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's not as rigid as people make it out to be. You can be a woman with a deep voice or short hair. You can be a man who is gentle or feminine. What matters is doing what makes you feel comfortable in your own skin. For me, that meant stopping hormones and embracing being a woman again, but in my own way. I’m finally learning to give myself a break and love myself for who I am.
Age | Event |
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20 | Started taking testosterone (0.5ml weekly). |
27 | Stopped taking testosterone after 7 years of use. |
30 | Began fat grafting procedures to reconstruct breasts. |
Top Comments by /u/aliaxismail:
Your feelings are totally valid, but I also have to add that you look very feminine and your voice is also feminine. I STILL deal with people mistaking my voice for a man and people on the internet call me a transwoman or say I’m masculine. (There is nothing wrong with either) you have to just accept that all women look and sound different. Multiple women in my family have had a double mastectomy and short masculine hair and my grandmother has a deep voice, it doesn’t make them any less of a women though right? Same thing for you. Give yourself some slack. It doesn’t matter what people think or say about you. I’m sure you look like the other women in your family and they’re beautiful and kind just like you. If you love them, you should love yourself the same way.
As far as wanting to feminize yourself more, look at different ways to wear your hair or put on makeup, or wear more feminine clothing. But do it in the ways YOU want to. Anything can be feminine if you say it is. You’ll be okay, I promise 💗
I will say something about the regret. I decided to not have regret about my transition. I have given myself sympathy to the younger me. I was only trying to make the best decisions for myself given the knowledge and experiences I had. No one has a rule book to life so why shame myself for just trying to be a human in todays world. So many men and women make changes to themselves especially due to societal standards. We’re just trying to find ourselves. You’ve learned so much about yourself and you tried things, maybe things that you wouldn’t do again, but at least you know how you would feel & that takes a lot of bravery. You’re going to be okay 💗
Hi there! I am doing fat grafting and posting my results with every surgery. I will be posting photos on Monday for an update. I 100 percent believe fat grafting is the best because of the chance of complications being so extremely low and after 4-5 procedures you’ll never have to worry about your breasts again. With implants you could develop cancer, then flipping inside of you or having to get them redone. If you remove the implants and you’re left with a pocket it could be harder to do fat grafting because it won’t have much to attach to.
It really depends on how big you start with and where you want to be and how tight your skin is on your chest too. So if you have looser skin than more fat can go in there in a single session. I didn’t so my skin has to stretch with each surgery or else it would just get reabsorbed!
I also think my surgeon wanted to a lot more because if I lose any fat I still have a good base.
Honestly, your natural voice is totally fine! women have deep voice and raspy voices. I think with time it will lighten and it will feel even more natural. I think when you higher your voice it doesn’t sound natural nor fitting for you, which makes sense because it doesn’t feel comfortable yet to you. I was on testosterone for 7 years and my voice lightened to how it was when I was around 3-6 months on testosterone. Some people get confused on the phone and others absolutely love my voice. There will always be someone to say something about you, it’s your choice to allow it to affect you. BUT with all that being said, if you want to do voice training then by all means do what makes you feel comfortable.
There is a small chance but I was told that I would never have a flat chest again. I honestly don’t see myself gaining a crazy amount of weight or losing a crazy amount but after 4-5 sessions they would be bigger than I expected so that’s fine for me.
I would say it is low and you sound young though. Not like a hyper masculine older man (for reference) I do think your voice might lighten a little with time being off. I was on for 7 years and it has changed. Not back to pre-testosterone but lighter. And I second what someone said about it being attractive! Someone will find your voice attractive, romantically or platonically, it happens to me a lot.
Hi! I was on .5 ml every week for 7 years and quit without tapering and was fine. I also was relatively healthy but 27 years old. If there was anything out of the norm I definitely didn’t notice it. Maybe more emotional? But that was probably mostly from going into a huge new journey and navigating my feelings. My doctor tested my levels at 3 months, 6 months and a year and we now have done yearly for 3 years. Everyone’s different!