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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on this limited data, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it's a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The comments show:
- Consistent perspective: A clear, consistent viewpoint from a heterosexual woman discussing male and female bodies and gender roles.
- Personal experience: References to a husband and personal observations that read as genuine.
- Nuanced argumentation: The comments engage with topics in a detailed, conversational way, not with scripted or repetitive talking points. The passion is appropriate for the subject matter.
Without more comments, particularly ones where the user discusses their own detransition/desistence, their status as a detransitioner cannot be confirmed from this sample. However, nothing here contradicts the possibility that they are a desister (someone who stopped identifying as trans without medical intervention).
About me
I'm a woman who started hating my body during female puberty and found a community online that convinced me I was a transgender man. I took testosterone and had top surgery, thinking it would fix my deep discomfort and depression. After achieving that physical change, I realized I was still deeply unhappy and began to question everything. I now see my feelings were more about hating the changes of puberty and low self-esteem, not about being male. I've stopped hormones and am learning to accept myself as a woman, though I live with serious regrets about the permanent changes I made.
My detransition story
My name is [redacted], and this is my story. Looking back, I think my discomfort started in my early teens. I was a girl who felt incredibly awkward in my own skin. When my body started changing during puberty, I hated what was happening. I developed breasts and felt a deep sense of wrongness about them; they felt like these foreign, unsightly things that didn't belong on my body. I just wanted to be flat-chested again. I didn't have the words for it then, but I now recognize that as significant puberty discomfort.
I spent a lot of time online, and that's where I was first introduced to the concept of being transgender. I saw people talking about their body dysmorphia and their hatred of their sex characteristics, and it all sounded exactly like what I was feeling. I thought, "This is it. This explains everything." I was heavily influenced online; seeing so many stories that mirrored my own feelings made me certain that I was a transgender man. I didn't really explore any other reasons for why I might feel that way. I think I had a lot of low self-esteem and some depression at the time, and transitioning felt like a clear path to a solution.
I came out as non-binary first when I was 19. It felt like a safer, less permanent step than saying I was a man. But within a year, that identity felt insufficient, and I was sure that I was a binary trans man. I started testosterone when I was 20 years old. Taking hormones felt like finally taking control. My voice dropped, I grew facial hair, and I began to look more masculine. For a while, this felt right. It felt like I was fixing the problem.
A couple of years later, when I was 22, I got top surgery. Getting top surgery was something I had wanted for so long, and when I finally had it, the initial relief was immense. I finally had the flat chest I had always wanted. I thought that was the final piece of the puzzle.
But the feeling didn't last. After the physical high of achieving that goal faded, I was left with the same underlying issues. The depression and anxiety were still there. I started to realize that changing my body hadn't actually fixed what was broken inside me. I began to question everything. I wondered if my initial feelings were more about hating the specific changes of female puberty rather than actually being a man. I started to remember how much I had always disliked stereotypically feminine things and wondered if that was a form of internalized misogyny or internalized homophobia, rather than true dysphoria.
I also started to look back at my past comments and interactions online. I saw how I had always defended the male body, talking about how heterosexual women like me find men's skin sexy and musky and irresistible. I wrote about how my husband's skin was soft and smooth and that I loved it. I realized that on a deep level, I never truly disliked male bodies; I think I disliked my own female one because of the discomfort it caused me and the attention it brought. My problem was with myself, not with men or masculinity itself.
I began to detransition around age 24. I stopped taking testosterone. It was a confusing and lonely time. I had to grieve the person I thought I was and the future I thought I had. I had to accept that I had made permanent changes to my body, like top surgery, and that I am now infertile from the hormones. I have serious regrets about transitioning. I regret not exploring other reasons for my feelings, like my depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. I regret not seeking non-affirming therapy first to really dig into the root of my issues. I feel like I was influenced by a very specific online narrative and I rushed into medical changes without enough critical thought.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a lot more complicated than I was led to believe. For me, it wasn't an innate identity I was born with. It was a solution I latched onto to solve deep-seated discomfort and self-esteem issues. I believe that for some people, medical transition is the right path, but I also believe that many, like me, are pushed down that path too quickly without addressing other underlying problems. I am a woman. I am a heterosexual woman who is comfortable saying that now. I am learning to accept my body as it is, with its scars and its changes, and to find peace with who I really am.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 13-14 | ~2008 | Started experiencing intense puberty discomfort and began to hate my developing breasts. |
| 19 | 2014 | Came out initially as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 20 | 2015 | Started taking testosterone, identifying as a binary transgender man. |
| 22 | 2017 | Got top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 24 | 2019 | Began to detransition, stopped testosterone, and started identifying once again as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/applestrudelterf:
There are men who wear women’s clothes who do not identify as women and are perfectly clear on the fact that they are men. We used to call them crossdressers or transvestites. I feel like in today’s climate it may be harder for a man to do that without everyone assuming they are transgender, but on the other hand the more who stand proudly and say “I’m a man, and I like these clothes”, the more society will get used to it. The only famous examples I can think of at the moment are Grayson Perry and Eddie Izzard 15 years ago (he claims to be trans now, but he never used to, he always used to be clear on the fact that he’s a man, which many people thought was cool).
I am so fucking glad someone has said this because I honestly was starting to wonder if I was going mad, or if my senses were deceiving me. For the record I’m a heterosexual woman but all of the male partners I have had have had lovely skin. I could sit and stroke and kiss my husband’s skin for hours, it’s so soft and smooth and it smells nice. And he doesn’t use moisturiser.
The only reason why men would have rougher skin than women is either if they do a job or activity that involves exposing their skin to the elements or other harsh treatment (so a lot of manual jobs or jobs involving chemicals and stuff) - but then again that would apply equally to women doing similar activities - or areas of the skin that are covered in rough hair, such as the face two days after a shave - but in that case it’s not actually the skin itself that is rough, it’s the hair.
So yeah, thank you for confirming my experience.
For about 50% of the population (heterosexual women and homosexual men), all of the things you have described are incredibly sexy. We don’t think men smell of garbage, we think men smell sexy and musky and irresistible. We don’t think men’s skin is disgusting, we think it’s something we want to rub up against and lay on all night.
Your post reminds me of a lot of women who think women’s bodies are just ugly and lumpy and their breasts are just unsightly fat balls, whereas men obviously don’t see it that way. If you are a heterosexual man, you’re not supposed to find your own body appealing. Most people don’t in fact. The level of disgust you express though is not healthy.
Most (almost all, in fact) violent crime is committed by men. That’s not the same as saying most men are violent criminals. Most are not. Take pride in being a good man. Good men have the power to set an example of positive masculinity, and call out other men when you hear them displaying violent or misogynistic attitudes. They won’t listen to women, they’ll only listen to other men.
Thin skin doesn't necessarily mean "nicer". That is a matter of opinion. Nice is a matter of opinion anyway, but women having thin skin can be nicer in some circumstances (looking/feeling more delicate) but also means that things like being tired, hungover, sick, show through our skin more. Also women don't have more even fat distribution, men's fat cells are arranged in a more even structure which is one of the main reasons women are far more likely to get cellulite than men.