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About me
I started identifying as a trans guy last year, largely because I hated my breasts and found that losing weight and binding made me look more androgynous. Looking back, I see my gender confusion was mixed up with other issues, like my autism diagnosis as a child and the fact that, as a kid, I once wanted to change my name to a video game character. I have regrets about permanent decisions, like a tattoo I got at 16, which makes me question if young people can really consent to irreversible changes. I've also become uncomfortable with parts of the trans community that deny biological reality. Now, I feel like being transgender might be something I need to fix about myself, and I'm just trying to figure things out without causing more harm.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been confusing, and looking back, I think a lot of it was tied to other issues I was dealing with. I was diagnosed with autism when I was about two years old. As a kid, it was really obvious because I was so socially awkward and didn't know how to act around people or react to things properly. After a ton of therapy, I mostly grew out of the obvious signs, and now I’m not even sure where my autism shows up, except that I don’t socialize much and prefer to be alone.
When I was ten, I went through a phase where I was obsessed with the video game character Ratchet from Ratchet & Clank. I genuinely wanted that to be my name and I told everyone to call me that. I think about that now and I’m glad my parents didn’t take me seriously. If they had, I might be legally named Ratchet today, almost ten years later. It makes me question how seriously we should take the ideas kids have about their identity.
I started identifying as a trans guy last year. A big part of it was that I really hated my breasts. I developed a habit of losing weight because I found that the skinnier I got, the more androgynous I looked. Losing weight, combined with binding from a young age, probably stunted my breast growth, and I actually prefer it that way. I haven't been officially diagnosed with an eating disorder, but I know the way I’m managing my weight isn’t healthy. Part of me feels like being transgender is something that’s wrong with me, something I need to “fix.” I don’t blame anyone for how I feel, but I don’t like the idea of being “woke” or “delusional.” I feel like I’m just a kid trying to figure out what’s right and wrong, and trying to avoid hurting myself.
My views on the trans community have changed a lot. At first, it was tolerable when it was just about people born one sex feeling more comfortable living as the other. But now, with things like neopronouns and people saying they switch genders every other day, or denying biological sex, it feels unreasonable. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells around other trans people because you never know what’s going to offend someone. I’ll still call someone by their preferred pronouns because I don’t want to make people uncomfortable, but I can’t agree that “pronouns have no gender.” They were created to define gender. Just because one person doesn’t mind being misgendered doesn’t change that.
I have regrets about some permanent decisions. I got a tattoo when I was 16, and part of me wishes I never got it. That makes me think about other permanent changes. If minors can’t legally get a tattoo, buy alcohol, or own a firearm because they aren’t considered mature enough, why is it okay for them to make permanent, body-altering decisions about their gender? It doesn’t make sense to me.
Here is a timeline of the main events I can remember:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 2 years old | Diagnosed with autism. |
| 10 years old | Wanted to change my name to "Ratchet" and insisted everyone use it. |
| 16 years old | Got a tattoo, which I now partially regret. |
| 17 years old | Started identifying as a trans guy (FTM) and began binding. |
| 17-18 years old | Developed unhealthy weight loss habits to look more androgynous. |
Top Comments by /u/bulbool123:
The trans community was tolerable to me when it was only about "i was born an x but i feel more comfortable living my life as y" but now you've got unreasonable crap like neopronouns and how you can "switch genders" every monday to thursday and people who are just completely delusional and deny biological sex and reality, whenever i'm around other trans people i feel like i'm walking on eggshells because you just can't know who's offended by what anymore
This isn't transphobic, if minors under 18 can't legally get a tattoo in most places (i got mine at 16 and part of me wishes i never got it) and aren't mature enough to buy alcohol and firearms why should they be able to alter their bodies and make permanent decisions about their bodies?
Tbh, i feel like me being transgender is wrong and this is something that i somehow gotta "fix". I do not blame anyone or anything for that matter for the way i feel, i just don't like the idea of being "woke" or "delusional"
I'm just a kid that's trying to learn what's right and wrong and trying to avoid hurting myself
If someone asks me to call them a she i will, especially irl because i genuinely don't like making people uncomfortable. But you can't tell me that "pronouns have no gender" because they've been created for the very purpose of defining what gender someone is. Just because one doesn't mind being called something that they're not (aka misgendered) doesn't mean that all of a sudden pronouns have no gender
When i was 10 i genuinely wanted to be named "ratchet" (from ratchet and clank, i doubt this game series is still relevant amymore) and told everyone my name was ratchet and insisted on being called that.
Imagine what would've happened if my parents took me seriously, i'd still be ratchet, perhaps even legally almost 10 years later
Tbh i really don't know exactly what are the symptoms of my autism truly are, i was diagnosed at a very young age (around two years old) as a child it was more obvious something was up with me as i was very socially awkward and didn't know how to act in society and react properly to certain things, i eventually grew out of that with a shit ton of therapy and as of right now i have no idea "where" is my autism
Maybe besides not socializing much and preferring to be alone
Actually i haven't but i definitely should. it is a habit that i developed way after i started identifying as ftm, i started that last year actually. part of me makes me think that the skinnier i'll become the more "androgynous" i'll look (losing weight did shrink my breasts with the help of binding at young age and stunting them probably, although i prefer it this way)