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About me
I started identifying as a boy in my teens because I was bullied for being a masculine girl and felt repulsed by the idea of womanhood. I thought transitioning was an escape from that pain and even convinced myself I was a gay man to avoid accepting I was a lesbian. I realized my body is just a normal, healthy female one, and that the women in my family are built just like me. I now see my feelings were misdirected by trauma and internalized homophobia, not a need to change my sex. I've accepted myself as a masculine woman and a lesbian, and I'm glad I found peace without medical intervention.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was always a tomboy, and I got bullied relentlessly for it by both boys and girls. I felt like I never really fit in with other girls. When they started going through puberty and getting curves, I stayed really skinny and flat-chested. I was bullied for looking like a little boy, which gave me a lot of trauma about my body. I saw how girls my age were starting to be treated and objectified by men, and it made me feel sick and repulsed by my own body and the idea of womanhood.
Looking back, I think I saw transitioning as an escape. The idea of becoming a boy seemed like the perfect solution. I thought if I were a boy, I could finally be my masculine self without being tortured for it. I wouldn't have to deal with the problems that came with being a girl. I even convinced myself I was a gay trans man, which was just a way to avoid accepting that I was a lesbian. I was in deep denial because of internalized misogyny; I obviously wasn't attracted to men, so I performed these mental gymnastics to believe I only liked feminine, transmasculine people.
I only ever transitioned socially. I never took testosterone or had any surgeries. A big part of me learning to accept myself was realizing that my body is normal. The women in my family are all like me—broad shoulders, not many curves, a lot of body hair. My grandma even has alopecia and is bald. This is just how I’m built, and it’s healthy. I’ve learned that manly women are still women.
I now believe that a lot of my feelings were misdirected. I think there’s a lot of internalized misogyny and homophobia that gets disguised as gender dysphoria now. There’s this idea pushed, especially online, that if you’re a masculine woman or a lesbian, your life is miserable and transitioning is the better, happier option. I fell for that romantization. It’s ironic that a movement that claims to be progressive can make you feel wrong and pathetic for just being a woman who likes women.
My thoughts on gender are that there are two sexes, male and female. Gender is just the set of made-up expectations for those sexes. You don’t have to comply with those expectations—a man can wear dresses, a woman can be masculine—but that doesn’t mean you need to change your sex. I do think that for a very small number of people with genuine, diagnosed gender dysphoria that can’t be treated any other way, medical transition can make sense. But for me, and I think for many others, it was a solution to other problems like trauma, bullying, low self-esteem, and not accepting my homosexuality.
I don’t regret exploring my identity, but I am glad I didn’t medically transition. I’ve benefited from stepping away and working on accepting myself as a masculine woman and a lesbian. There is nothing wrong with being a woman, whether you’re feminine or masculine, and there is nothing wrong with loving women.
Age | Event |
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13-14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and being a girl. Bullied for being a tomboy. |
15 | Began identifying as transgender and started a social transition to male. |
17 | Realized my attraction to women was a factor and identified as a "gay trans man" to avoid being a lesbian. |
19 | Began to question my transition, started working on self-acceptance and overcoming internalized misogyny. |
20 | Stopped identifying as trans. Accepted myself as a masculine woman and a lesbian. |
Top Comments by /u/cumbris:
i was kind of deranged when i wrote this post ngl. i dont think all of the “transbians” are autogynophylic, obviously there are other reasons. i also dont think that most of them are trying to infiltrate lesbian spaces knowing that they are cis, but rather they believe that they are genuenly trans. nevertheless it still deeply hurts lesbians
well, i dont have an article in my hands right now (mostly because the majority of articles regarding transgederism are incredibly biased nowadays), but as a med student, if you go through the old psychiatry books (not even 20th century books, just the ones before gender ideology became the norm) they do mention that homosexuality is even more uncommon amongst transgender people than cisgender people. there is not a known explanation, but the idea that gender dysphoria caused most people to be attracted to the opposite gender they perceive themselves as was mainly accepted by doctors. you are free to not believe me because i cant show you evidence right now
It always baffles me when people say that women get more attention by default. You must be living in an alternate reality or something. If you are antisocial and don’t interact with people you are obviously not getting any attention, doesn’t matter your gender. And yes I have lived as both genders (and passed as a guy) and I was equally lonely. I guess you refer to the beautiful charming girl stereotype that all men wants to be with. The catch is that most women aren’t that.
I also participated in this romantization and for me it was a mix of factors that made it seem easier and happier to live as a boy. I have always been a tomboy and I was bullied because of it, so turning into a boy would mean that i could be myself and nobody would torture me for it, also, i have basically no curves, im really skinny and have really small breasts. I have a lot of trauma related to my figure because when other girls had already entered puberty i was still looking like a little boy, and guess what, both girls and boys bullied me for my appereance.Turning into a handsome teen boy that didn’t had to deal with this and other problems of womanhood and that could perform femininity without having to be associatied with a woman was the perfect scape to the trauma of being a girl.
well, this journals were just describing the trends that doctors saw on patients. they realised that most people they had diagnosed with gd also happenned to be heterosexual. whether some patients hid the fact that they had same sex attraction or not, we can’t know, but as i said there seemed to be consensus on this topic. it’s not deffinitive evidence but it deffinetly points in one direction. i think that if we go from almost no gay trans people to a good 40% nowadays as some sources claim, there’s something else going on apart from widespread acceptance
this was 100% me. i am gnc and i was bullyed so much for that my entire life. i also never related to other girls (not to sound corny, but its the truth) and seeing how girls were starting to be objectified by men once they hit puberty and also willingly partaked on the objectification made me sick to the point of being repulsed of my own body
I relate to this so much. Its ironic how this so called “progresist” and “inclusive” movement makes you feel wrong, belittled, lesser and pathetic for being a woman. And god forbid if you are a woman who is attracted to other women. You are basically deemed to live a miserable life because you dont get the glorious masculinity from anywhere. I have come to the conclusion that masculinity and men have been so glorified for so many centuries that misoginy is heavily imprinted in all of us. And guess what, now this people have found a way to disguise their misoginy as “gender dysphoria”. All we can do is spread the word to open people’s eyes and save girls from this craze. There is nothing wrong with being a woman, there is nothing wrong with being feminine, there is nothing wrong with being masculine and there is nothing wrong with liking women.
being trans is being uncomfortable with your sex (it has nothing to do with gender as people nowadays say). it is a mental disorder called gender dysphoria. some people decide to transition to alleviate their dysphoria and thats ok. being gay in the other hand is not a mental illness but a natural expression of human sexuality
Hi! I don’t know if it helps you, but i have never been on T (only socially transitioned) and look as or even more masculine than you. Because of my ethnicity I have broad shoulders, almost no curves, defined jawline, big nose, too many facial hair and body hair. Most women in my family are like this and my grandma even has alopecia making her have an absolutly bald head. This made me self consciouss but this is how im meant to be and im healthy, so im learning to accept myself. Remember: manly women are also women!
you are right, they dont make you trans. but a lot of people are telling teenagers that the symptoms caused by all of this things are actually just gender dysphoria. and you just cant negate this because its the experience of most people in this sub (specially women)