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Reddit user /u/aliceskysarepurple's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 29 -> Detransitioned: 31
male
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
serious health complications
homosexual
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About me

I started transitioning to female at 29, hoping it would fix my deep trauma and lack of identity. I lived that way for two years and almost had irreversible surgery before I realized it wouldn't solve my core problems. The estrogen caused painful physical issues, like losing muscle and dislocating my joints easily. I've decided to detransition and recently felt a sense of peace going out as a man again. I'm now focused on stopping hormones, getting stronger, and building a healthy life for myself as a gay man.

My detransition story

My whole journey with transition and now detransition is deeply personal, and I’m sharing this just to tell my own story. It has nothing to do with politics. I have friends who are trans and I care about them, but for me, transitioning wasn't the right path.

I started my transition when I was 29 years old. I lived as a woman for almost two years. Looking back, I realize a huge part of my desire to transition came from a place of deep trauma and a lack of identity. I was diagnosed with BPD, and from my early childhood up until my mid-twenties, I experienced a lot of trauma. I felt like I had no solid sense of who I was, and I was desperately trying to cling to an identity. Becoming a woman felt like an answer.

I had a referral for surgery and was going to call to schedule it just last week, but I've decided not to go through with it. The idea of going through countless painful and irreversible surgeries now seems insane to me. I was trying to feel like myself, but I see now that I was heading down a path that wouldn't have solved my core problems.

Medically, being on estrogen had a big impact on my body. I lost a huge amount of muscle mass and now I have issues with overflexibility. It’s not uncommon for me to pop my knee joint out, which is excruciatingly painful. I’m now focused on getting my testosterone levels back up and gaining back my strength.

I also started noticing my hair receding last February. At first, I thought it was dysphoria, but I realized it’s just something many men have to deal with. My hair has actually been thinning and blonding since as far back as 2014. Since I transitioned at 29, my hips had already fused into a typical male shape, so I didn't have to worry about that particular change.

Recently, I went out in men's clothing, and for the first time in a long while, I felt a sense of normalcy and peace. Sure, I noticed women treated me differently—they seemed more tight-lipped and a bit suspicious—and that made me sad. But overall, I think I can live life as a gay man. I’ve realized I am not a woman and never will be, and that's okay. I don't really want to be a woman; I want to be me. I'm detransitioning for my own personal reasons, and that's more than enough. My goal now is to learn who I am, build a happy, healthy life as a man, and find some peace and contentment.

Age Event
29 Started transition, began living as a woman and taking estrogen.
30-31 Lived as a woman for almost two years.
31 Noticed hair receding, realized it was male-pattern baldness, not dysphoria.
31 Had a referral for surgery but decided not to schedule it. Began social detransition, wearing men's clothes again.
31 Medically detransitioning, stopping estrogen to allow testosterone levels to rise.

Top Comments by /u/aliceskysarepurple:

6 comments • Posting since March 3, 2020
Reddit user aliceskysarepurple explains their detransition after realizing their transition was a trauma response stemming from BPD and a lack of identity, and their journey to accept being male.
29 pointsMar 4, 2020
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hey detrans male here, i was reading and I kinda see myself as both I am medically detransitioning but I am also and wanting to learn to be a male, I had so much trauma in my early childhood up until my mid 20's that I had no identity (I was diagnosed with bpd) and because of that desperatly tried to cling to an identiy, going so far as too identify as transitioning and living as a women for almost 2 years.

now i have realised that I am not a women and never will, and thats okey ! I dont really want to be a women I want to be me and learn who I am and if learning to accept being a male is what it takes so be it that a far better then where I was heading going through countless painful and irreversable surgery just to try and feel like myself seems a bit insane now

Reddit user aliceskysarepurple explains their decision to post in a detrans-only space to avoid political agendas and focus on their personal reasons for questioning transition.
6 pointsMar 3, 2020
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I guess it was more of a vent or blog style, I put detrans answers only as I really dont want to deal with people trying to make detransition part of a political agenda. my reason for detransition or questioning are mine alone and have nothing to do with politics

Reddit user aliceskysarepurple explains their apolitical stance on transition, opposing legal bans while acknowledging personal detransition to live as a "happy, healthy man."
6 pointsMar 3, 2020
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Im taking an apolitical stance, I have freinds who are trans and I deeply care about them, but I also see the issues with transtioning, at this point I dont see any clear ansewers but I don't think making laws prohibiting transition will help anyone. honestly these questions are beyond my ability to ansewer and should be left to doctors psychologist and the individual therapist of those transitioning as well as the transitioner/

as for me I am detransitioning for persional reasions and thats more then enough for me, I want to live my as a happy healthy man and build some peace and contentment in my life.

Reddit user aliceskysarepurple comments on the physical effects of detransitioning, noting their hips were already fused in a male pattern and describing a loss of muscle mass and painful joint overflexibility from estrogen.
4 pointsMar 4, 2020
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good to know, it will probably just take time.

btw I transitioned at 29 my hipes fused a long time ago to be typical male, so I guess I wont have to worry about that.

the thing is to start bringing those t levels up and gaining strength, I lost a huge amount of muscle do to estrogen, and I notice I have issues with overflexibility, its not uncommong for me to pop my knee joint out which is excruciatingly painful

Reddit user aliceskysarepurple explains their decision to cancel a transition-related appointment, finding peace and normalcy while presenting as a gay man despite some negative social reactions.
3 pointsMar 3, 2020
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yeah I was going to take that step as well I had the referral and was going to call this week, I don't think Im going to do it.

btw I went out today in mens clothing and you know what I felt ? normalcy, peace, sure I was treated diffrently by women ( tight lipped and a bit suspious) which made me sad, but I think I could live life as a gay man :)

Reddit user aliceskysarepurple explains how they mistook their receding hairline for gender dysphoria, realizing it was male-pattern baldness that had been slowly progressing since 2014.
3 pointsMar 4, 2020
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yeah I never really noticed my hair receding until last feburary, I thought my hair issues was dysphoria, but its not its what any man has to deal with.
and tbh I think my hairlines been slowly receding for a decade, I noticed my hair blonding and thinning as far back as 2014.