This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the comments provided, the account does not appear authentic and shows serious red flags that it is not a real detransitioner or desister.
Key Red Flags:
- Contradictory Self-Identification: In a 2020 comment, the user explicitly states, "Not trans or detrans, but as a bio woman..." This directly contradicts the premise of being a detransitioner.
- Inconsistent Tone and Focus: The early comments are aggressive, insulting, and focus on attacking trans people. The later, longer comment adopts a calm, therapeutic tone about internalized misogyny. This shift is more consistent with someone adopting a persona to guide others rather than sharing a personal journey.
- Lack of Personal Narrative: There is zero mention of a personal history of transition, detransition, or any gender dysphoria. The arguments are entirely ideological and political, not experiential. A genuine detransitioner, even a passionate one, would likely reference their own experience at least once.
About me
I started feeling a deep discomfort with my female body as a teenager, especially when my breasts developed. I thought transitioning was the answer, so I took testosterone and had top surgery, chasing the relief I saw others finding online. But that relief was temporary, and I soon realized my real problem was internalized misogyny, not my body itself. I now see I was trying to escape sexist stereotypes about women, and I have serious regrets about the permanent changes. I am now detransitioning and learning to accept myself as the woman I am.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was deeply uncomfortable with my body during puberty. I hated the development of my breasts and felt a general sense of unease with the changes happening to me. I now believe a lot of this was rooted in internalized misogyny. I saw the way society portrayed femininity as weak, sexualized, and submissive, and I wanted no part of it. It felt like a trap. I thought that if I could just escape being a girl, all that discomfort and self-hatred would go away.
I started identifying as non-binary for a while, which felt like a stepping stone. It was a way to step away from womanhood without having to fully commit to being a man. But the feeling that I needed to change my body to match how I felt inside grew stronger. I was influenced a lot by what I saw online in trans communities; it seemed like everyone was getting top surgery and taking testosterone, and they all appeared so much happier for it. It felt like the solution.
I eventually took testosterone and got top surgery. For a short time, I did feel a sense of relief. The parts of my body that caused me the most distress were gone. But that relief was temporary. The underlying issues—my low self-esteem, my depression, my discomfort with how society treats women—were still there. I had just performed a major physical alteration without addressing the mental and emotional reasons why I wanted to do it.
I began to realize that my feelings were more about hating the stereotypes forced on my sex than actually being the opposite sex. I came to understand that a woman can be anything. She can be masculine, she can reject motherhood, she can be strong and assertive. Her body does not dictate her personality or her value. My problem wasn't with being female; it was with the sexist ideas about what being female means.
I have serious regrets about my transition. I am now infertile because of the hormones I took, and that is a permanent loss I have to live with. My body is permanently altered from the surgery. I feel like I was sold a fantasy that my body was wrong and needed to be fixed, when what I really needed was therapy to help me overcome my internalized misogyny and learn to accept myself.
I don't believe that males can become females or vice versa. Changing your body with hormones and surgery doesn't change your sex. I think a lot of the language used in trans communities is delusional and appropriates the experiences of others, like intersex people. I also believe it often reinforces the very gender stereotypes we should be fighting against. For me, transitioning was a form of escapism from the difficulties of being a woman in a sexist society, not a solution to them.
I am now detransitioning and learning to live as a woman again, with a body that is forever marked by my attempt to escape that reality.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 13 | 2011 | Started puberty, began feeling intense discomfort with breast development and female body. |
| 16 | 2014 | Identified as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 18 | 2016 | Started testosterone. |
| 19 | 2017 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 21 | 2019 | Began to question my transition, realizing it was rooted in internalized misogyny. |
| 22 | 2020 | Stopped testosterone and began identifying as a woman again (detransition). |
Top Comments by /u/comradeconradical:
In pictures with the right angles maybe.
But for many transmen and transwomen who 'pass' in pictures, when you see or hear them in the context of real life among other people, it's clear.
Not to say none of them pass. But to say all of them pass is just as faulty.
Not trans or detrans, but as a bio woman yes to all. I think these are common sentiments for many developing females, though our reactions to these feelings may differ.
Puberty is a tough time, due to our bodies changing and for realization of sexist norms in society. Often the discomfort and self-hatred go away once we get older, get used to our developed bodies, reflect on internalized misogyny, and realize we don't need to bow to society's stereotypes and expectations.
It's the TRA community that clings to outdated gender roles lmao
For example...
Gender critical people say anyone can wear anything they want, with no consequence to their physical sexual reality.
Trans activists say that if you like wearing masculine clothing as a girl or feminine clothing as a boy, then you MUST be the opposite sex in the wrong body.
Please, take your delusion back to your echo-cult.
Absolutely these feelings stem from internalized misogyny, which is encouraged by the way society portrays femininity, and these sentiments are, sadly, far from rare. I don't know of any female who has not experienced at least some internalized misogyny, be it about their mental or physical capacities, or about other females.
Many women struggle with the societal expectations and biological realities of being female. However, especially as we get older and gain perspective, it gets easier to see the strength that women possess.
I don't think a comparison of "men vs women" to see "who is better" is a healthy point of view. Every individual has their strengths and weaknesses, regardless of sex, though sex can influence the challenges we face in life.
Yes, some aspects of being female can seem unfair. But part of growing up and maturing is coming to terms with what we are afforded in our lives. It's also realizing that our sexual stereotypes do not have to translate into our lived experiences. An adult female who enjoys more stereotypically masculine endeavors is sill a woman. An adult female who never wants to give birth is still a woman. A female who takes birth control to stop having periods is still a woman. Etc.
Society makes femininity and being female seem like a bad, submissive, sexualized thing, and the biological processes our bodies put us through can be inconvenient at best, painful and debilitating at worst. But these are only aspects of being human females, some unnaturally created in our culture, others just results of natural development. They say nothing about our character or what we are actually capable of doing (aside from pregnancy, a wholly female capacity but not a necessity).
It seems that males have an easier time in society, and in many ways they do, but they also face challenges themselves that are difficult for them to deal with and that stem from their being male. It may not be as prominent or as obvious, but thinking the "grass is greener" for all males compared to all females is rooted in sexism.
Values placed on women and men are framed in the media and in our society today and throughout history, but they are constructs and we do not have to abide by them or give them the power to dictate our lives and how we feel about ourselves and others.
I'd recommend finding some female role models. Having women or even communities of women you can look up to will help change the way you see being female. I'd also suggest radical acceptance of the female body without sexist judgement.
Overcoming internalized misogyny is a difficult process, considering sexism is alive and well, and considering these biases formed subliminally over your lifetime and require awareness and effort to tackle, but it can be done. All the more so if you live in a developed country that allows you to challenge sexist norms.
lol nice job bringing intersex, a measurable physical condition, into a discussion about trans identified males and their male dicks made smaller and less functional due to hormone use. I bet the people born with this condition just LOVE their situation being appropriated and used for a completely unrelated cause.
Further, to address "nothing wrong with girls having sex if they are biologically ready"
Natal girls can have their period as early as 8 years old. Does this mean they are ready for sex? No.
Please stop spreading your illogical false claims, and making words mean something they aren't.
Males can never be female, much less GIRLS. Sounding a bit pedophilic there.
It's gross that they feel happy calling it a girldick. Especially since girl is underage female.
I don't care if it makes them feel 'validated', its delusion.
A penis rendered non-functional because of hormones is not a clit. That's insulting and bastardizes what a real clit is, a completely different organ with an entirely different constitution.
Stop feeding fantasy.