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About me
I was born female and my discomfort started as a teenager when I felt intense pressure from femininity and hated my changing body. I confused my depression and insecurities with being male and socially transitioned, thinking it was the answer. I realized hormones wouldn't make me happy and that my true issue was learning to love myself. I detransitioned socially after understanding I could just be a woman with masculine interests. Now I'm learning that my value isn't tied to my body and I'm working on self-acceptance.
My detransition story
Looking back at my whole journey, I see a lot of confusion that I wish I had understood sooner. I was born female, and when I was a teenager, around 16 to 18, I started feeling really uncomfortable with my body and the expectations placed on me as a girl. I hated my breasts and my hips, and I felt a lot of pressure from the women around me. I was bullied and it really brought me down. I now think a lot of what I felt was just the crippling insecurity that comes with puberty, especially for a girl. My body was changing and I didn't like it, and I didn't fit in with traditional femininity.
At the time, I confused my bodily insecurities and my masculine interests with being male. I thought that because I hated my chest and didn't act like other girls, it meant I was supposed to be a boy. I now believe that what I was experiencing was a form of depression and a deep unhappiness with myself, not true gender dysphoria. I think true transgenderism might be a result of trying to cope with a mental illness, and that the better path is to target the dysphoria at its heart, instead of altering your body. But back then, I didn't see that.
I was very influenced by what I saw online and by the people I talked to. I thought testosterone was the answer to my problems, but I want to tell others that testosterone will not make you happy. It only throws your mental health off even more. I'm glad I realized that before I did anything permanent. I never took hormones or had any surgeries. My transition was entirely social, and my detransition was about realizing that I could be a woman who has masculine interests and doesn't conform to stereotypes. My value isn't tied to my body, and changing it wouldn't have lowered or raised my worth.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to a place of self-acceptance, but I do regret not getting the right kind of help sooner. I think therapy that focused on my underlying issues like low self-esteem and depression would have been more beneficial than being affirmed in a new gender identity. I want to be clear that I don't hold anything against people who transition; for some, it might be a last resort to alleviate their suffering, and I respect that. But for me, the answer was to work on loving myself as I am.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 - 18 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my female body during puberty. Hated my breasts and hips. Felt pressured by feminine expectations and was bullied. |
| 18 | Socially transitioned, believing my insecurities and interests meant I was male. |
| Early 20s | Realized my feelings were linked to depression and low self-esteem, not a male identity. Underwent a social detransition. |
| Present | Now living as a woman, understanding that my body doesn't define my interests or my value. |
Top Comments by /u/codeinymph:
You are still beautiful. No amount of changing your body will ever lower your value. Plus You still have a good 5-7 years for your body to grow and change and return to normal. The human body is very resilient. Talk about possible options with your doctor and id also recommended seeing a therapist. Dont give up. Your story here will be an inspiration for many and your strength to have made it this far is very admirable. There is plenty of hope and change coming in your future, even if you cant see it just yet.
Congrats on making that decision. Its a great first step. I hope your journey with self image gets smoother and you become more confident in your own skin soon. Remember just because you’re male doesnt mean you cant partake in ‘traditionally feminine’ things. Dress how you want and do things you want ! :)
Forgive me if this comes off as insulting at all, but youre still very young. Your body is going through a lot of changes and your hormones are likely all over the place. I think that dysphoria you might be feeling is a reflection of both that and just the general crippling insecurity that comes with growing up and going through puberty as a woman. Not to mention the social environment and expectations people have for you. Testosterone will not make you happy. I promise you its only going to throw your mental health off even moreso. When i was around 16-18 i felt the same way. I hated typical femininity, i was bullied and brought down by all of the women around me, but I couldn’t see that for what it was. I hated my chest and hips, i still do sometimes. But, My bodily insecurities and personal ‘masculine’ interests did not make me male. Considering your suicidal thoughts and feelings of depression I think you should probably seek out a therapist. I hope things look up for you soon.
In my personal opinion, true transgenderism is a result of trying to cope with a mental illness. I dont think its the right thing to do for one to alter themselves to fit the image in their head, as opposed to targeting the dysphoria at its heart, like how we would with other MI’s. However, because of the political warfare over the topic, there is no medical research being done about how to psychologically or even pharmaceutically heal dysphoria. so those trans people who do pursue transition only as a last resort to alleviate their symptoms absolutely have my respect, however that doesnt mean i see them as unequivocally the sex that they desire to be. Hope im making sense. So no, I don’t hold prejudice or any negative feeling towards all trans people, or those who dont detrans.
Edit: sp
Obviously detransitioning isn’t for everyone, especially when its forced and/or you’re comfortable where you are. This sub literally has never even implied everyone would be better of detransitioning. Its a support group for those who do and a community to educate people around the subject. You really seem like you’re just trying to start something.