If you’re trans why are you making a sub for detransitioners? I’m genuinely asking. Also having opinions that are critical of trans ideology because it messed up your life and health isn’t transphobic. Call us transphobic all you want but it isn’t true. we are highly critical of a political movement that brought us harm because of the recklessness of medical professionals and trans activists spreading false information. None of us want trans people to be mistreated, we literally were trans identified and lots of us are just worried about the harm that is happening to dysphoric and gnc people and children.

I personally like his videos, I find them entertaining and I genuinely learn a lot from most of the people he interviews. The interviews are long but the ones I’ve watched I definitely haven’t regretted. He talks with scientists, trans people, feminists, detrans people and a lot of other people from what I’ve seen. I don’t find it odd that he’s only interviewed detrans women as finding publicly out detrans men is very rare in my personal experience, most the people publicly talking about detransition are women. I don’t think it’s weird to question trans ideology as someone who isn’t trans or is “cis” and I don’t think he is speaking for detrans people in any way by interviewing detrans women who have made content on the topic. He does ask if questions are over any lines and I think generally tries to listen to everyone and respect their views whether he agrees or not.

Firstly your post comes off as very hostile and like you aren’t asking a question but accusing. I would refrain from forming your opinions before even listening to the sub you’re posting in. For me personally, my mother was very against my transition and trans ID, mainly for medical reasons. However I discounted her opinion as a someone in the medical field because she is also religious and I blamed that for her views. My fathers opinions were because of his religion and I didn’t want to hear what my mom said because I felt that’s where she was also coming from. My identity was only questioned by my parents, everyone else in my life was supportive without any concerns. I did research all the known affects of t before ever getting on hrt. The problem is we still don’t know the long term affects and are finding out more and more side effects after the fact. I genuinely don’t think anyone’s opinion would have changed my mind besides the therapist who I went to for help, if he would have done his job properly and assed why I was struggling with dysphoria and helped me figure out my root cause I would have never been on hrt. But all I got was a referral to an informed consent clinic because my dysphoria was so severe. I needed serious psychological help, not synthetic hormones that made me even more unstable. And because I was already unstable to begin with, how was I at 18 supposed to make an informed choice about the rest of my life? I wanted to kill myself so I wasn’t exactly my best advocate hence why I sought out professional help. Also someone expressing concerns from a place of judgment and a place of compassion are extremely different. And people will take them differently even if you don’t think they should. Humans are emotional creatures and when someone is hostile we are less likely to listen, and when someone has real concern and is compassionate we are more likely to listen. So if you think about it for a few seconds it makes sense as to why some detrans people feel they would have listened to a concerned and loving family member/friend over a hostile anonymous person on the internet.

I think most of the time gender dysphoria like any form of dysphoria has a “root”. For me id say my root was being sexually abused as a child which led me to feel very disconnected from my body but especially my genitalia which only worsened as I got older. I also developed an eating disorder when puberty started because I wanted to be able to control my changing body and stay the same “stick” like androgynous body type I had as a kid. How I currently deal with my dysphoria is to dress how I like which is fairly masculine and try to just cope with having breasts and hips as something that is okay to be uncomfortable with but I don’t need to change if that makes sense. And for me personally realizing that my eating disorder and gender dysphoria were very intertwined has helped me.

Everyone I’ve told has been accepting, I haven’t told my trans friends why I detransitioned nor have they asked

I’ve started therapy and have been trying to process my feelings that I suppressed over the years. Talking with my friends about how transitioning made me feel and how it affected me has helped. looking into research and facts about gender dysphoria and trans ideology has also helped me come back to reality I’ve only recently have been able to accept that I’m bi. most of that work was done with my therapist

Figuring out what I’m really interested in has helped me. I mostly drank, smoked and partied while I was trans identified and didn’t have a lot of genuine interests. I’ve been able to try different activities and look into different hobbies to find out what I really like since I just didn’t let myself have interests for so long. Finding a type of exercise I enjoyed is a big help because it’s harder to think about your body when youre working out and having fun doing it. As for self confidence my best word of advice is try and care less about what other people think. Worrying about what other people think of us holds us back from what we really want to do and if you can slowly care less about the opinions of strangers and more about what makes you happy I’ve found it’s made my life a lot more enjoyable. I have more confidence now than I ever had, not to say I don’t have insecurities I just try really hard not to let them stop me from doing things I like

I’ve been detransitioned for abt a year and personally I never put something on my social media saying I was identifying as female again, I have severe anxiety and I didn’t see how drawing attention to my decision would benefit me. I just started posting more feminine pictures and when I’d hangout with friends irl I would tell them but other than that most people will just catch the flow of things. some people will maybe ask why you decided to stop transitioning and such but I personally haven’t had anyone question my choice, probably because it doesn’t rly affect them

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I didn’t legally change my name but I socially did and I still use my preferred name. I’ve used it for over 4 years now and it’s what everyone calls me and knows me by and it suits me well because I choose a neutral name. I like my birth name but have always struggled connecting to it because people butcher it and often would tell me it was too girly for my personality. I may one day go back to it but for the time being I still use my preferred name socially and birthname legally

I stopped using my binder over a year ago and still experience shortness of breathe, trouble getting deep breathes and rib pains. I didn’t have lung issues prior to binding and was a competitive swimmer with good lung capacity. I’m hoping it gets better but so far even wearing a bra makes me feel like I can’t breathe bc I used a binder for 4 years

Definitely depends on how long you’ve been on t. For me personally I stopped t cold turkey after 9 months with very little noticeable negative affects, mostly just my hormones being imbalanced. My period came back after about a month and was back on track (my period was very consistent before hrt) after 5 months. I would still consult your doctor mostly for blood work, I didn’t do this because I didn’t have a doctor at the time but I do think that could be helpful in actually knowing where your hormone levels are at

When I was 14, through people online and irl explaining what being trans was and me feeling a connection to it, i felt as though it explained a lot of my feelings and the disconnect I’d had with my body. most of my friends were also trans identified, and I felt accepted. I identified as non binary till I was 16 and started to identify as a trans man. I wanted to be sure my feelings were GD before I went further w my transition and I trusted a therapist would be able to analyze me better than I could myself. I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria at age 18 by a “gender therapist” (he was trans man and bias) and started hrt right after.

I was 19 when I realized I wasn’t trans after a horrible therapy experience. it punched me back into a reality I had never processed and made my panic disorder and ptsd unbearable to where I didn’t leave my house for months (while still on hrt). when I started to leave my house again I was extremely uncomfortable passing as male even though i had been passing in public for about 2 years. It made me rethink my whole identity, and I cold turkey stopped t. I then sought out a well recommended unbiased therapist for real psychology help, and I still see her to this day.

I’m female so I use female pronouns