Wow man, that’s literally my situation, tho FTM, and well I still have a vagina right but with the fucking “dickclit” and I cut off my tits. I wish u good luck bc I know I’ll need some myself. I agree with everything you’ve said in your post 100% so at least I guess you aren’t alone?

I’m happy with my chest being small, as flat as possible, but I wish I could wear a bikini or a crop top and have the “mini boob” so that I don’t feel self conscious about what feels like having mutilated my body, I had tiny breast to begin with, I just wish I could turn back time. I wasn’t pressured into it or it didn’t feel that way at the moment but looking back it kind of does. I have body dysmorphia and confused it with dysphoria and on top of that have an ED so I guess I’m always doomed to hate my body, I honestly don’t know, I don’t really have money to drop on another surgery so I doubt it’ll happen it’s just kind of wishful thinking?

I don’t think that she has any more right than you to be in women’s spaces. She’s probably struggling with it because of her own insecurities in her transition, you two need to talk about it and you need to explain to her that if she is allowed in women’s spaces because she identifies as female, ou have exactly the same right (I mean if not more bc biological females have a very different experience from trans women, so the spaces are very different). You need to tell her that just like you accept her as a girl, she needs to accept you as a girl. Besides she’s probably into the narrative that everyone who is trans will only get better if their transition, so the fact that you didn’t and you detransitioned poses a threat to her narrative of being trans and trans people. You guys need to sit down and talk about what it means to be trans and why you both transitioned and why you detransitioned after identifying as trans, be open to her views, and ask for the same in return.

Honestly there’s no good way to go around it, find your son a therapist who specializes in gender therapy so he can talk out the specifics of his feelings and situations and work it out, hear his story and try to understand and identify why he wants to transition, it is a very hard situation, but even future regrets are not worth your child cutting ties with you bc of an argument over gender and transition. Allow him to work through it with a therapist, go slow, be involved, don’t attack him or try dissuade him, just listen and be the voice of caution, not stopping him but also not indulging into a fast medical transition. Sadly in my case, I know I would not have survived if I hadn’t gone through transition, now looking back on t I wish I hadn’t, but at the moment I would have killed myself if I didn’t transition, I wish I could help more, you can pm me and I can try help you with the situation from the “child’s perspective” and over my thoughts of how my parents handled it all. I wish you the best of luck

My story is a very very long and convoluted one and it screams with red flags everywhere that they shouldn’t have let me transition, I have a terrible time identifying my thoughts and feelings so sadly I couldn’t really answer your question better, but yeah what’s done is done and can’t do anything about it, my first step is to detransition “naturally” just by going off T and letting things happen, I’ll give my body some time to try get back to what it used to be, and then after that I will start actually taking things into consideration more seriously. Thanks for the support tho, and good luck to you too

It may be good for you to have a session with the therapist by yourself, you can explain your concerns, be honest say your worries but that you still want to be supportive, ask the therapist about whether they are also sharing the dangers of transition as well, but in a positive light (as in explaining both pros and cons but not trying to dissuade with the cons) maybe find some articles over people who detransition and bring them with you to the therapist read through them with the therapist by yourself and see their opinion over it. Buy yourself books over trans people and talk w your kid about his feelings and what he wants and expects from transitioning, talk about noninvasive approaches to dysphoria, your son is mtf? Help him buy products that alleviate dysphoria such as breast forms, tight bodysuit for curves, hair inhibitor creams, walk him through makeup, stuff like that that isn’t an irreversible change, even hormone blockers can be useful idea. Find research over the risks and benefits of hrt, watch trans youtubers with your kid, all of this to see and measure his reactions, besides that way you can voice your concerns over him changing his mind, and it won’t be seen as an attack, really talk it all, promote honesty and chat in your household, be supportive of EVERYTHING while still holding a mature perspective, don’t punish wrongdoings when they tell you about it (they will just avoid telling you in the future), just talk it out. I wish you the best of hope, if you need ideas over products and things that are gender confirming feel free to ask. Anything that is not medical intervention you should promote, it’s the best way to alleviate their dysphoria as much as possible with as little permanent effect as possible.

Its not that the therapist pushing for transition is not a reasonable fear, it is, in their attempt to not fall into the so critiqued “gate-keeping” they push kids without offering much room for thought, by if you see the therapist alone you can evaluate their intentions and ask about them by yourself and then make a choice as to whether it’s a good therapist or not... as to ignoring it, I feel it just makes a rift between you and your child and it will cause them to ignore all your concerns even if they are logical because the trans community will push to say you are transphobic and trying to “keep your child from being happy because you don’t want them to be trans” rather than being concerned about their wellbeing in the future, if you are accepting and still convey your worries your child will be more likely to think about them and talk them with you rather than dismiss them, and also if your kid indeed is trans and will live happily for the rest of their after transitioning you can rest assured that you accepted them, and took the best supportive yet mature path as a parent. This is my view on it from what I saw from trans friends and their relationship with their parents and my own, and my therapist and my own process through transition, but keep in mind, I’m only 19, I don’t have children, and I am mentally ill, and I’m autistic, so it obviously changed the reasons why I transitioned and the way I see and experience things, consider this advice and think through it evaluating the dynamic of your relationship with your kid, and do think through how it will probably affect your child and their choices, but I hope that taking my perspective into account you’ll find the best way to help your child make the right choice for themselves. Good luck!

I even legally changed my name and gender marker I’m at loss, my name was Sofia, but after years of not using it it’s like it’s not mine anymore, I almost even changed my legal name to Danni which is the name I go by and everyone calls me, but noooo I had to go for Daniel legally. Also my country doesn’t allow more than one name change, I’m only allowed to go back to my birth name and never change the name again. I don’t know if I should keep danni I don’t know what to ask people, they associated Danni as a guy, so I don’t know if I can ask them to associate it with me being a girl again? I didn’t have a middle name and now I have Asher, talk about my shit choices, and ash isn’t a thing in spanish so fml. Wish you hope, I’m at loss too, but I know a lot of trans people change their names a bunch and try out different names tho usually in short periods of time and not years... try to find what will make you comfortable rather than others, good luck