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About me
I was a traumatized young girl who was told medical transition was my only option. I was given a high dose of testosterone and had my breasts removed as a teenager, which caused me serious harm. I now see my discomfort was from abuse and shame, not my true self. I've stopped hormones and am rebuilding my life, but I live with permanent changes and grief over what I lost. I regret that I was never offered real therapy for my trauma instead.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is complicated and rooted in pain I didn't understand at the time. I was born female and, looking back, my discomfort wasn't really about gender. It came from being groomed and sexually assaulted by a man when I was younger. I started to associate that abuse with my female body. I felt a lot of shame and fear, and I thought the only way I could be my feminine self and feel safe from male abuse was if I was actually a feminine man. I thought that if I were a gay man, I could be loved by a man without the fear and trauma that came with being a woman in a heterosexual relationship.
I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria, but I now believe the doctors got it wrong. They told me that medical transition was the only treatment and that if I didn't do it, my distress would only get worse and my suicide risk would be high. I wasn't given any other options. I started taking testosterone when I was a teenager. The dose was extremely high for a female body, and it caused me to have violent fantasies and fits of rage that were so bad they interfered with my daily life. My doctors saw this happening and didn't intervene; they just let it continue.
When I was 14, I had top surgery. I didn't see the informed consent paperwork until the day of the surgery, after I had already paid for it. I was a child. I couldn't drive a car or do algebra, but I was expected to understand what it meant to permanently lose the function of my breasts and risk lifelong nerve damage. I wasn't thinking about how I would never be able to breastfeed my future children. I was just a scared kid who was told this was my only choice.
After years on testosterone, I started to realize I had made a mistake. I stopped taking it. My voice has permanently deepened, which is something I still struggle with. I pretty much gave up on singing. I also decided to get breast reconstruction surgery a few years later. At the time, I was overweight and felt my flat chest looked incongruous, but I regret that surgery now. I've since lost 70 pounds and realize I would have been fine without it. The reconstruction left me with a lot of scarring and ruined skin integrity. I like being able to wear dresses and cute bras now, but that's little consolation when I think about the permanent damage. The real grief is the loss of function, which can never be "reconstructed."
Detransitioning has been about rebuilding my life. I started going to the gym a lot, which helped my self-confidence. I also started playing the bass guitar. Dating was hard at first, but I’ve been with my boyfriend for two and a half years now, and he loves me for who I am. He knew me before I had my reconstruction and has always thought I was beautiful. I’ve learned that the grief of what I lost never really goes away, but you can grow around it.
My thoughts on gender have changed completely. I see now that my issues were related to trauma and internalized shame, not an innate identity. I believe transition is often presented as the only solution when there are other ways to address the underlying psychological issues. It just masks the symptoms while causing serious, irreversible harm to your physical health. I am now very concerned about the lack of informed consent, especially for young people.
I do have regrets. I regret that I wasn't given proper therapy to deal with my trauma instead of being fast-tracked to medicalization. I regret the permanent changes to my body, especially my voice and the loss of my breast function. I feel like my health and bodily integrity were sacrificed. The medical professionals who treated me failed in their duty of care.
Here is a timeline of the major events:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). Did not see informed consent forms until the day of the procedure. |
| Teenage Years | Started taking testosterone. Was told it was the only treatment for my diagnosed gender dysphoria. |
| Early 20s | Stopped testosterone after years of use. Experienced negative side effects like rage and violent fantasies while on it. |
| Early 20s | Began the process of detransitioning, socially and medically. |
| Mid 20s | Underwent breast reconstruction surgery, which I later came to regret. |
| Present (Late 20s) | Have been living as a detransitioned woman for several years. Focused on my health, my relationship, and my hobbies like going to the gym and playing bass. |
Top Comments by /u/burnyourbinder:
I was a "gay trans femboy" for a while. it was because I have always been a mostly feminine person, I love women's fashion, but I was traumatized by my earliest romantic/sexual encounters with men and blamed my female body for it happening. I thought the only way I could be feminine and loved by a man was if I was a gay man.
if you don't have that conversation with her and she goes through with it you will never forgive yourself. if she calls you transphobic or whatever that's fine, one day she will see that you're right. you might just save her from further harm. I wish someone had had that conversation with me, and I'll bet you do too.
when I was trans identified I was a "gay femboy trans guy," for me it was because I was running from heterosexual relationship dynamics after being groomed and sexually assaulted by a man. I thought the only way I could be feminine and loved and not abused by a man was if I was a feminine gay man.
a female can't go through "testosterone puberty," there's actually no such thing. MALE puberty is when a boys testicles drop and mature and begin producing various androgens, females cannot go through that. what she is distressed about is the effects of extremely high dose anabolic steroids given to her by a medical professional who did not intervene when the treatment started causing her to have violent fantasies and fits of rage so bad they interfered with her daily life. I can't believe you're blaming her for this.
that's sick. my doctors also didn't interfere even when it was clear the steroids weren't helping but were hurting me. I'm sorry people are blaming you. you were a scared young person trying to make sense of the world; she was a doctor who was supposed to help you, not trying her best to squeeze as much money as possible out of you. my dms are open if you ever need to talk with someone who gets it.
are you using him as a way to avoid acknowledging that that's what you want? I did that a lot before I detransitioned, I blamed stopping testosterone on everything but the thoughts id been repressing about wanting to be a woman and a mother one day. if it was for my family or for my boyfriend it wouldn't be because I had made a mistake. just a thought.
I think the gap isn't as big as it seems, though it definitely exists. the reasons for it are complicated, I think it's a combination of the fact that young women and girls are more susceptible to social contagion, and that the issues that lead women and girls to experience gender dysphoria are likely a bit more commonplace than vice versa. the big ones for women seem to be sexual objectification/trauma, mental illness, and same sex attraction, while for men it seems to mostly be porn addiction/autogynephilia, same sex attraction (which is more common in women than men), and lack of success with the gender they're attracted to.
but I think the large gap in women vs men speaking publicly about it can be accredited to men being generally less comfortable sharing their inner feelings and experiences, as well as the way it is perceived when they do. men don't support other men the way women support other women, men who are too open about their feelings get looked down on and seen as weak. feeling weak and unmasculine is an underlying thread in the reasons that lead males to experience gender dysphoria and desire to transition in my observation, so it makes sense why they would want to avoid this.
early menopause can cause dementia in females because estrogen plays a crucial role in brain health and protects against cognitive decline. breast tissue serves important hormonal regulatory purposes and mastectomies can increase risk of early menopause. exogenous testosterone can also induce endocrine issues.
the modern detrans community focuses too much on appearance imo. like yes, appearance is important and being able to visibly see what was done to you is hard. but that DOES NOT mean that changing your appearance undoes what happened. your health and bodily integrity are the most important thing in the world. they're all you have really, they're what truly makes the difference between a good life and a bad one. the problem with the gender medicine industry is not that they're making kids ugly, it's that they're ruining their health.
menopause is when your ovaries stop producing estrogen, so technically you're already in menopause. it doesn't have much to do with what hormone is dominant in your system. if you went on estrogen it would likely help prevent these issues, because they are mostly caused by lack of estrogen in the system. the issues aren't caused by detransition, they're caused by the initial transition.