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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account does not show clear red flags of being inauthentic. The user's activity and language are consistent with a genuine detransitioner.
Key observations:
- Personal Narrative: The user shares a detailed, consistent, and plausible personal history of being a lesbian who transitioned to male (FTM) for ten years, took testosterone, and then detransitioned. They discuss specific physical and psychological effects.
- Engaged Conversationalist: The comments are responsive to other users' specific situations, offering tailored advice, asking follow-up questions, and showing empathy. This is complex behavior for a bot to replicate consistently.
- Passionate but Human Tone: The user holds strong, critical opinions about transition, which aligns with your note that detransitioners can be "passionate and pissed off." The tone varies from supportive to analytical to firm, which is normal for a real person engaged in emotional topics.
Conclusion: The account appears authentic. The comments reflect the nuanced perspective of someone who has lived the experience they describe.
About me
I was born female and lived as a man for ten years after starting testosterone and having surgery at 19. My transition was driven by deep depression, internalized homophobia from my conservative upbringing, and a fear of living as a masculine lesbian. I realized my dysphoria wasn't innate but came from trauma and discomfort with how society treats women. After stopping testosterone seven months ago, my mental health has improved and I no longer experience dysphoria. I'm now focused on healing and helping others by sharing my story.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and difficult one, and it took me a decade to finally understand what was really going on with me. I was born female and I lived as a trans man for ten years. I started testosterone when I was 19 and I got top surgery. I was able to pass pretty well, mostly because I grew a beard.
Looking back, I now see that my reasons for transitioning were complicated and rooted in a lot of pain. I was deeply depressed, even suicidal, before I ever thought I was trans. I think I latched onto the trans identity because it gave me an easy explanation for why I felt so terrible; it was something to project all my problems onto.
A huge part of it was internalized homophobia. I didn't hate gay people, but growing up Catholic and conservative in the 90s and 00s, I had absorbed a lot of negative ideas about what life as a masculine lesbian would be like. I didn't want to be a lesbian; I didn't want to be a woman at all. I also had a deep sense of being unsafe in my body as a female, which pushed me further toward wanting to be male.
I was always mainly attracted to women. When I was on testosterone, my sex drive went way up and I went through a phase of hooking up with men. It felt "affirming" for my masculinity at the time. Later, I mostly dated other transmasculine people, which made me look like a gay man even though I was really just a lesbian. That was actually a big part of what finally woke me up and made me start to detransition.
I don't believe "being trans" is a real, innate thing anymore. I believe gender dysphoria is a mental problem, and treating it with medical transition is like treating someone who wants to amputate a healthy limb—it doesn't solve the underlying issue. For me, that underlying issue was a messy combination of internalized misogyny, internalized homophobia, and a deep discomfort that started in puberty. I had to break down what my "dysphoria" actually was. It wasn't one big thing. I realized I disliked my hips because I hated how people sexualized me. I disliked my big feet because they weren't "attractive." By breaking it down, I could work on each issue individually.
I stopped testosterone about seven months ago. The first couple of months were really, really hard, but my mental health has slowly been improving. I no longer have dysphoria, which is something I never thought would be possible after having it since puberty. What helped me the most was meditation, especially guided meditation, and yoga. Getting grounded in my body was so important. Journaling everything out also helped me make sense of all my thoughts and feelings.
I do have some regrets about transitioning. I regret the permanent changes to my body, and I believe the whole system is medical malpractice that hurts gay and gender-nonconforming people the most. But I don't dwell on regret. I'm focused on moving forward and healing.
My thoughts on gender are simple now: "Woman" is not a gender, it's a sex. It's a binary, either-or situation, and I am female. I'm not "nothing"; I'm a person who deserves respect, safety, and love no matter what I look like. My goal now is to help others by sharing my story and encouraging them to sit with themselves, disconnect from the internet, and really dig deep to figure out the why behind their feelings.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 19 | Had top surgery. |
| 29 | Stopped testosterone and began detransition. |
| 29 (7 months later) | Feeling mentally better, no longer experiencing dysphoria. |
Top Comments by /u/butchpeace123:
I'm not young enough to comment on the kids these days. But transition was always a trend, in the sense that it's a system of belief that spreads because people see themselves in it and think it will give them a better life.
Used to just be gays and lesbians with issues, but the new wave is mostly heterosexuals. For these women, the cause is clear. Misogyny, trauma, and mental illness/neurodivergence are behind it.
I used to be “transmed” and had similar views. Now I know the whole story, the history of transition, and I don’t believe that gender dysphoria can be treated with transition anymore.
I know this probably sounds like a conservative talking point to someone in your position (been there) but I genuinely believe that treating gender dysphoria with medical transition is the same as treating BIID with limb amputation.
It’s a mental problem that our society has created a medical “solution” for, because they’re too lazy or too afraid of being cancelled to try to understand the real roots of this condition for the individual.
I was depressed to the point of being suicidal for other reasons before “realizing” I was trans.
I agree with your opinion that the trans identity becomes something to project all your problems onto. Because it gives you an easy explanation for why you feel so bad.
I’m gonna draw attention to your first paragraph where you say you “want to be a man” but don’t want to be seen as someone who’s “in touch with his feminine side”.
Forget everything else and think about that for a bit. Why don’t you want to be a feminine man?
I realized that “being trans” isn’t a real thing. It isn’t something you’re born with, dysphoria isn’t innate, and it can go away.
If you’re not sure about detransition, that means you’re not sure about transition. And if that’s the case, you definitely shouldn’t be on cross-sex hormones.
They’re insecure about transition and need to defend it as “the only cure” in order to sleep at night. Good for you, that you didn’t buy into it!
Do have ideas as to why you’re uncomfortable with the masculine parts of yourself? As someone coming at it from the opposite direction, I eventually learned how to accept the feminine aspects of myself, and I think that’s important.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t express yourself the way you want, but if you have an issue with the way your body naturally exists, I personally think that’s something to work on.
If a reduction will improve your quality of life, you have every right to get it.
However, I think you should consider how other people will feel about your chest. Especially without nipples, no offense, but you will look like someone who had surgery for breast cancer. Is that really what you want when it comes to dating?
I’m sorry the doctors and the adults in your life didn’t protect you from this. Unfortunately this story is all too common, and you’re right that there is no “true trans”. Only people who transition, for one reason or another.
The whole thing is medical malpractice, and the people it hurts the most are those of who grew up gay or GNC. It’s extremely common for feminine boys and masculine girls to grow up thinking they were supposed to be the other gender. And we’re the ones who have been transitioning in the greatest numbers.
I hope now that the culture is changing a bit and becoming more accepting and supportive of detransitioners, that it will be easier for people to talk openly about their experiences.
Unfortunately I think there’s going to be a lot of cases where people need a lot of mental health help and community support in the future, and I hope communities like this can provide that for people.
Yeah, sexual talk like that is not normal. Ask your other coworkers if she’s talking like that to them too. Chances are they’re also uncomfortable with it and will back you up if you want to go to HR.
Autism and ADHD are not an excuse for talking about your sex life in detail.