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- Personal, emotional investment in a specific, complex relationship.
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About me
My journey started because I was trying to support my girlfriend, but it made me face my own past confusion. I had socially identified as male when I was younger because I hated the changes of puberty and was influenced online. I now see that was a mistake born from low self-esteem and a difficult situation, not a true identity. I've found peace in accepting my female body and stepping away from the idea I needed to change. Watching my girlfriend suffer with serious health issues from hormones and careless doctors has only confirmed for me that this path is dangerous.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because of my girlfriend. I was trying to be supportive, but I ended up on my own path of realizing things about myself. I see now that a lot of my own feelings about gender were tangled up with my religious background and a bad situation I was in.
I used to believe I could make myself male. I think a big part of that was because I hated my breasts and felt a lot of discomfort with my body during puberty. Looking back, I had really low self-esteem and was probably depressed. I was influenced a lot by what I saw online, and it felt like an escape from just being me. I think I also had some internalized homophobia to work through.
But over time, I realized that I would always have a female body, and I've actually become happy with that. It took me a long time to get here. I came to believe that the body God gave me is the right one, and I found a lot of peace in that. I benefited from stepping away from the idea that I needed to transition. I never took hormones or had any surgeries, I only transitioned socially for a while, and I definitely regret ever going down that path. It was a mistake for me, based on confusion and pain, not on a true identity.
Seeing my girlfriend go through it was hard because it mirrored my own past struggles. She was on hormones and talking about bottom surgery, but she never seemed happy. She was always doubting the surgery. I was really worried about her health. She started bleeding at times and had severe abdominal pain. She had a history of a suicide attempt where she overdosed on ibuprofen and said she pissed blood, and I was terrified she had damaged her kidneys. The medical care she got seemed careless; one time a doctor said she probably had ovarian cysts and checked her urine even though she doesn't have a uterus because of the hormones. It felt like no one was looking at her actual health.
Her therapists were part of the problem. They just pushed the transgender agenda on her and said transition was her only hope. I wanted her to have a chance to find real happiness, not just be pushed further down a path she was unsure about.
Here is a timeline of my own journey based on what I remember:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Around 13-14 | Started feeling intense puberty discomfort and hated my developing breasts. Felt influenced by online communities. |
| Around 16 | Socially identified as male for a period. This was an attempt to escape my own body and situation. |
| 19 | Realized I could never truly change my sex and began to accept my female body. My religious faith was a big part of finding peace. I regret ever thinking I needed to transition. |
Top Comments by /u/axeshark:
I agree. Her current therapists try to push the transgender agenda on anybody who comes in with issues, and says that transition is their only hope. Even her non gender therapist is constantly pushing her towards surgery... I really just want her to be truly happy
Good point. I myself believed that I could make myself male, but realized that I'll always have a female body-- And I'm happy with that! It's taken me time, but I realize now that the body God gave me is the right one, and hope that my gf learns this too.
She and I just started talking about trans regret and detransition rates, and I just vaguely said "itt's interesting how many people realize that bad situations are what cause dysphoria at times" but then she said "I'm a girl right?"
My dumbass said yes. I don't even believe she's a girl. She's a boy. I just don't know what to do..
I'll check it out! I'm so worried about her, how do I make sure she goes to the doctor? I remember a while back she went to the doctor for severe abdominal pain and they said "it's probably ovarian cysts" and checked her urine even though SHE DOESNT HAVE A UTERUS??? I'll try telling her to go get it checked out just because all girls should go to the doctor to make sure that things are normal and shit
I'll do my best to talk to her, and I'll have a friend help me out just in case. She just told me tonight that she's bleeding again... I really really worry about her. A long time ago (around 3 years ago) she tried to overdose on ibuprofen and said she pissed blood. While that was 3 years ago, I feel like she may have damaged her kidneys somehow? I don't know why the bleeding happens during her hormonal periods but that's when she mentions them..
I haven't pressured her to do anything, for one. Secondly, she and I are both religious, though I do see your point about it looking like I"m trying to influence her.
However, she is not a soy-filled loser, nor is she friendless or a twink. She's not even entirely feminine, and if she detransitioned she'd be the same person as she is now.
I just want her to make the right decisions for herself, and I care about her and want to see her b happy. She doesn't necessarily seem happy on hormones and constantly talks about doubting bottom surgery.