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About me
I developed a powerful sexual fetish about being a woman in my early twenties, which was fueled by my OCD and heavy porn use. I became convinced these intense, drug-fueled fantasies were my true identity, but I eventually saw it as a selfish path that would only make my life harder. I chose to stop, found God, and committed to quitting porn and masturbation. After about a year of abstinence, the desires to be a woman faded almost completely. I now have no regrets about not transitioning and believe in living according to my biological reality.
My detransition story
My journey started in my early twenties, when I became deeply obsessed with the idea of being a woman. This wasn't about a deep-seated identity; it was a powerful sexual fetish that took over my life. It began with an interest in crossdressing and quickly escalated through pornography, specifically the "sissy" genre and gender-swap captions. This porn reinforced harmful ideas, telling me that if I was attracted to anything feminine, I must not be a real man and should embrace being emasculated. It was a form of operant conditioning that bent my sexuality.
My OCD played a huge role, making it easy for me to obsess and fall into these compulsive patterns. The fantasies became more and more extreme, especially when I was using drugs, to the point where I was having vivid fantasies of having a female body while I masturbated. For a long time, this felt like my truth. I believed the powerful desire to be a woman was who I really was.
But I reached a point where I became deeply dissatisfied. I saw where this selfish, fetishistic path was leading me, and I knew my life was going to get way harder if I went through with a medical transition. I realized it wouldn't be the key to making my mental problems go away; it would likely do the opposite. I needed to deal with the root causes, not just change my body.
I made a choice to stop. I found God, and that was a major turning point for me. I got rid of all my female clothes and committed to quitting masturbation and porn. It was a detox from the harmful ideas that had filled my head. After about a year of abstinence, the desires to dress or be treated as a woman had almost completely faded. I don't miss it at all now and I have a hard time even remembering how powerful that desire once was.
I don't believe anyone is "trans by nature." I see it as a cultural script, a choice people make in response to having attractions to cross-sex behaviors, which are often fetishistic and sexual. Just because a kink turns you on doesn't mean the "real you" is trans. Many people have these feelings but choose not to follow them and live happy, healthy lives. I view it like a drug; I might like how cocaine feels, but I choose not to do it because I know it would ruin my life.
I have no regrets about not transitioning. My only regret is the time I lost down that rabbit hole. I benefited immensely from stepping away from affirming spaces and instead practicing abstinence. I now believe that a vision of humanity rooted in our biological reality is a good thing, and that families are the foundation of our future.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early 20s | Developed a powerful fetish for being a woman, fueled by OCD and porn consumption (sissy/gender-swap). |
| Mid-Late 20s | Experienced extreme, drug-fueled fantasies about having a female body. |
| 27 | Reached a point of dissatisfaction; found God, quit porn and masturbation, and discarded female clothing. |
| 28 | After a year of abstinence, the desires to be a woman had almost completely faded. |
Top Comments by /u/chamomiledreamer:
When you watch certain genres of porn, it can give you operant conditioning to bend your sexuality. Why don’t you try nofap for three months and see if the desires persist. Especially being OCD, you need to be careful and self-aware about your ability to obsess
No, crossdressing will not calm it down. It will likely increase your problems. You need abstinence, not obsession
Seriously, I would prescribe every porn addicted male who suddenly thinks they are trans 90 days of nofap. It is easier than changing your entire life forever
Your life is going to get way harder if you transition. It will not be the key to making your mental problems go away. It will likely do the opposite
Nobody is truly trans. "Trans" is a cultural formula that you can choose to enact in response to having attraction to opposite-gender behaviors and presentations. These attractions exist for a variety of psychological causes, some of which can be treated in other ways. I believe that ennacting the "trans" script is usually not the healthiest way to deal with these desires.
For me, porn reinforced a fetish I had for dressing like the opposite sex, and led me into more and more extreme fantasy versions of it. This eventually led to very vivid drug-fueled fantasies of having a vagina instead of a penis as I masturbated. I would normally view gender-swap captions and the like
At some point I became dissatisfied with where my selfish, fetishistic sexuality was leading my life. I found God, got rid of all my girl clothes, and quit masturbating. After a year or so I had almost no desire to dress or be treated as a girl anymore
A lot of the porn people consume reinforces gender roles and misogyny. I noticed you used the word “sissy”. That belongs to a sub genre of porn that carries the message that if you are attracted to any feminine things, you must not be a real man and you should revel in being emasculated. Detoxing from the harmful ideas in this media is necessary
"Conservative" just means "opposed to change". When you started opposing the trans movement, you became a little bit "conservative". There are other people, who may be more conservative than you, who are also opposed to the changes advocated by the trans movement.
I expect every redditor will be a little bit "conservative" before he/she dies, because our society keeps on coming up with new social innovations, and not all of them are good! After the 20th century, why would anyone think change can happen only in one direction?
The religious right believes that a vision of humanity rooted in biology and tradition is a good thing, and that families are a good thing because without them we don't have a future. You can think this is dangerous and evil and gross. But I don't see how you are going to win in a post-Christian democracy without their votes.
Nobody is trans by nature. Becoming trans identified is a choice that some people make in response to the fact that they are attracted to cross-sex behaviors. Often these attractions are fetishistic and sexual in nature.
Just because tg kink turns you on does not mean the “real you” is trans. Many people have these attractions and choose not to follow up on them and lead happy and healthy lives
I view TG pornography the way I view cocaine. I think I might like cocaine, but I choose not to do it because I think it would make my life worse. In my case, I know I was attracted to TG porn. But I chose not to go any further because I thought it would screw up my life. You chose differently, and now you have the ability to choose again.
I had similar feelings for much of my twenties. Then I decided that having a family was more important to me and detoxed from tg fantasies and content. Honestly, I don’t miss it and have a hard time remembering how powerfully the desire to be a woman ruled my life. Yes, it can be a fetish, and you have freedom to choose how much you indulge your fetishes.
Reddit has banned most of the subreddits that offered a different perspective (such as r/itsafetish) to make trans extremism the only acceptable view. It’s sad and I feel bad for people trying to figure out their lives on partial information. I wonder if people realized how hard social media admins fight to keep skepticism of the trans movement suppressed how that would change their view of the world.
Detrans is the last standing trans-skeptical reddit, and it's unfortunate for the detrans folk that this space becomes the catch-all for every questioning and skeptical person.