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Reddit user /u/analpipebomb's Detransition Story

female
low self-esteem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got top surgery
became religious
puberty discomfort
anxiety
had religious background
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About me

I was born female and my discomfort with puberty led me to believe I was a man, so I took testosterone and had top surgery. I later realized my unease was from deeper issues like low self-esteem, not my gender, and I found peace returning to my Christian faith. I regret the permanent changes I made to my body and the years I lost living as someone else. I now see that my understanding of gender was too simple and that changing your body isn't a cure-all. I'm learning to accept myself as I am, with all the lasting consequences of my journey.

My detransition story

My whole journey with transition and detransition is something I'm still trying to fully understand myself. I was born female, and for a long time, I felt deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially during puberty. I hated developing breasts and felt a strong sense that my body was wrong. I didn't feel connected to being a woman.

I found a lot of community and answers online, in trans spaces, which made me feel seen for the first time. I came to believe that these feelings meant I was actually a man, and that medical transition was the path to fixing my discomfort. I started taking testosterone and eventually got top surgery to remove my breasts.

For a while, it felt like I had solved my problems. I was being seen as a man and I thought that was what I wanted. But over time, the feelings of unease came back. I started to realize that a lot of my initial discomfort wasn't really about gender, but was tied to other things like low self-esteem, anxiety, and just the general difficulty of going through female puberty. I had left the Christian faith I was raised in and became an atheist, but a few years before I decided to detransition, I felt a strong pull back to God and was trying to find my way back to religion. I'm not sure if my return to faith and my detransition are directly related, but it happened around the same time. I'm happily devoted to Christ now, and that has given me a lot of peace.

I left the trans community long before I even considered detransitioning because I felt it had become an insane echo chamber where you weren't allowed to question anything. I saw the same thing starting to happen in some detransition spaces, where people just want their feelings validated without any honest conversation. I believe we need to be brave enough to be honest with each other.

Looking back, I think my understanding of gender was too simplistic. I believed the narrative that if you feel uncomfortable with your sex, you must be the opposite gender. Now I see it as something much more complex, often tangled up with other issues like internalized misogyny or just a deep-seated unhappiness with oneself. I don't believe changing your body is a cure-all anymore.

I do have regrets about my transition. I regret the permanent changes I made to my body, especially the top surgery. I regret the years I lost living as someone I wasn't, and I see now that I was trying to escape from myself rather than become my true self. My existence, and the existence of other detransitioners, is proof that the "gender journey" isn't a dress-up game you can restart over and over. It has real, lasting consequences.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

Age Event
? Born female.
? Started puberty, felt intense discomfort and hated developing breasts.
? Started identifying as transgender and began taking testosterone.
? Underwent top surgery to remove my breasts.
? Felt a pull back to religion and began exploring faith again.
? Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransitioning.

Top Comments by /u/analpipebomb:

9 comments • Posting since December 17, 2023
Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) explains that detransitioners are hated because their existence is antithetical to trans ideology, proving transition isn't a cure-all and that the gender journey has permanent consequences.
60 pointsMar 20, 2024
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Our existence, in a lot of ways, is antithetical to their ideology. They can't face the possibility of detransitioning one day, and it throws a wrench into their rhetoric about how transition is the cure to gender dysphoria and "becoming your true self."

We are proof that the "gender journey" isn't a dress up game that you can restart over and over again.

Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) explains why they left the trans community and warns the detrans subreddit against becoming a similar "hugbox" that avoids honest discussion.
33 pointsFeb 5, 2024
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This community is quickly devolving into an insane hugbox where you aren't supposed to question anybody or anything. I left the trans community for this reason originally, before even considering detransitioning. I'm not into fueling peoples delusions or patting their ass over their feelings about innate facts. If that's what the community is gonna have to do, then many of us will leave and the rest will be left to wallow in their confusion with no one brave enough to be honest with them, just like they were in the trans community.

Tldr get thicker skin, or just go

Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) explains the correlation between men who transition and deeply rooted misogyny, noting some detrans men have worked through it while others embrace a misogynist identity.
22 pointsFeb 11, 2024
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There's a strong correlation between men who want to wear womanface and deeply rooted misogyny. Some of the men in the detrans community have worked through it to some degree to get here, some of them embrace the identity of being a misogynist in place of their trans identity.

Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) explains how detransitioning and a return to Christianity helped her after leaving the trans community.
19 pointsFeb 20, 2024
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I was raised Christian, became agnostic by teenhood and atheist into adulthood. I was getting called back to God and trying to find my way back to religion for a few years before I decided to detransition. I'm not sure if the two are related, but religion has helped me immensely after deciding to leave the "trans community." I'm happily devoted to Christ now. :-)

Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) explains why detransitioning is not a celebration but a support group for those who regret a life-changing experience.
18 pointsFeb 10, 2024
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Viewing the detrans community with the same lense that we once might have viewed the trans community is inaccurate. The trans community is about celebrating changing your gender or whatever. The detrans community is more of a support group for people who have dealt with a life-changing experience that most of us do regret. Expecting us to celebrate losing years of our lives to a transition that ultimately lead nowhere is a little unreasonable, yeah?

Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) advises a recently detransitioned user to be patient, explaining that re-feminization after being on testosterone for a while takes time.
14 pointsFeb 5, 2024
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If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been off of testosterone? It will take some time for your body to re-feminize especially since it seems you were on testosterone for a while. Like transitioning, it will take time. Your posts show just a week ago you were posting in trans communities. Just have some patience and give your body some grace as it tries to right itself.

Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) comments on skincare routines, clarifying her own hygiene habits while agreeing that the industry encourages wasteful spending.
10 pointsDec 17, 2023
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FYI, I shower daily, wash my hair every three days, and exfoliate my face with a clean washcloth and water once a day before moisturizing lol. I'm not advocating for not showering... but I do agree that skincare is another way they get us to waste our money tho.

Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) suggests a change in perspective, reminding others that the detrans subreddit is a support group where people share negative experiences, and many members live full, happy lives outside of it.
9 pointsFeb 10, 2024
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No offense, but you don't exactly seem like a ray of sunshine. Any suggestions on how we can all be more positive?

Btw, it's good to consider that we only see a very small sliver of each other's lives on Reddit. Many of us are living full, happy lives, and we come here as a support group. So, saying that we all are negative because you come to a subreddit made for people to talk about their (overwhelmingly negative) experiences, maybe you need a slight change in perspective yourself. Food for thought.

Reddit user analpipebomb (detrans female) clarifies that her growing interest in religion began before her detransition and is not necessarily related to it.
8 pointsFeb 20, 2024
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Where did I say that? I said that I don't know if my religious beliefs and detransition are related and I was becoming more interested in being religious before I even wanted to detransition. You seem to have some hang ups that you are taking out on an internet stranger.