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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the comments provided, the account appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The comments show:
- Personal, consistent history: A detailed and consistent timeline of medical transition (starting T at 17, being on it for ~10-11 years, having top surgery, and being off T for 2 years at the time of one comment).
- Specific, experiential knowledge: Nuanced, first-hand details about physical effects (e.g., specific types of numbness after top surgery, the process of vaginal atrophy and recovery) that are not typically part of superficial talking points.
- Complex viewpoint: The perspective is not one-dimensional. The user expresses no regret about their surgeries or HRT, critiques trans ideology, but also gives practical, non-judgmental advice to others still taking testosterone.
The passion and criticism present are consistent with a genuine desister/detransitioner who has strong opinions based on their lived experience.
About me
I started my transition at 16, believing that escaping womanhood was the answer to the misogyny and bullying I experienced. I was on testosterone for ten years and had top surgery, and I don't regret the physical changes or the medical care I received. Over time, I let go of my internalized misogyny, and with it, my need to transition faded because I realized I couldn't actually change my sex. I've been off hormones for two years now and am comfortable with my body and my past choices, even though my reasons for making them have completely changed. I'm now at peace with being a female, having learned that true comfort comes from self-acceptance, not from trying to control how others see you.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition started when I was 16. I think a lot of it came from internalized misogyny. I heard a lot of negative things about women from my family while I was growing up, and I was also bullied by other girls. It made me want to distance myself from being a woman altogether. That's why I came out as trans.
I started taking testosterone when I was 17 and stayed on it for about ten years, until I was 28. I don't regret taking hormones or the surgeries I had. I liked the changes to my body from testosterone, and I never had any serious health problems from it. My doctors monitored me with regular blood tests and everything was always fine. The only medical issue I had was vaginal atrophy, but it didn't bother me much because I wasn't having penetrative sex. I've been off testosterone for two years now and everything has recovered completely.
I also had top surgery, a mastectomy, about six years ago. I'm really happy with how it looks. The biggest downside is that some parts of my chest are still numb. My grafted nipples have no feeling at all, and I have this one sensitive spot where my nipples used to be. It also changed how women's clothes fit on me. It's something to consider carefully because it's permanent.
Over time, I slowly started to lose those misogynistic beliefs I had. As that happened, my desire to transition faded away. I realized I can't actually change my sex, and I can't get the exact male body I wanted, which is part of why I'm here in this community now.
Looking back, I think a lot of the trans community has an unhealthy obsession with passing and being seen as the opposite sex. It seems like a self-induced neurosis from being disconnected from reality. You just can't control how other people perceive you.
I'm at a point now where I'm comfortable with my body and the choices I made, even though my reasons for transitioning in the first place have changed.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Came out as transgender. |
| 17 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Had top surgery (mastectomy). |
| 28 | Stopped taking testosterone after 10 years. |
| 30 | Present day, off testosterone for 2 years. |
Top Comments by /u/chromark:
The way trans people obsess over this is unhealthy. It's like some kind of self-induced neurosis they create by being disconnected from reality, lying to themselves about really actually being opposite sex/their passing. I really can't stand it honestly. Like you just can't control the way other people perceive you at the end of the day.
I relate somewhat and I think internalized misogyny is ultimately the reason I transitioned. I heard a lot of misogynistic things from family etc growing up and was also bullied by girls. I came out at 16 and took test 17-28. Ultimately, I slowly lost the misogynistic beliefs with time and with it, the desire to transition. I don't know, challenge those thoughts in your mind and try to see the value of womanhood?
Five years is plenty of time for you to develop vaginal atrophy. If you're not going to stop taking testosterone, I recommend asking your doctor for vaginal estrogen cream or suppository to help the tissues to recover. My experience having sex with vaginal atrophy was that I bled a little bit every time, although, it was still enjoyable.
It's not the answer you're looking for but I didn't experience medical issues in the 10 years I was taking it except vaginal atrophy (I didn't bother me because I wasn't having penetrative sex). Two years off now and my pussy is recovered fully LMAO.
I was monitored via regular blood tests while taking testosterone and no issues came up
I don't regret HRT or my surgeries. I like the changes to my body and haven't suffered any permanent ill effects from my time transitioning. But I know I can't change sex and I can't get the average male body that I desire which is why I'm on this sub lol
No, it won't bring your hair back at the temples. Hair transplant is the only way.
Finasteride blocks some testosterone from converting to DHT (which causes hair loss) to slow or stop androgenetic hair loss. It doesn't really make sense to take it if you're no longer on HRT
Oh yeah I think it will take some time for your tissues to recover. Although, I can't say I really kept track I simply noticed at some point that my vagina seemed healthier and more resilient than ever on T. But we only get an estrogen surge once a month with menstrual cycle so keep that in mind lol. In a few more months you'll probably be good
I'm quite happy with my top surgery/mastectomy results 6 years after but I would say the biggest downside is some parts of my chest are still numb. My grafted nipples are totally numb and I have a sensitive area where my nipples naturally were. Also, it may mess up the fit of women's clothes. Consider it carefully as it's irreversible.