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Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The user's language is nuanced, self-reflective, and shows a clear, evolving personal stance on detransition topics. They reference their own experience ("As someone who's detransed myself"), offer advice based on it, and express frustration with both trans and detrans communities in a way that aligns with a genuine, passionate individual.
About me
I started transitioning because I felt trapped by what it meant to be a female and wanted to escape that pain. I took testosterone and had surgery, which I now deeply regret for the permanent changes and health issues they caused. I realized my discomfort wasn't with being female, but with sexism, trauma, and the pressure to fit a stereotype. My detransition began when I stepped back from online influences and addressed my real problems in therapy. I'm now learning to just be a female person who doesn't conform, and that's okay.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition started because I was deeply uncomfortable with the expectations placed on me as a female. I never felt like I fit into the narrow box of what a woman was supposed to be. I now believe a lot of my initial distress was actually rooted in sexism, body dysmorphia, and the fallout from an abusive upbringing, not some innate "gender identity." I also struggled with internalized homophobia; I'm attracted to women, and I think part of me wanted to escape the label of lesbian and all the baggage that came with it in our society.
I got really caught up in online communities that framed all of this discomfort as "gender dysphoria." I now think that term is a misnomer—it muddies the waters and comes loaded with a whole ideology that pushes people toward medical transition. Back then, I let my emotions steer me. I was ruled by them, and I thought changing my body was the only way to fix how I felt.
I did medically transition. I took testosterone for several years and I had top surgery to remove my breasts, which I had always hated. I think a big part of that hatred was actually a deep discomfort with puberty and the sexualization of the female body, not a need to actually be male. I now regret these medical interventions. The testosterone caused some serious health complications for me, and the top surgery is a permanent change I have to live with. I am also now infertile, which is a difficult reality to face.
My detransition began when I finally stepped back from the online narratives and started to really examine what was driving my feelings. I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy that helped me untangle my trauma, low self-esteem, and anxiety from the concept of gender. I realized I had been using transition as a form of escapism from my problems and from the pressures of being a female in a sexist world. I was influenced online and by friends who were also exploring transition, and I see now that we were all just rebelling against restrictive gender roles in a very extreme, and ultimately harmful, way.
I don't believe in gender anymore. I think the whole concept is just a set of stupid, narrow roles—a glorified patriarchy. Both the trans community and the world at large are trapped in "gender cults." My goal now is to wash my hands of them entirely. There are as many ways to be male and female as there are people. I'm just a female person who doesn't conform to stereotypes, and that's okay.
I've found that being constantly tuned into the debates around trans and detransition is terrible for my mental health. It keeps people in a state of passive victimhood. For my own wellbeing, I've had to take a huge step back from these conversations. Overly scrutinizing every aspect of my sexuality and gender was detrimental; I'm learning to just be in the world without overthinking it.
While I regret the permanent changes to my body and the health complications, my journey led me to a place of much greater self-understanding. I don't regret the self-knowledge I gained, but I deeply regret the path I took to get it.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 17 | First started feeling extreme discomfort with female puberty and social expectations. Began exploring gender identity online. |
| 19 | Started identifying as non-binary and then as a trans man. Began socially transitioning. |
| 21 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 26 | Began to question my transition due to persistent underlying issues and health problems from testosterone. |
| 27 | Stopped testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. Started therapy focused on trauma and body dysmorphia. |
Top Comments by /u/chroma_src:
You are 1000% correct
It's not just eugenics, it's also fostering the creation of new eunuch castes of differently abled people to exploit over their dwindling lifespan
First trojan horse the "queers" and the otherwise difficult ones into eugenics programs, then scapegoat them and their issues as not symptomatic of issues in society, but source of all ills. Very convenient!
The makings of a supremacist movement, because society would rather protect its collective ego that grow up.
As someone who's detransed myself and spending a lot of time talking to them, I think too many are afraid of guilt by association when honestly you should be living by "not my monkeys, not my circus".
There's crazy in every group. Some people will always conform, some will push some social boundaries, some will grow out of it, and some will go too far.
You're an individual. It's okay. You're allowed to think they're dumb. But you also shouldn't let other people's crazy stifle you and your own self expression. You don't got to associate with them.
Tbqh I've only had decent reception from trans people IRL, to a surprising degree honestly
A lot of it is down to how someone conduct themself tbqh - Sounds like this person knew of you
Sorry you've been through something so rough. It's not easy to go through homelessness at all, let alone while detransitioning.
I hope you got somewhere safe lined up. Hopefully you can take some time to clear your head there. Try to get some distance from the trans/detrans convo, it'll honestly help with your mental wellbeing, especially right now with all you must have on your plate.
It seems increasingly apparent to me that overly scrutinizing sexuality and gender is detrimental to wellbeing and just being I the world, whether you're someone who is detransitioning or transitioning.
Mental health would probably be better if we didn't overthink it like seems to be the trend in all camps now. (so long as our physical health is maintained of course)
Extreme sex based distress. Sexism. Body dysmorphia. An abusive upbringing. Homophobia. Gynocentrism. Reproductive essentialism. All these are more accurate than the nebulous ever expanding "dysphoria".
Why is it hard to see how the conflation is an issue? Serious question. These trans ideology words are loaded now, not neutral, they come with certain framings attached.
You are talking about a desire to transition, something which isnt actually possible - this is the space to talk about the process of leaving that train of thought. Detransition, desist.
What should be a convo about proper healthcare and alienating cultural norms, has just been hijacked to be a culture war talking point by people who just want (part of) our stories to use as a weapon. They don't actually give a shit about what's best for people like us. In fact, they despise people like us. It's sad. And honestly, it'll probably cause more transitions.
Seeing what others have written here, and I can understand where they're coming from
But I guess it's peculiar to frame being tuned into the topic of detransition around prioritizing either sex.
Of course people will be more involved with matters their own sex faces but that has little to do with understanding anyone 🤷
I don't think you need to scientifically dissect your sexuality to do so, it'd lead to distress fretting over details and nuances
It's not a very in the present way to approach sexuality (and by extent gender), and when you're in a relationship you want to be present, not caught up in ideas and concepts
The language we use matters a lot, it's not just an aesthetic choice lmfao
Dysphoria isnt real - it's a misnomer
you're just going to push people back to the "popular" trans community if you want to talk about things just based on popularity
By your logic, isnt your issue with woman purely linguistic?
If you call it dysphoria they'll go "this person is obviously trans but doesnt know any better" that's what I would've said back then
Steering yourself by emotions is what causes transitions. Screw being ruled by emotions, use better terms. Use your head: you're causing more of a headache for yourself by having to make disclaimers around your attatchment to a misnomer, instead of addressing the issue.