I agree. What is the harm in the taking more time to insure these kids actually are mentally mature enough to make these choices..Doctors need to step up...it's not a small thing...and a life altering thing shouldn't be pushed on kids.

The amount of young adults on here prove that. Just give time and support, let an adult brain make those permanent choices.

I agree, as does her counselor.. It's almost word for word to what I have seen other kids and parents say in my research. I am super analytical, so I have a harder time grasping the emotional " feelings" she is going through. I am able at times to connect with her analytical side, but that isn't enough.

I definitely see a big trend to transition and per my research it seems premature for 95% of people. Most either regret their choice, or continue just because " they came too far to go back" as a parent, I just want to see her healthy and happy and everything long term points to accepting her biological body.

The health issues and long term side effect of cross sex hormones and surgery is scary to say the least and no healthy body should go through that!

So true. From what I have read on hear ..it sounds like once self hatred is dealt with, the transgender ideology looses its appeal.

I have almost cried reading some of the peoples stories on here. I wish they had people to help them love themselves before damaging their bodies. I respect those who have the courage to share their stories and seek help to love the bodies they were born with.

It takes a lot of strength and work to love yourself.

Do you mind if I ask if you have ever seen a counselor or therapist, one who is more interested in why you are feel the dysphoria, not transgender pill pushers?

I am just interested in where you are at. From most of my research , there is usually an underlying cause..something that makes you hate the body you have been given.

Many people on here say they wish they had someone to help them accept their bodies and the underlying cause of the turmoil.

Wishing a safe and healing journey.

I think the important thing to remember is that to make Choice, one must have transparency. The problem I see with things like abortion or the new push for transitioning is that both sides are not always represented..as so many have stated...they were told it was the answer to their problems.

In reality no one can make an informed decision if they are not given all the information. It's a doctors/ therapists responsibility to do no harm ..if they know someone will be permanently sterilized or caused lifelong damage they need to give that information and other options too.

Lap band surgery for example can only be done after a waiting period, phycological review and other options being used, as well as permanent sterilization. I think that's a good thing, as many young people do things for a quick fix, without full understanding of other options.

Abortion is another huge thing, because some places feed on a woman's fear and minimize the risks and are dishonest about fetal development.

With choice must come knowledge and I think that's why so many are de transitioning or have regrets. Realistically at 16, parents should be a voice of reason and love..most importantly, sharing that it's important to love one's self enough to question and not look for quick fixes for complicated issues.

My two cents. .

Thank you. Yes I have told her about my own struggles and that women don't have to be super girly to still be women. I myself am more comfortable in guys shirts or comfy clothes and don't dress super girly.

As a feminist, I am actually mad at those who assume you are gay or trans based on being a string female..its demeaning to women to say we are nothing but skirts and lipstick.

Woman can be strong, and pretty much do everything a man can, but our minds and bodies are different. Those differences should be celebrated, not demeaned or looked down on.

Yes, we are taking that into account, she is basically on suicide watch..I have locked up meds and anything that could be uses for an attempt outside of my kitchen knives and scissors. It's been almost 10 months of watching her and trying to work with her on the trauma. We have good and bad days.

But she does seem less suicidal over the past few months. My main concern is her desire to transition as a way of coping instead of healing.

Except, according to my research puberty blockers do stunt anatomical growth and without going through puberty, as adults they have issues with bone density and underdeveloped brains. That seems like a big deal. A growing body needs puberty.

I am sad for children that deal with real gender dysphoria, but that percentage is small and more children are being permanently harmed by the push to normalized puberty blockers. We shouldn't be experimenting on children.

I think it is helpful, however I think girls have a bigger need to fit in socially. They seem to feel the isolation and difference stronger. And try to fit in, even if it's with manipulative "friends".

Can I ask if you also went though any abuse prior to deciding you were transgender, or was it based on not feeling comfortable in your body?

I'm not sure a totally neutral group exists, but you might see that many people have gone through the similar issues you have on here. I would always say honestly is the best policy, but be aware that many LGBT people will attack you for coming forward. They don't want people to know that there is a mental aspect that isn't helped by physical alteration.

Know you are loved by your true friends and they will stick by you..don't be afraid to let others know that there is a better way....one that deals with the issues behind the feelings.

FYI, so happy you are feeling more comfortable in your natural body..that is always the healthiest way to live.