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About me
I watched my niece start identifying as male at school when she was 15, but she was inconsistent about it at home, which made me worry she was being impulsive. It seemed like she was rushing into wanting testosterone, especially when she only really pushed for it in therapy when her mom was there. I was deeply concerned she was making a permanent choice for the wrong reasons, like social pressure, while she was still a teenager. Thankfully, her mom held firm on waiting until she was an adult for any medical steps. Looking back, I regret the stress we all went through, but I'm relieved she had the time to grow without making a decision she might have regretted.
My detransition story
I’m writing this to share my experience from the last few years, which has been centered around my niece’s transition journey. It’s been a confusing and worrying time for our family, and I’ve spent a lot of time trying to understand what’s going on in her head.
It all started when my niece was 15. She began to identify as male outside of the house, at school and with friends, but at home, she didn’t ask us to use male pronouns or a different name. This was the first thing that made me pause and wonder what was really happening. I remember being 15 myself, and I made some impulsive decisions I later regretted, like getting tattoos. I was worried she was doing the same thing, wanting to make a quick decision just to "get it over with."
My main concern was how quickly she started pushing for testosterone (T) as soon as she began therapy. From the very first session where the therapist used "he" for her, she immediately said she wanted T. But when her mom pointed out the inconsistency—wanting T but not wanting male pronouns at home—she didn't have a real answer. It felt like she was just going through the motions, maybe looking for attention or trying to force a certain outcome in therapy. Her mom would go to the sessions with her, and my niece would only really push for HRT when her mom was in the room, almost like she was trying to get the therapist to convince her mom. It made me suspicious that her reasons weren't entirely sincere.
Her mom has always been supportive of how she dresses and presents herself, but she drew a firm line at medical intervention while my niece was still a teenager. She kept saying, "You'll be 18 in less than 3 years," and wanted her to wait until she was an adult to make such a permanent decision. This wasn't about not being "boy enough"; it was about the fear of making a permanent, life-altering choice too young. I shared that fear deeply. I started to worry that this was partly a trend, something she felt pressured into by what she was seeing online or from friends. I felt guilty for thinking that, but it was a genuine concern because I love her and don't want her to do something she’ll regret for the wrong reasons.
Looking back, I think a lot of this was tied to normal teenage discomfort and the pressure to figure yourself out. I don't have strong personal feelings about gender ideology; my focus was entirely on her well-being and making sure she wasn't rushing into something irreversible. My regret isn't about her transition itself, because she never medically transitioned in the end. My regret is that she, and we as a family, went through such a stressful period based on what seemed like conflicting and possibly impulsive feelings. The whole experience made me realize how important it is for young people to have time and space to grow without pressure to make definitive decisions about their identity.
Here is a timeline of the main events based on what I remember:
| My Age | Niece's Age | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 30 | 15 | My niece started identifying as male at school but not at home. She began therapy and immediately expressed a desire for testosterone. |
| 30 | 15 | Over the following month, a pattern emerged where she would strongly advocate for HRT in therapy sessions when her mother was present, but was inconsistent with pronouns and presentation at home. |
| 30 | 15 | Her mother maintained a supportive stance on social transition but insisted on waiting until she was 18 for any medical decisions. The period was marked by family concern about her motivations. |
Top Comments by /u/creepshow926:
I just think of when I was 15. I'm only 30 right now by the way, her parents are in their 40s. Its her own journey of course but I even have tattoos I got as a teen I regret. I know I can't tell her how shes feeling but like.. I figure she's pushing a bit hard for T when she (to me) appears to be wanting attention from this for some reason. Ahh idk. I wish I could see what she's thinking.
I am so glad my concern is not sounding horrible. None of us are against transgendered people or anything but it just feels trendy.. And I felt bad thinking that but since you've said it that's what I'm worried about. I mean its "not my life" to worry about but its also someone I love and don't want them to do something drastic to then hate the impulsive decision they made for possible wrong reasons.
And I say every time but its only been about a month. But day one of her being called "he" at therapy she said I want T. Then mom said "you want T but don't want me to call you he" and she has no real answer for this? Is she also afraid of upsetting her parents? Even if they are supportive? I'm so confused lol
Not sure if I mentioned this also. Mom has not told her "you can't go on T because you are not being a boy enouhh" mom has said "while you're still a teen and growing and developing I don't feel comfortable letting you do this" whether she's appearing as a boy or girl or anything in between. I just wanted everyone to know that was not the reason mom is not allowing it, she truly wants her to wait until shes an "adult" and let her decide that on her own.
Her mother goes with her and then she decides if she wants an alone session or with her mom. Every time she wants her mom in there she flips about HRT and basically looks to the therapist to try to push mom. Mom always says "you'll be 18 in less than 3 years" just because shes so worried she will regret this. She doesn't want to make the wrong move and tells her over and over shes supportive of all of everything. She doesn't say to her daughter, but will talk to me about her worry of insincerity.
If no one is being unsupportive of her appearing as male I don't know why shes not asking to be "he" at home as well.. I'm worried she is second guessing this and wants to make a quick decision to "get it over with" or something. As I said.. Just looking for advice. Sorry I offended.