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Based on the provided comments, there are no serious red flags indicating this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a detransitioner/desister.
The comments display a high degree of internal consistency, personal investment, and a coherent, if highly passionate, worldview. The user frequently references their own past experiences (e.g., being a tomboy, self-binding) and their current life (e.g., being a parent, their age) in a way that builds a believable personal narrative. The tone is consistently argumentative and forceful, which aligns with the note that detransitioners can be "very passionate and pissed off." There is no evidence of automated posting or scripted responses. The account appears to be a genuine, strongly opinionated individual.
About me
I was a tomboy who felt deep discomfort with my body during puberty, especially when my breasts developed. I now see that my struggle was with low self-esteem and societal pressures, not with being born the wrong sex. I believe transitioning is an unhealthy escape from dealing with that root pain. Through time and real therapy, I learned to love myself as a woman who is simply masculine. I am now a happy, confident cis woman, and I regret that so many young people are being encouraged down a path of permanent medicalization instead of toward self-acceptance.
My detransition story
My journey with this whole transgender thing is complicated, but it all comes back to one simple fact: you can't change your birth sex. I was born female and I will die female. No amount of hormones or surgery can ever change that. It’s a biological reality.
When I was younger, I went through a period of really disliking my body, especially when I developed large breasts during puberty. I felt uncomfortable and tried to hide them with baggy clothes and boys' t-shirts. I was a huge tomboy—I rode dirt bikes, climbed trees, did physical labor. Looking back, I understand now that these feelings of discomfort and confusion about where I fit in are a normal part of growing up for almost everyone. It’s puberty. Your hormones are going crazy, your brain is developing, and it’s a confusing time. But today, those same feelings are immediately labeled as "dysphoria" and people are told the solution is to change their body.
I never believed that "dysphoria" meant I was supposed to be a boy. I knew I was a girl who was uncomfortable with the attention my body brought and the stereotypes pushed on me. I see now that I was struggling with low self-esteem and was influenced by the misogyny around me. The idea that a female can't be masculine is regressive. I think transgender ideology is, at its core, a new form of conversion therapy that erases butch women and feminine men, pushing them towards medicalization instead of self-acceptance.
I see transitioning as an unhealthy coping mechanism, similar to drug addiction, alcoholism, or anorexia. It’s a way to escape emotional pain, trauma, depression, or anxiety rather than dealing with the root causes. The initial "euphoria" people feel is temporary, like the excitement of getting a new puppy, but eventually, the reality of being a lifelong medical patient sets in. The drugs have serious health risks, and the surgeries are amputations of healthy tissue. It’s self-harm disguised as self-love.
My own path didn't involve medically transitioning. For me, the answer was time, maturity, and real talk therapy—not gender-affirming care. I needed to learn self-love and acceptance. I formed my identity through my experiences, my hobbies, and my passions—being an athlete, an animal lover, an academic. Identities are formed, not chosen off a shelf. I am a cis woman, comfortable now in my own skin, somewhere in the middle of the masculinity/femininity spectrum. The challenges of learning to accept my body prepared me for bigger life challenges later on.
I have deep regrets about the current trend of encouraging young people to transition. I feel a sadness for the young women especially who are being sold a lie that will leave them with a lifetime of medical issues and, for many, profound regret. The key is to wait until your brain is fully developed in your mid-to-late twenties before making any permanent decisions. If you still want to transition then, you have decades to live that way. But if you do it as a teenager and regret it, you have a lifetime of regret ahead.
I believe in being a critical thinker. I’m not afraid of labels like "TERF" because I believe in asking hard questions. True compassion is telling someone the truth, even when it's difficult, not just affirming a dangerous path. My advice to anyone questioning is to step away from trans-related online spaces, find a competent therapist who will challenge you, and focus on building a life filled with interests and passions beyond gender. Your value doesn't come from your appearance; it comes from who you are.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my reflections:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Puberty (exact age not specified) | Experienced discomfort with my developing body, particularly my large breasts. Felt like a normal part of growing up, not a sign of being trans. |
| Childhood/Teen Years | Was a tomboy. Enjoyed activities like riding dirt bikes, climbing trees, and sports. Understood this as a personal preference, not a male identity. |
| Young Adulthood (age not specified) | Through time and maturity, came to accept and love myself as a cis woman. Recognized that my earlier discomfort was related to societal pressures and normal puberty struggles. |
| Present (age not specified) | Now happily living as a cis woman, grateful I did not medically transition. I share my perspective to encourage others to seek self-acceptance over body modification. |
Top Comments by /u/bo1555:
This is beyond disgusting to put toddlers and young children into these fucked up stereotyped boxes and then make them believe they need to hormonally disfigure and amputate their perfectly healthy bodies to be something other than what they were born as. It is heartbreaking.
Why are we doing this to our kids?
I was a tomboy. I’m sure I would have suffered a transition if I were a child now. 😢
You look male to me.
I also encourage you to worry less about appearance. Start focusing on hobbies and interests. A haircut does not define a person. Your personality... hobbies, interests, friendships etc is what creates a fulfilling life.
Those are the reasons people will want to get to know you... not whether or not you have a good haircut.
That’s because it is 100% conversion therapy.
The logic of encouraging kids (especially LGB kids) to break thru sexist gender roles.... and then tell them they are born wrong and should engage and total body destruction BECAUSE they broke those gender roles... is INSANE!!!!
It’s like setting the speed limit at 65 miles per hour and then arresting everyone... for going 65mph. WTF???
There is no logic, no common sense, and no reason to any part trans ideology.
Tomboy and Butch women are amazing and Badass! In my eyes, they get the best of both worlds.... they get this privilege of being badass Females AND busting the glass ceiling of stupid gender roles.
Sounds like you are completely immersed in stereotypes.
Birthsex can not be changed. It is impossible.
Birthsex is not a spectrum. But stereotypes of masculinity and femininity are a spectrum.
Females can and DO have short hair, ride motorcycles, be athletes, wear baggy clothes, and be auto mechanics if they want to.
There is no wrong way to be a woman.
This idea that females need to choose between looking like kim Kardashian or “be male” (which is impossible) ...is ridiculous.
Riding motorcycles is feminine if a female is doing it. Period.
I’m female and don’t look like kim k. I wear baggy t-shirts, jeans, and flip flops every single day (bought from the Target plus size section).
My identity isn’t jeans and t-shirts from the target plus size section.
I work hard, take care of my family, help out in my community, enjoy kayaking. I work to be a good person and valuable member of society. These are the things that make me... me
NOT the clothes I wear... or “my presentation”.
Identities are not picked off of a fully stocked “identity shelf” like a loaf of bread in a grocery store
Identities are FORMED over time... from living life and having experiences..., NOT chosen like a spy movie alias. Spy movies are NOT REAL.
You do realize that there is nothing wrong with your body, right? It is young and healthy and works exactly as it supposed to.
So you have to ask yourself... is taking synthetic hormones and getting amputations of your perfectly healthy body.... which destroy it internally and externally...., making yourself a medical patient for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.... worth it? Just so you can outwardly look kind-of sort-of somewhat male-ish?
It’s a high price to pay and a massive decision to make.
OR.... you could deal with your mental heath and figure out why there is such self hatred for who you are now.
In my opinion, transgenderism is a maladaptive coping mechanism to deal with pain, emotional traumas, and mental health issues. It’s the same as drug addiction, alcoholism, cutting, and anorexia etc.
They are all extremely unhealthy coping mechanisms to escape... painful experiences, reality, and life.
Just become a new person! That will fix everything..., except it doesn’t. The emotional traumas are still there waiting to be dealt with.
I would find a real therapist (not gender therapy) that challenges you and really helps you think this thru n a HEALTHY way. Try DBT therapy.
Look at it this way..., if you wait until you are 25-30 (when your brain is fully matured).., you still have 60 years to live as you want.
But if you regret it..., you have to live with that regret for 65 years or longer (the rest of your life).
Birth sex can NOT be changed.... EVER. It’s impossible
If you are born female, you will die female.
Birthsex is NOT a spectrum.... but feminine and masculine stereotypes are a spectrum.
That means that a female can have short hair, ride motorcycles, dress as masculine as she wants, and be an auto mechanic.., and STILL BE FEMALE!!
Have young people not heard of butch women???
Basing your entire life off of outdated regressive misogynistic stereotypes of what “society” says woman should be is insane. More than that.... it’s an incredibly inauthentic way to live a life.
Say this out loud so they can hear it all the way in the back and repeat it daily..., FUCK STEREOTYPES!!
This idea that females need to look like a Kardashian or we must be “born in the wrong body” and are actually male is ludicrous.
So... Kardashian look alike or male... that our choice???! NO!! Fuck that!
It’s impossible to be male, you understand that right?
You can take drugs that will damage your body and make you a medical patient for the REST OF YOUR LIFE... and you can amputate your perfectly heathy body parts forever changing youself.... but for what end???
What is the end goal? You won’t be male.. You may contort your image to look somewhat like something that resembles male..., but you won’t BE male.
Young people think they can just pick identities off of fully stocked “identity shelves” like a loaf of bread in a grocery store
That’s not how it works.
Identities are FORMED over time thru living life and having interests and passions. They are NOT just “chosen” like an alias in a spy movie. Spy movies are just movies... they are NOT real life.
How do you like to spend your time? If you play sports, “athlete” becomes a part of your identity. If you ride horses, “horse girl” becomes another part of your identity, If you are a painter, “artist” can become another part of your identity etc.
You build an identity and sense of self over time.
And clothing choices and hairstyle choices are just a personal style. I wear jeans, Target t-shirts (from the plus size section), and flip flops every single day.
My identity is not jeans and target t-shirts from the plus size section. And your identity is not make up, dresses, and long hair. Those things are just preferences in personal style.
99.9999% of all people are a happy mix of femininity and masculinity. So I think you are normal.
Don’t give in to the misogyny of stereotypes.
Yes, the trans ideology pushes the idea that if you “catch it early” you have the best chance of saving them from being a suicidal teen.
So these poor indoctrinated parents sit and obsessively watch for that moment their toddler daughter reaches for a matchbox car or a fire truck... or their son plays with a pink car or doll stroller.... and they go..., “OH NO.... MY KID IS TRANS.... and we MUST act now or they will be suicidal teenagers”.
When my daughter was a toddler.... autism diagnosis was all the rage. It was on the news every night.... causes, finding treatment, growing number of cases etc.
They also said... “catch it early” and the early treatment will help.
I, along with my other new mom friends would obsessively watch for that one moment when our toddler didn’t make eye contact or didn’t return a smile. It was stupid. But new moms can be worriers.
But even if there were a “sign” here and there.... that didn’t mean they were autistic. All of my kids had “signs” of autism. The key was consistency of symptoms.
And treatment didn’t involve changing who they are. It was maybe some physical therapy but nothing that would damage them or change them like the idea of pretending your boy is a girl.... which changes EVERYTHING!!!
Those who likely have “consistent” tendencies will likely grow up to be happy homosexuals. No body destruction required.
I do not understand the level of indoctrination that has to happen to try to convince your own child that He is a girl or She is really a boy.., because they liked the “wrong” kind of toy or clothes. WTF?!?
It’s literally like a twisted horror novel.
Old saying that is 100% true... Misery loves company.
No matter how sad, and awful, and depressed someone is... they will go to great lengths to invite others into their world and scheme and lie to get them to be miserable and depressed with them. It’s a self destruction co-dependency.
It’s like the strung out drug addict inviting you to “have fun” and “join the party” by shooting “just a little” heroine.
It’s a road to misery and they know it. They just don’t want to be there alone. Because if other people were dumb enough to fall for it.. they don’t feel as stupid.
Trans/Queer is like that.
Misery loves company. If you haven’t seen the movie “Leaving Las Vegas” with Nicholas Cage and Elizabeth Shue... I would suggest watching. It deals with this topic.
Transgenderism is an a ideology that is specifically designed to take advantages of very normal feelings every kid experiences during adolescence and puberty.
It’s propaganda meant to confuse people. They would trans everyone if they could.
Just because you relate to some things doesn’t mean you are trans. I used to look at soccer girl memes because they talked a lot about having large thighs and a hard time getting jeans that fit their large thighs.
I have never played soccer a day in my life... but have large thighs and thus trouble fitting into jeans. I related to what they were saying but had never kicked a soccer ball on my life.
I didn’t suddenly think I’m an actual soccer player because I related to a soccer meme.
So relax... you are not trans. They intentionally make those memes relatable to everyone.
YES!!! These words like “.top surgery” and “bottom surgery” are so clearly meant to hide how traumatic and life changing these surgeries actually are.
It requires critical thinking skills to be able to ask questions and not just blindly believe the seductive marketing.
That is the problem with affirmation only model of therapy. Not only do confused vulnerable and mentally unwell people not ask questions.... but they are being ENCOURAGED not to ask questions by the very people who are supposed to help them. It’s beyond tragic.
If someone describes jumping out of an airplane with a “half-chute”..... red flags should spring up and you should ask questions and know what you are about to do... before it’s too late.
I personally refuse to call them “top” or “bottom” Surgery. They are voluntary amputations of perfectly healthy body parts that will change a person’s life FOREVER.
I’m curious to what these amazing women who seem to take so much pride in being women... feel about the female and lesbian erasure that is happening due to transgenderism.
One woman talks with pride about being a woman and wearing men’s clothing. But how would she (or any of them) feel about young lesbians taking drugs and amputating body parts, and not only refusing to call themselves female... but have a deep hatred of themselves for being female.
I don’t know... seems like the pride and self love these women have for their femaleness and butchness just goes against everything “trans” stands for which is to opt out of womanhood.