Me and literally all of my friends who were trans have detransitioned to some extent or another. I think the trans influencers we watched made it seem like that was a way to heal our trauma, specifically trauma deeply rooted in sexism that we all grew up with. All of us grew up in the church where any form of self expression outside of being a good christian girl was heavily looked down on. All of us were forced to go to church to some extent by our parents. Almost all of us had toxic ass parents. All of us were sexually repressed by the church's purity culture. We saw these trans influencers talk about how transitioning made their depression better, how they no longer wanted to harm themselves, etc. All of the famous trans influencers are conventionally attractive, and they all had glowups from their transitions. All of this made it seem like transitioning was the only way to escape our trauma, because we associated it with our own bodies, rather than the fucked up society we live in. In reality, most people who transition find that their life is harder than before they did. Most of them end up having glow downs and feeling worse about themselves. Specifically the amount of FTM trans people who think they will become conventionally attractive, book character type shit, is crazy. Then they transition and realize they are only giving into the sexist stereotypes that were forced on them. This whole comment is mainly about FTMs because that was mainly who I hung out with before we all got into the real world and saw for ourselves that no one cares as much as we think they do. No one is sitting around judging us like we believe. Even if they are, it really doesn't matter. Anyway, its crazy cuz this post popped up right after I found out another member of my old friend group detransitioned. Mind you the person who went the farthest with their transition out of all of us. It truly is scary how far kids will go to escape their reality, and it's a huge sign that something needs to change

This is very accurate at least for me. I even said while I was trans that I didn't want to be a man, I just wanted to be a boy. And it's true, most girls who transition just want to not be sexualized. I was that kid who wanted top surgery but nothing else, I had planned on not staying on T for any longer than a year, just long enough for my voice to drop then I'd quit. Toward the end of it all I started identifying more as genderfluid, like how I started out before desiring transition. A lot of my dysphoria was just me not wanting guys to hang out with me only because they wanted to sleep with me/date me.

And the internet makes it look so damn appealing, especially when most of their target audience is kids who are desperately looking for some way to escape their trauma. When you're dealing with panic attacks, dysmorphia, trying to find where you fit in, school, parents, wanting to harm yourself, etc, the promise of being able to start a new life in a new body as someone else? Sounds pretty cool till you find out that it doesn't end that way for most, and the process of transitioning is so much harder than doing the work that would actually help the healing process. It requires a total 180 of the thought processes that we are all fed as kids.

They want it to be as soon as that specific child shows signs of puberty from what I've heard. To prevent them from having to go through "the wrong puberty". I know a kid who started blockers at 13. I've heard they aren't allowed to start hrt till 16 but obviously there's been mannnyyyy cases where people started earlier.

I mean as a child, in all the tv shows the male characters are strong and smart, and the female characters are skinny and pretty. So for me I always identified with male characters and rejected female characters because I wanted to be strong. Also think your whole subconscious is formed by the time you're 7, so if you constantly associate femininity with beauty and masculinity with strength, yeah you're gonna "feel like a boy" because you want to fit into "normal" society, but you also can't run away from who you are yknow. And the trans movement exploits this and bad

Well if you want to change it that's your unhealed side telling you that you know what you are deep down inside. If you truly want to change it you have to find the root to what actually makes you feel like you're a guy. You have to be able to look into your life and everything you disliked about being a girl growing up. You have to look deeper than just "I've always felt like a boy", you have to ask yourself why and be honest with yourself. I've been in your shoes I've felt exactly how you feel now and if I was having this conversation 2 years ago I would have said the exact same things you're saying right now. Idk how old you are but getting out into the real world helps a lot. That and frontal lobe development, and actually addressing and facing any trauma you have. The trans movement is dangerous because it distracts people from seeing their trauma for what it is, and it keeps people in a cycle of sexism and self hate. Being trans will not relieve you of any of your internal conflict. It will give you a shot of euphoria from online validation and if you physically transition, the shock to your system will distract you from your problems for a little while. Until you sit down one day and realize you're no happier as a man than you'd be as a woman, in fact you've subjected yourself to all this glorified self hate and made your life harder than it had to be. Don't make the same mistake me and a lot of my friends made. I'm saying all of this out of a place of empathy and compassion, so please don't feel like I'm attacking you. I'm telling you as someone who's coming from the other side of all the feelings you're expressing right now.

I'm not transphobic...but ok. I of all people have the most empathy for trans people because I was trans myself, but ok. Transphobic would be me telling you you're an awful sinner, berating you for your feelings, calling you names, etc. Let me know if you feel any better about yourself by calling me names when you're the one that came on this thread in the first place saying you want to stop being trans. I'm telling you how to stop being trans as someone who went on hormones, almost got top surgery, and spent an embarrassing amount of money on packers tape and binders. You say you want to stop being trans but then contradict yourself when everyone on here tries to help, defeating the whole purpose of even making this post. You're right, we don't need to be arguing because at the end of the day I have no idea what you've gone through in your life and you have no idea what I've been through with mine. I wasn't arguing, you're the one who decided to take it that way. So bye with all that hope you have a good life and I mean that sincerely.

Yah, I feel this cuz I'm a hardcore tomboy but I'm bi, with a preference for men. I am married to a man. I don't talk a lot so I still get mistaken for a young boy on the street and it's crazy how the internet might label this a "gay" experience when it's actually just a gnc experience, cuz yknow gender and sexuality are supposed to be different.

Yeah, you sound like you have a looooot of repressed body image issues. Start working out. Look into bodybuilding and look at stuff directed towards men, stuff that will show you how to bulk up. I promise its hard but once you get into it you'll not only feel better, but it may help you feel more connected to your body. Look up pictures of female bodybuilders. Look up buff women. It'll change your perspective on what female bodies are and what they're not.

The second I wanted short hair and started to dress more masculine, my mom said why would I want to look like a boy, and if any of my female friends had short hair she would ask if they were gay or trying to be a boy. So she could make me stop being friends with them. I was raised conservative and sheltered. She was so scared of me being gay or wanting to be a boy that she literally put those thoughts in my head. I am bisexual, and she was so scared of that. That led to me questioning my gender.