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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "cocoaphillia" appears to be authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or an inauthentic actor.
The user demonstrates:
- Personal, detailed experience with detransition (e.g., mentioning tapering off testosterone after nine months).
- Consistent, passionate ideology rooted in radical feminism, which is a common perspective in the community.
- Emotional investment and nuance in responses, including empathy, anger, and detailed arguments that reflect a lived experience, not just copied talking points.
- Engagement across multiple threads on related topics (medical harm, cult dynamics, misogyny) over several months.
The tone is aggressive and passionate, which aligns with the warning that detransitioners can be "very passionate and pissed off," rather than being a red flag for inauthenticity.
About me
I grew up in a strict Lutheran home where I was taught that being a woman meant being inferior. After a traumatic assault, I found an online community that convinced me my discomfort meant I was really a man, so I started taking testosterone. Through therapy and feminism, I realized my pain was a response to misogyny, not my body. I stopped hormones after nine months and had to go through a difficult withdrawal. I am now at peace as a woman, having finally separated my true self from the harmful stereotypes I was taught.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was really young. I grew up in a Lutheran Christian home, and the church had very strict ideas about what women should be. I was taught that women were inferior to men, that our purpose was to serve them and have their children. My body and my sexuality were presented as something that wasn't really mine—it was meant for a man within marriage. I internalized a lot of this, and it created a deep disconnect from my own womanhood. I didn't hate being female; I hated what I was told a woman was supposed to be.
This feeling got worse as I got older. I was sexually assaulted, and that combined with the religious trauma made me feel completely separated from my body. Around this time, I found the trans community online. It felt like an escape. They told me that my discomfort wasn't about the world's misogyny or my trauma—it was because I was really a man trapped in a woman's body. It made a strange kind of sense at the time. I started to believe I was a trans man.
I socially transitioned for about a year. I cut my hair, bought a binder, and tried to get people to use a new name and male pronouns. I even started taking testosterone. I was on it for nine months. The process of taking it and then stopping was horrible. My body became physically dependent on it, and I had to taper off slowly. It wasn't a psychological addiction; it was a physical dependence, and the withdrawal was rough.
What finally pulled me out was a combination of things. I got serious PTSD therapy that focused on my religious upbringing and the assaults. Around the same time, I discovered radical feminism. It was like a lightbulb went off. For the first time, someone was explaining that my feelings weren't unique—they were a rational response to the misogyny I had experienced my whole life. It helped me see that the trans ideology I had bought into was itself deeply misogynistic. It turned being a woman into a performance of stereotypes, and I realized I had been trying to escape the oppression of being female by pretending to be something I wasn't.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it ultimately led me to a much healthier place, but I deeply regret the medical intervention. Taking testosterone did things to my body that can't be undone. I see now that I was influenced by online communities and my own trauma. My discomfort wasn't with my sex; it was with the patriarchal ideas forced upon me.
Now, I see gender for what it is: a set of oppressive stereotypes. I am a woman, and that is a biological reality, not an identity. I am finally comfortable in my own skin. I don't hate my body anymore; I hate the systems that made me feel like I had to change it to be happy.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Grew up in a patriarchal Lutheran household, internalized misogynistic religious teachings. |
| Teen Years | Left the church. Experienced sexual assault, which deepened disconnection from my body. |
| 24 | Found trans community online, began socially identifying as a trans man. |
| 24 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 25 | Began PTSD therapy, discovered radical feminism, and realized the source of my dysphoria. |
| 25 | Stopped testosterone after 9 months and had to taper off due to physical dependence. |
| 25 | Fully detransitioned and reclaimed my identity as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/cocoaphillia:
Yep; bingo. Only five years, and on minors and not even adults - what a ridiculous excuse for a study on the matter. It almost seems purposeful...detransitioners make it pretty clear that a lot of us detrans as adults. Most of us speaking out are over twenty. But yet the study doesn't go for adults?
Seems convenient.
at the expense of women. It's disgusting. He's not doing it in a benign way but in a mocking way. It all comes across as so wrong. If he's so desperate to have experienced all of these very gender role-esque, stereotypical ideals of "girlhood"; that he has to do this shit - then he can at least have the decency to admit he's just playing dress up! And that he's a man. But no. He makes "woman" into a performance of stereotypes and...almost bimbo-esque exessiveness. And he doesn't even call it woman, he calls it "girl". Making it even worse.
Real teenage girls don't relate to this. Grown women sure as hell don't
Someone is speaking all my observations... Thank you. It raises my hope for humanity a little when I see other people figure this stuff out.
Awesome deep dive; all completely true. It's insane how much the trans community/movement mirrors everything about a cult... how much it IS a cult.
Let me guess... they're trans themselves, aren't they
she took pictures of babies and redrew them in diaper fetish furry shit.
This is not something I can see a biological female ever doing.
I'm open and willing to be proven wrong, but every instance of something like this that I've seen so far; would point to my hypothesis being correct.
the T latched on to LGB and keeps telling people that not accepting trans is the same as not accepting gay. People are too scared of being on the wrong side of history that they don't think about the fact that this in itself is wildly homophobic.
YES. 150%. I've seen evidence of this a lot. It's terrible and goddamn infuriating.
I'd give almost anything to have gone to something like the Michigan Women's Festival...it's incredibly sad, misogynistic and awful that it got shut down. And that other female only gatherings are persecuted so heavily now
I do wish we could go back to those days, personally
Literally all of this was fantastic except for the bullshit about Amber Heard...what the fuck. Why have so many women in our spaces not actually seen the goddamn trial between them? Instead just listening to the sensationlist articles trying to doctor things to paint her as innocent, and to sell this "no woman can be an abuser, this will unravel MeToo if we acknowledge the truth" ice cold take?
There is the most blatant and overwhelming evidence that she is a monster. Video. Audio. Testimonies of other people she has hurt, some being underage goddamn girls. Testimonials of people in their respective lives. And yet some people actually listen to the cherry picked bullshit? It's seriously sad.
Trying to brainwash vulnerable kids that are mostly trapped in a room with you; is a special type of despicable.
I would have left the room, too, and I would totally have lost my shit - I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.
She encouraged another student to seek top surgery.
That's particularly horrible, too.
Try not to feel too bad for not confronting her - being in a triggered state makes many people just kind of close off. It's not a weakness, just how the brain can respond to trauma. And school psychologically trains you to submit to whatever authority figure is present, and just eat up what they feed you; and not cause problems with it
Same here. It's defeatist of the whole point, and a bit silly.
Like yes, the patriarchy is so bad that there are ways it wraps around back to men and ends up with them shooting themselves in the foot as a class - but make no mistake that's because the direct harm of it goes through women first and foremost. And it won't get fixed for them until it gets fixed for women.
You have heard some very significant misinformation about them.
TERFS refuse to see the trauma of being gender nonconforming.
Particularly with whatever the fuck this line is coming from...couldn't be farther from the truth.
And wtf do you mean "borrowed from black people"...if I even knew what that was about; are slogan structures wrong to use just because one group did it already?
...and are you okay??