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About me
I felt like I failure who didn't fit in, so I fell into trans ideology online looking for an escape. I got completely sucked into a cult-like community that promised transition would solve all my problems and I even planned surgeries. Thankfully, I realized it was all a fantasy before I did any permanent damage to my body. I now see a lot of my confusion was internalized homophobia, as a gay man who was uncomfortable with himself. I regret the whole journey, but I'm grateful I woke up and finally accept that I'm just a man who loves women.
My detransition story
My whole journey started with me feeling like I didn't fit in. I was a kid who wasn't straight, but I wasn't feminine either, and I just couldn't accept myself for who I was. I had this low self-esteem and was looking for a reason to explain why I felt like a failure in some parts of my life. I found that reason online.
I got sucked into trans ideology on places like Tumblr and it was like falling down a rabbit hole. It provided this powerful sense of escapism, making me believe that all my problems would be solved if I could just become someone else. The online communities I found were like a cult; they fed me this constant stream of ideas, making me believe that my true self was just around the corner and that I couldn't go back once I started. I built my own mental trap. The internet was filled with fake success stories and never-ending mental carrots, and there were no reality checks. It made me believe that transitioning would make me normal, but it was really a path to becoming a social outcast.
For a while, I fully believed it. I deeply researched surgeons and even helped someone else pick a doctor for facial feminization surgery. I was planning my own medical transition. Thank god I never went through with any surgeries. If I had gotten FFS, I would have been completely and permanently fucked. I finally realized I was living in a complete fantasy land and aborted my transition before I did any permanent damage to my body.
A big part of my confusion was about my sexuality. I came out as gay in my teens, but that didn't feel right either. I had avoided women and straight sex, but it turns out I actually like women a lot. I think a lot of my initial struggle was a form of internalized homophobia; I was uncomfortable with being a gay man and thought transitioning was a way to escape that. I was wrong. Now I know that you shouldn't label yourself. If you want to try something, just try it. Don't lock yourself into an identity.
Looking back, my thoughts on gender are that it became a trap for me. I was trying to use it to fix my internal problems—my depression, my anxiety, my low self-esteem. But you can't change your sex. I see now that many people, especially males transitioning, have an incredible delusion about "passing." They convince themselves of something that isn't true. I was one of them.
I absolutely have regrets. I regret ever starting down that path and wasting so much time and mental energy on a fantasy. I regret the damage I did to my own sense of self. I'm just grateful I woke up before I did anything permanent. My experience showed me that this can happen to anyone, even someone who thinks they're intelligent, and even in an environment that is accepting. It's not about the outside world; it's about the need for escapism inside certain people.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teens | Avoided relationships with women, came out as gay. |
| Early 20s | Found trans communities online (Tumblr). Began to believe transition was the answer. |
| 23 | Researched surgeons extensively, planned FFS, helped a friend choose a surgeon. |
| 24 | Realized I was living in a fantasy, aborted all transition plans. |
| Now (mid-20s) | Accepted my attraction to women, no longer label my sexuality. |
Top Comments by /u/blahblahbla34:
No, it has nothing to do with money and everything to do with ideology.
The fact is that transgenderism is the tip of the spear of leftist ideology, and people make politics their identity. So, it follows that anyone on the left will refrain from commenting on the excesses of transgenderism.
Its like asking is their money in wokeism in general, yes, no? But thats not the reason it is promulgating. Its promulgating because of its members and the desire to advocate for those ideas.
Ya I helped someone extensively research FFS. Because I was also deeply researching surgeons. And they ended up going to the one I suggested. I think it was a fine outcome, if FFS was the goal.
Thank god I never got it though and once I realized I was living in fantasy land I aborted my transition. If I got FFS I would have been well and truly fucked.
I lost touch with that person.
But its also not my fault that they pursued it faster than myself and ended up pulling the trigger when I did not.
I came out as gay and found it difficult to integrate back into straight culture when I wanted to. Don't label yourself. If you want to dip into pussy, do it.
Turns out I actually like women and straight sex a lot. But I had avoided it in my teens and early 20s.
The problem is that once the child gets sucked into trans ideology online, the parents become oppositional figures.
Similar to porn consumption and other bad online habits, parents can quickly lose control of the situation.
Ultimately how your children turn out is PRIMARILY the result of the child's parents.
But the bad ideas trying to penetrate your childrens brains are growing by the day online. In the past without the internet, it was easier to guide your children through life, shielding them from delirious outside influence. Perhaps the biggest concern was hanging out with the wrong crown or degenerate family members (abuse ect).
Now they have to worry that their child will stumble across a tumblr page or see a tiktok glorifying niche identities and experiences, how do you account for that?
Most parents are not equipped to mold their children to resist these online influences, which is why you see so many socially dysfunctional young people these days. They have been left to the wolves (the internet and its myriad of influences) and left to create their own identities.
My own experience is that this can happen even in an accepting environment.
As a kid who was not-straight but did not display feminine mannerisms, I still failed to accept myself, and sought out escapism to chase some version of normal.
Choosing escapism, thinking there was some other special life out there, drove my decisions.
Regardless of how accepting society is of gay people, this phenomenon will still trap certain types of people that should not have gone down the road.
Theres also a never ending supply of fake success stories online and very few reality checks. Always another mental carrot. For many it really takes having a more experienced trans friend shake some sense into them to realize their "transition" is exactly what it feels like, a never-ending nightmare of being a social weirdo outcast freak, and that they are "transitioning" into a "trans" not a woman or a "girl" (love when old men say they are becoming a "girl" totally not creepy and weird).
Especially about passing, I have not seen such intense and incredible delusion about passing as when it comes to MtFs. It is incredible the lengths that MtFs will go to to convince themselves that they pass when they do not.
Ya, I am pissed that being an intelligent person, I still got sucked into this. The desire to make things "fit" and have some secret reason to explained x,y,z, failings in your life is powerful. And trans cult online tard groups (they are so fing stupid once you are through the other end) fuel the alice in wonderland tunnel vision so much until you are trapped on your path, and the sad thing is you are the one who built the mental trap for yourself, that you "can't go back" and that what you are seeking is just around the corner.