This story is from the comments by /u/butchpeace725 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the comments provided, this user account appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a fake persona. The comments show:
- Personal, consistent narrative: The user shares a detailed and emotionally congruent story of transitioning (starting T in 2013), detransitioning due to health concerns and personal realizations, and the ongoing psychological process.
- Nuanced and varied engagement: They offer a wide range of responses—providing emotional support, practical advice (e.g., IPL devices), discussing medical concerns, and exploring feminist theory—which is typical of a genuine, invested individual.
- Appropriate passion: The strong language and criticism of "trans ideology" and medical practices are consistent with the lived experience of a detransitioner who feels harmed, as per the prompt's guidance.
The account exhibits the patterns of a real person who is deeply involved in the detrans community.
About me
I started identifying as male because I felt deep shame about my female body from my strict religious upbringing and how society treated me. I took testosterone and had surgery, which felt good for a while until it caused serious, unexpected health problems that forced me to stop. I realized my discomfort wasn't about being female, but was a reaction to trauma and the way women are mistreated. I now see that trying to change my sex was a mask and I'm privately navigating my way back to accepting myself as a woman. My biggest lesson is that we need to understand the root of our pain instead of medicalizing it.
My detransition story
My journey into transition started with a deep discomfort that I didn't understand. I was raised in a strict Catholic household, and I grew up feeling ashamed of my body and its sexual aspects. I was treated as if I were stupid, overly emotional, and hysterical just for being a girl. All of this played a huge role in me starting to identify as male. I thought my fear of being seen as female and feeling vulnerable in public was "dysphoria," but now I recognize it for what it was: a reaction to how I was treated and my religious trauma.
I started testosterone in 2013 when I was 22 years old. At the time, the doctors didn't know much about the long-term effects, and I bought into the idea that it was safe and that almost all trans people were happy with their decisions. For a while, it felt good. I didn't feel like shit about myself anymore, and that was nice. I liked some of the changes, like having a flat chest—it was more convenient than the large breasts I had before. I even got top surgery, which I don't hate from an aesthetic standpoint.
But eventually, testosterone started giving me serious health problems. I was never fully informed about the risks. They told me my health risks would just be the same as a cis man's, but that isn't true. Females on testosterone have unique health risks. I developed issues that made me stop. That was the beginning of the end for me. I realized that no one's consent to this process is truly informed because we still don't know everything these hormones do long-term.
Stopping testosterone forced me to tackle the psychological side of things. I had to figure out why I did this in the first place. I realized that a lot of my feelings came from how society treats women, especially masculine women. Living as a man made me invisible in public; no one stared, I was more respected, and people took me more seriously. But it always felt like a mask. I became invisible to my own dating pool—lesbian and bisexual women. It wasn't me.
I’ve come to see modern gender theory as bullshit. We are either male or female, and which one you're born as affects every aspect of your life. Trying to change it doesn't actually change much at all. I now view "gender" as the social roles assigned to your sex. Your socialized gender never really changes, even if you try to later in life.
I do regret transitioning because of the medical problems it caused me. I'm not against it out of hatred for trans people; I'm against it because it's genuinely bad for people's health. I know from experience that there are other ways to understand and treat dysphoria as a mental health condition. A big part of my healing has been separating what I felt from the concept of "dysphoria." For example, I hate how wide my hips are. That's not dysphoria; it's because I wish I had a more androgynous body and because of how people treated me when I was younger. We have to get to the bottom of each feeling instead of lumping it all under one category.
I also went through a very dark time mentally after stopping T, which culminated in daily panic attacks. I had what I’d call a spiritual experience one day while using THC gummies. It felt like everything became meaningful in a new way, and I felt a connection to the people around me, especially my parents. It gave me a sense of rebirth and the knowledge that I’d be okay no matter what.
Now, I’m slowly going through a private detransition process. It's tricky and scary as an adult who lived as a man for a decade, but I'm taking it one step at a time. A huge part of this is mentally sorting out my feelings and learning to accept myself. I’m focusing on body neutrality—I don't have to love my body, but I don't have to hate it either.
I believe most trans people will eventually consider detransition or come to regret their choices, even if it takes 30 years. We were all just trying to find ourselves, but we were often young and didn't understand what we were getting into. I primarily blame the doctors and the trans community for perpetuating these ideas without giving us the full picture.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 22 | Started testosterone (2013) |
| 22 | Got top surgery |
| 32 | Stopped testosterone due to serious health complications (2023) |
| 32 | Began the process of detransition |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/butchpeace725:
I'm so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, testosterone does increase the risk of various health problems including cardiac-related issues and blood clots. There's no way to say for certain that there wasn't another cause, but it was likely the testosterone.
I sympathize with the fact that T helps with your POTS symptoms, but I personally don't think you should be risking your health. If you need medication for POTS, I would try another option. And yes, taper off T slowly!
Frankly, I think there should be a care ban for minors. Kids simply don't know enough about themselves yet to make a decision like this.
Most also desist by adulthood.
We also don't know enough about the longterm outcomes of medical transition to even say that it's safe for adults.
I think it's important to make the distinction that it isn't usually a sexual thing for these women. Or at least not purely a sexual thing. A lot of it stems from being treated as inferior to males as women, leading to them seeking to be in a relationship with a male where they're seen as an equal.
I completely get where you're coming from. There's so little that these "professionals" actually understand about the psychology of trans people, and the factors that cause us to seek transition in the first place. Transition is medical malpractice.
Before I decided to detransition, this was the headspace I was in too. I accept that I'm a female living as a male, because that is the truth. That is the biological reality.
But testosterone was giving me health problems, so I stopped it. And then I started tackling the psychological side. Figuring out why I did this in the first place, and realizing that there was another option for dealing with my feelings, but I was young then and didn't know. This all led me to a very dark place psychologically. And that's what eventually led to me considering detransition.
No matter what choices you make, take care of your body and your mind. Be kind and gentle towards yourself. No matter how negatively you feel towards yourself, you still matter. And you can get better!
No one's consent is informed. Because we don't know everything that hormones do to people over the long run. And what we do know is not good.
I got on T in 2013, when they knew even less. If I had known then what they know now, I wouldn't have gone on it.
The statistics are unreliable and not applicable to the current situation in countries with informed consent. The actual detrans rate is much higher than 1%. We don't have data to back that up, but they can't actually back up 1% either.
So you're not crazy. Taking a break from the internet is always a good idea to help you figure things out and get into a healthier mindset! Good luck!
I'm sorry this happened. Online spaces can be really toxic, and a lot of people really don't think before they say things online.
Your life is important, and the journey you've been through is really so valuable in this world. Just because not everyone understands it, and people will make snap judgements about you, that doesn't mean anything about who you are!
I'm in a similar position, very masculine looking, and I'm sure the same thing would happen to me. But I know that it's temporary. And I'm focusing on taking care of myself and my own mental health. If you need a community of people to talk to, I recommend the detrans discord server. Everyone is very nice and welcoming!
See this is why modern gender theory is fucking bullshit. It doesn't matter how someone "identifies", we are either male or female.
Which one we we're born as does absolutely affect every aspect of our life. Trying to change it doesn't actually change much at all.
No offense but yeah I often feel like trans women come at "womanhood" from a privileged perspective. On the other hand, trans women who don't pass are often at high risk of discrimination and mistreatment. So it really depends on the person. Which is why it's so hard to call out things like misogyny and privilege in the trans community. It's so individual.
This is the problem with right wing coverage of detransitioners. It's their fault people are transitioning in the first place. They can't even say the word "gay" on air. While I'm glad someone is at least mentioning us in mainstream media, it's not all that helpful to only center the conversation around "beautiful heterosexual girls losing their breasts and never having kids".