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About me
I was born female, and my journey started because I couldn't accept being a lesbian, thinking a "straight" relationship was more normal. I transitioned in my twenties, taking hormones and having surgery, hoping it would fix my deep discomfort with myself. Now, I see that was a painful mistake driven by internalized homophobia and pressure from online communities. The permanent changes to my body are a difficult reminder, but they don't make me less of a woman. I've finally found peace by accepting that I am a female who loves other females.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and painful lesson about who I really am. I was born female, and for a long time, I couldn't accept that. In my twenties, I struggled deeply with being a lesbian. I was okay with it for other people, but for myself, I hated the idea. I never wanted to be seen as "other" or outside of what I thought was a "normal" relationship. I now understand that this was internalized homophobia. I wanted so badly to have what I thought was a straight relationship, to play the male role, because that felt safer and more acceptable to me than accepting I was a gay woman.
This discomfort with being a lesbian was a huge driver for my gender dysphoria. I started to believe that if I transitioned, I could fix this feeling of being wrong. I was influenced a lot by online communities that sold transition as the solution to these deep-seated problems. I bought into the idea that I could change my sex and become someone else. I took hormones and I got top surgery.
Looking back, I was young and I was pressured by an ideology that promised a fix for my pain. I was struggling with depression and low self-esteem, and transition was presented as the answer. But it wasn't. The permanent changes to my body, like the scars from surgery, are a constant reminder of that time. They are damage, but they don't make me less of a woman. Nothing I did or can do changes the fact that I am female.
I have serious regrets about transitioning. It didn't solve my problems; it just gave me new ones. I've come to see that my rejection of being a lesbian was the core issue. Language is important, and I now believe that appropriating the label of a different sex is wrong. It erases gay people like me. I finally had to accept that I am a female who is attracted to other females. That’s it. It was hard, but accepting this reality has brought me more peace than transition ever did.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early 20s | Struggled with internalized homophobia and a desire to be in a "straight" relationship. |
| Mid 20s | Started identifying as transgender and began taking testosterone. |
| Late 20s | Underwent top surgery. |
| 30s | Realized transition was a mistake and began detransitioning. Accepted my identity as a lesbian woman. |
Top Comments by /u/chronicallysaltyCF:
Pride was never for the T EVER I have interviewed every living founder of PRIDE the claim that they have always been part of it is a lie. Its not for or about them never has been they want a parade they need to get off their entitled asses and make one not steal ours.
Short answer, no. Long answer while you will have some permanent damage/scars after you detrans that may cause people to give you a second look especially if this culture of transmania, it doesn’t make you less than. You were young and pressured into an ideology that sold you a fix to things you were struggling with and you bought and that sucks and you are going to have some scars but you came out on the other side and that makes you stronger. The bottom line is, if you are a female, nothing you do or wear or anything makes you less of a woman. 💜
Well if you are attracted to other females than you are lesbian and you are rejecting it “its not for me” okay but it is bc that's what you are nothing you do will ever change that you are a female attracted to females. Your rejection of it is overtly homophobic. And I get it. It is hard to accept always being an other never being able to appear being “normal” in a relationship I struggled with the same things personally in my 20s but that discomfort, unease, rejection is internalized homophobia. I was okay with it for others too, it took me a long time to be okay with it for myself.
It’s not semantics you are appropriating and erasing gay people. You shouldn’t feel comfortable doing that. Language matters, words matter. If I run around calling myself black because I have a tan is that semantics, or is that appropriation and wrong? This is not different.
Right and those things are all true and I appreciate your recognition of that. But your exact words were “I want a straight relationship” well you are never going to get that you just acknowledged that bc your sex doesn't change and being gay is same-sex attraction. You know this. So you are still saying you want the appearance of straight. I think you have done some work recognizing the lines of LGB. But the very fact that you outright state “I want a male role in a regular straight relationship” means that internalized homophobia is a driver of your dysphoria whether you are ready to recognize it or not.