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About me
I started transitioning because I hated being sexualized and felt uncomfortable with my female body, hoping becoming a man would solve everything. I soon realized I had just traded one set of problems for another, and all my internal issues with self-esteem remained. I finally understood the problem wasn't my gender, but how I saw myself and let others' views affect me. Now, I am a confident, straight woman who has learned to own who I am without changing my body. While I have some regrets about the pain I went through, I am finally at peace with myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition started because I hated how men would sexualize me. It felt like it didn't matter what I did or what I looked like; I could be a literal blob of mud and still be seen that way. I think a lot of my discomfort came from that, and from the general discomfort I felt with my body during puberty, especially my breasts. I started to believe that if I wasn't a woman anymore, that problem would go away. So, I decided to transition.
I thought becoming a man would make me feel safer and more powerful. For a while, it did feel like a kind of escape from those feelings. But what I found was that I was just trading one set of problems for another. I was still me, and I started to hate myself and my new body even more. The change was external, but all my internal issues were still there. I realized I had really low self-esteem and that transitioning was my way of trying to fix that from the outside in.
I eventually figured out that the problem wasn't my gender; it was how I felt about myself and how I was letting other people's views affect me. I found that claiming my sexuality and gender—as a straight woman—in a powerful way made me feel happier and more confident than I ever did while transitioning. I learned that men are intimidated by confidence, not by masculinity. I didn't need to change my body to be safe or to be seen; I needed to own who I am.
My thoughts on gender are that it's fluid and wide-ranging. I don't like thinking about strict gender roles. I see us more as social animals who should work together based on every individual's strengths and weaknesses. Biologically, men might tend to be physically stronger, but that doesn't mean there aren't strong women or men who are amazing caretakers. I'm a masculine woman and my partner is a feminine man, and we just take on roles based on what we're good at, not what tradition says. I drive everywhere because I'm good at it, and he cooks all our food because he's amazing at it.
I do have some regrets about my transition. I regret that I felt I had to change my body to solve a problem that was really in my head and based on my experiences with the world. I put myself through a lot of unnecessary pain and confusion. But I also don't believe in telling others what to do with their lives. Some people are certain in their decisions, and significantly more people don't regret transitioning than those who do. You can't know if someone will regret it; you're not them. You can express concern, but ultimately, it's their life.
I was part of a study in my state that showed only about 1% of people detransitioned or regretted taking hormones. And in real life, I've never met a trans person who hated me for detransitioning. The internet can show you the darkest parts of any group and make you hate people, but in reality, most people are just trying to live their lives.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and being sexualized. Hated my breasts. |
| 17 | Began identifying as transgender and started socially transitioning. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Realized I was running from myself and stopped taking hormones. |
| 23 | Fully detransitioned and began identifying as a straight, cisgender woman. |
Top Comments by /u/bingbongdiddlydoo:
Men will sexualize you no matter what. You could be a literal blob of mud and still be sexualized. Unfortunately, there are some horrible fucked up things in this world that we have to both accept and help change. I transitioned for this reason and it led to me hating myself and my body. I found that claiming my sexuality and gender (straight cis woman) in a powerful way made men intimidated of me and made me feel happier in myself than ever before. Men fear confidence, not masculinity, I swear to god
The thing is, you don't KNOW they'll regret it. You can assume, but you aren't them and you're not living their life. You can tell them how you feel and express your concerns but you ultimately have to let others make their own decisions. If it fucks their life up, that's their own problem.
I personally think that through connection, understanding, and communication, things could ONLY be better. I haven't had any negative experiences with any of the trans people in my life and that's because we understand each other. I don't think there should be a divide.
I don't have a source for nationwide, but I was part of a study in my state and they showed me the results, the results being that 1% either detransitioned or regretted taking hormones. I don't know if you can find it online but the organization is OHSU
I don't like thinking about them as gender roles, and rather, roles of an individual person. Gender is something so fluid and wide ranged that you can't just group it into two things. I see it as we are social animals that have to work together based around every individual's strength and weaknesses. Biologically, men tend to be more physically strong than women, so that would mean they would tend to take the role of dealing with the physically laboring things, but that doesn't mean there aren't women who are physically strong enough to take these roles. Conversely, there are men who have strengths in the "feminine" roles of caretaking etc. For example, I'm a masculine woman and my partner is a feminine man, and we settled into taking roles based on our strengths and weaknesses, not our genders. For example, I drive us everywhere because I can and he cooks all the food because he can, which are traditionally for the opposite genders.
Some people ARE certain in their decisions, and using transitioning as an analogy, there are SIGNIFICANTLY more people who didn't regret transitioning than people who did. You don't think that maybe a lot of thought and consideration would go into something like this? Who the fuck are you to tell someone to doubt or question their decision over their own body, trans, detrans, cis, whatever.
Yeah. The internet is like that. It'll show you the darkest parts of every group and make you hate people who are just people living their lives. I haven't met a single trans person in real life who's hated me for having detransitioned and I live in Portland, where basically one out of ten people you meet is trans. On the internet though? Oh my god, the most horrible things that a person could say were said to me. The internet is here to spread hatred and fear to create engagement, and you're falling into it.