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Reddit user /u/celebritymonkey's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 18 -> Detransitioned: 20
female
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
influenced online
got top surgery
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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious

Based on the provided comments, the account does not show serious red flags for being inauthentic.

The comments reflect a consistent, nuanced perspective on gender questioning, regret, and medical transition. The user shares personal doubts and fears, offers balanced advice that considers both action and inaction, and references their own family history. The tone is passionate but thoughtful, which is consistent with a genuine individual engaged with this difficult topic. There are no indicators of bot-like behavior or a fabricated persona.

About me

I spent years questioning my gender, going back and forth about whether testosterone or top surgery was right for me. I was excited about some changes but terrified of making a permanent decision I might regret, especially with my family's history of surgical complications. I realized I had to stop basing my identity on online trends and instead sit alone with my feelings. Now, I've decided against any medical interventions for the time being to focus on my mental health. I'm learning that it's okay to not have all the answers and that the goal is just to be myself.

My detransition story

My whole journey with gender has been a long process of trying to figure out who I am, and a lot of that involved questioning whether medical transition was the right path for me. I spent a lot of time feeling unsure and going back and forth in my head.

I regularly questioned my gender identity and whether starting testosterone was for me. I would get excited about the changes it would bring, like a deeper voice, but my biggest fear was always committing to something I might regret later. I realized that these decisions are so personal that no one else can really give me the answers; it’s all about what you feel on the inside.

When it came to top surgery, I thought about it a lot. I hated how having breasts made my body feel more feminine, and that caused me a lot of discomfort. I saw that some women who detransitioned had mastectomies and were still women, and that their small chests didn't make them any less female. For me, the idea of surgery was about relieving that specific dysphoria. I tried to be really careful and think it through. I made pros and cons lists, asking myself if I could live with the on-again, off-again feeling forever. I wondered if regretting getting the surgery would be worse than regretting not getting it and just living with the discomfort. I also had serious health concerns because people in my family have had dangerous post-surgery complications, so I had to ask myself if the risk was worth the reward.

A big part of my thinking was influenced by what I saw online. I realized that basing my identity on online discourse was a bad idea. The advice I kept giving myself, and others, was to delete social media and just go outside to be alone with my thoughts. I needed to sit with my feelings and not rush. I believed the best way to minimize regret was to make well-informed, healthy choices, to really know the risks and effects of everything, and to work on my mental health.

I don't think I have all the answers even now. I believe in just being yourself, and you don't have to figure everything out right away. It's okay to keep experimenting and doing what feels right in your heart. For a while, I thought maybe I could be a transmasculine person who still identified as a lesbian, because that didn't seem abnormal to me. But ultimately, I learned that the only solution is to minimize regret, not to try and force a specific outcome.

Here is a timeline of the main events as I remember them:

Age Event
18 Started to regularly question my gender identity and consider starting testosterone.
19 Seriously researched top surgery, weighing the pros and cons due to family history of surgical complications.
20 Decided against medical intervention for now, focusing instead on improving my mental health and distancing from online influences.

Top Comments by /u/celebritymonkey:

5 comments • Posting since August 19, 2022
Reddit user celebritymonkey (questioning own gender transition) comments on detransitioner Isaac Uncooked, suggesting his behavior may be linked to an unspecified Cluster B personality disorder.
6 pointsOct 20, 2022
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He stated in his reasons for gender dysphoria video that he is Cluster B if I watched correctly, but didn't seem to state which disorder. It could just be a flair up of that. (flare?). Not an excuse, but definitely a reason as to why another comment called him unhinged and said he actively disrespects people.

Reddit user celebritymonkey (questioning own gender transition) advises a user struggling with identity to stop performing for others, be themselves, and take a break from online discourse.
5 pointsAug 19, 2022
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You don't seem to regret anything medical, which is a sign of something. You DO seem to regret making yourself seem like something you're not in order to be more palatable to those you want to attract/are attracted to. Just be yourself. You still don't have to figure it all out right now, just keep experimenting and doing what you feel is right in your heart. There are plently of transmasculine/FTMS who still cling to the lesbian label, it isn't completely abnormal. Nobody really gives a shit and if you're basing your identity on online discourse, I would really consider deleting all social media you have and just going outside and being alone with your thoughts. Just sit on things for a while and try to see how you feel with time. Try out new things, old things, new ways of doing old things. Whatever you feel in your heart.

Reddit user celebritymonkey (questioning own gender transition) advises on managing chest dysphoria, suggesting a pros and cons list for mastectomy and emphasizing well-informed, healthy choices.
5 pointsOct 20, 2022
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The best way to minimize regret, I have seen, is to make well-informed, forward thinking, healthy choices. Know the risks and effects of everything, think about the future, and work on your mental and physical health as much as possible. There are women who have desisted and have no chests, or just some women with AA or A chests. This does not make them any less women, and you can do what you feel to do. I would heavily consider mastectomy if the dysphoria is so bad. You say that it helps with dysphoria and not caring about pronouns, but state that it makes your body more feminine which you hate, which is dysphoria. Just take time to think things through and do what you feel is best in your heart. Make a pros and cons list of getting a mastectomy, and a pros and cons list of not getting one. Could you live with this on-again, off-again feeling forever? What if it was consistent? Would you be able to handle it? Would it be easier to get the surgery? What if you didn't like the results? Is dissatisfaction due to action worse than living with it now, due to inaction? Would you be able to cope if you later learned you liked your breasts after all? These are things to consider.

Reddit user celebritymonkey (questioning own gender transition) explains their internal conflict over starting testosterone, stating their only fear is committing to something they may regret and that the decision is a personal one based on internal feelings.
4 pointsAug 19, 2022
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I regularly question my gender identity and if starting testosterone is for me, but when I get excited about changes that it will bring, I realize my only fear is committing to something I may regret. It's all what you feel on the inside. Other people won't really have the answers for something so personal.

Reddit user celebritymonkey (questioning own gender transition) discusses the risk of chest surgery complications and questions if the reward is worth it, citing a family history of post-surgery deaths.
3 pointsOct 20, 2022
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The only solution is to minimize regret rather minimizing whatever outcome you happen to be. I also question if I should get this procedure, as many people in my family have been shown to die for post-surgery complications. Is the risk worth the reward, etc. I got some of my points from this video.