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Reddit user /u/baffledpancake's Detransition Story

Detransitioned: 31
female
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
got top surgery
retransition
started as non-binary
doesn't regret transitioning
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The comments show:

  • Consistent, detailed personal history (e.g., being on T for a year, having top surgery in their thirties).
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The user's story of being a desister (stopping testosterone) who had top surgery and is now a "flat chested queer woman" is coherent and fits within the known diversity of detransition/desistance experiences.

About me

I was born female and started feeling a deep discomfort with my body, especially my breasts, when I went through puberty. I thought becoming a man was the answer, so I took testosterone for a year, but it never felt right. I realized my problem was only with my chest, so I stopped hormones and had top surgery, which completely solved my distress. Now I am a happy, flat-chested woman who is comfortable in my own skin. My journey taught me that my true self was always a masculine woman, and I needed to walk that path to find her.

My detransition story

My whole journey with gender has been long and complicated, but I’ve come out the other side knowing myself a lot better. I was born female and for a long time, I felt really uncomfortable with my body, especially during and after puberty. I hated my breasts and felt like they didn't belong on me. I think a lot of my discomfort was tied up with just general low self-esteem and anxiety about growing up and being a woman. I didn't have the words for it back then, but looking back, I was deeply unhappy with that part of my body.

I ended up identifying as non-binary for a while, and then as a trans man. I thought that if I changed my body to be more masculine, all that discomfort would go away. I started taking testosterone and was on it for about a year. It did change my voice and give me some facial hair, but it never felt completely right. It felt like I was putting on a costume that didn't fit either. I was chasing an idea of myself that wasn't real.

After a lot of thinking, I realized my problem wasn't with being a woman itself. It was specifically with having breasts. I decided to stop testosterone and I had top surgery. That was the best decision I ever made for myself. It turned out that all my dysphoria was just linked to my chest. Getting top surgery wasn't about becoming a man for me; it was about fixing the one thing that caused me so much distress. It was as cosmetic as getting a nose job, just for my own peace of mind. After the surgery, I was able to return to womanhood fully and happily. I'm just a flat-chested queer woman now, and I finally feel like I get to exist as my true self.

Stopping testosterone was its own process. My face softened back to a more feminine look after about a year and a half. I did get laser hair removal to speed up getting rid of the facial hair from T, and it worked really well for me. Only a couple of sessions were needed to remove the thick hairs.

Now, I don't regret my transition because it led me to where I am now. I needed to go through that to understand that my issue was so specific. I don't regret the top surgery at all; it solved the problem. I present myself as a masculine woman and I'm comfortable with that. I'm open about my surgery when dating and it hasn't been an issue for people who are attracted to masculine women. I finally have the confidence that comes with being my true self.

I think for me, gender is less about a fixed identity and more about what makes you feel comfortable in your own skin. My journey was about correcting a specific source of physical discomfort, not about changing my fundamental self. I needed to live out my own story to figure that out.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

Age Event
30 Started taking testosterone
31 Stopped testosterone after 1 year
32 Had top surgery
32 Started laser hair removal for facial hair
33 Felt my face had completely returned to a feminine appearance

Top Comments by /u/baffledpancake:

5 comments • Posting since January 14, 2023
Reddit user baffledpancake (detrans) explains how top surgery resolved their dysphoria and led to a happy return to womanhood, advising others to wait years and consider a reduction if needed.
12 pointsJul 5, 2023
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Honestly, it was the best decision I ever made. I did it in my thirties so I had plenty of time to reach that point. It turns out all my dysphoria was just linked to my chest and having a masculine one was the only gender affirming thing I needed. If anything, it made me return to womanhood fully and happily. I'm just a flat chested queer woman and I get to exist. Give it years and years, and don't rule out a reduction if size is physically bothersome. And I really mean years and years.

Reddit user baffledpancake (detrans) explains that laser hair removal worked very fast for them, with two sessions eliminating thick beard hairs and leaving only light, pre-T hair, and recommends a follow-up session for missed spots.
11 pointsJan 14, 2023
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It definitely worked that fast for me too! Two sessions was more than enough to get rid of the thick beard hairs, and the only hair growing back now is super light like it was before T. I prefer waxing now.

I would go for another session to just zap all the spots they missed of it bothers you, some bodies are just lucky!

Reddit user baffledpancake (detrans) comments on dating after detransitioning, explaining that they get more attention due to newfound confidence and that disclosing top surgery early has not been an issue.
5 pointsMay 15, 2023
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Honestly? I've never gotten so much attention before. It's the confidence in being your true self that will shine. I bring up my top surgery very early on and it hasn't been an issue at all for people who are attracted to masculine women anyway, which is how I present myself.

Reddit user baffledpancake (detrans) explains that their face returned to a completely feminine appearance 1.5 years after stopping testosterone, noting that facial hair thinned on its own but was sped up with laser treatment.
5 pointsMay 11, 2023
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Give it time! I was on T for a year and almost exactly 1.5 years off is when my face completely looked feminine. It doesn't look like I was ever on it. I had three rounds of laser for my stubble just to speed up the process, but it started thinning out on it's own a few months after stopping T anyway.

Reddit user baffledpancake (detrans) comments on post-surgery results, advising OP to wait several years before top surgery and to explore the root of their discomfort.
3 pointsJul 6, 2023
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I don't have pecs at all because I'm not T so I naturally didn't grow muscle there and it looks quite androgynous, it just kinda looks like I never developed them. I think peri might work for you, but like I said, please give it a couple of more years before deciding. I totally understand that it can get bad, but getting to the root of that discomfort really takes time and you owe that to yourself. For me it wasn't really caused by any lingering mental issues, it's as cosmetic as getting a nose job. But that's only my story. Please live out yours. And good luck!