The "egg" phenomenon is a flagrant projection of insecurity, imo. Most who headcanon characters (or real people) as trans can't tolerate the fact that someone can be comfortable in their own body, so they literally create a fantasy to cope. To that group, detransitioners are somewhere in the same level; they can't cope with the fact that someone might've regretted their transition, and therefore it makes them feel insecure over their own. I genuinely think that's where a big chunk of the hate comes from.

Yeah, the mindset of "well, you weren't REALLY trans" is super toxic. I don't even think trans activists can agree on one single definition of 'being trans' these days beyond the label itself. I suppose that makes it easier to deny our experiences. 🤷

I lost my whole friend circle after I detransitioned, sadly. The only real answer is to find some better friends. If their existence feels threatened by your own personal choice, that's on them. Just goes to show how insecure they are in themselves, and it doesn't reflect on you whatsoever.

There's no single "checklist" for detransitioners, tbh. All of our experiences are unique and highly circumstantial. They'll vary pretty broadly based on who you ask specifically, especially between men and women.

Calling this subreddit a "hive mind" is a bit bizarre, though... Could you elaborate on that?

You desperately need to focus on healing from any trauma before making permanent decisions that drastically alter your body. I would even advise taking a break from HRT, if you're able to; though I'm obviously not a psychiatrist or medical professional. Only speaking from experience. Recovery would've been so much easier for me to undergo if I hadn't been an emotional/physical mess from how testosterone was effecting me at the time. Think of your natural state as a "baseline" and strive to work from there before making any final decisions. You're still young. There's no reason to rush through a transition, especially for the changes that aren't reversible.

You sure are making a lot of assumptions about this person's health, and how she's possibly been advised by medical professionals.

Also, if you took five minutes to look over her social media, you wouldn't have needed to make your initial assumption about how she's a "grifter".

This is a gross over-simplification of several issues, but I'll bite.

Nobody has "held anyone at gunpoint" to transition. Pretending as though social coercion and medical malpractice don't exist is completely disingenuous.

'Gendies' is a term referring to people who harbor extremist views regarding transgenderism, such as medically transitioning children and claims of body dysphoria not being a prerequisite for being trans. It can be used for cis individuals as well. People on this sub often refer to them a cult *because* extreme ideologies frequently operate in similar fashions. It's a mindset that you have to unshackle yourself from in order to view these problems through an objective, non-biased lens.

It's an unfortunate reality.

Over time, it might decrease in size slightly; but nobody here can give you guarantees or methods on how to speed up the process. I really wish there was.

I recommend being upfront with potential sexual partners about your experience. Anyone who isn't accepting of your past trauma isn't worth your time, tbh.

You look just fine. Maybe a standard level of slight chubbiness, nothing more. I wouldn't assume you'd been on HRT at all otherwise, even as a fellow detransitioner.

I think fat distribution can take a few years to fully normalize, so don't lose hope!

Living as a biological male, and injecting male hormones as a biological female are two completely separate things. You aren't even comparing apples vs. oranges, you're comparing apples vs. juice boxes. The two instances are nothing alike.

Please, if you don't want to keep being an embarrassment to the trans movement as a whole, I implore you to actually do research on how HRT alters body chemistry.