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The comments display a consistent, nuanced, and personal narrative of someone who identified as FtM, took testosterone, and then detransitioned. The user expresses complex emotions, offers personal advice, and references specific, verifiable details like a past post on r/ftm. The tone is passionate but reasonable, which is consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister.
About me
I started identifying as a transgender man when I was 16, mainly because I had a poor body image and an eating disorder. I confused my desire to look different and be strong with gender dysphoria. After a year on testosterone, I realized I hadn't dealt with my underlying issues and stopped. I've learned that I can be whoever I want to be without changing my gender. Now, I'm just focused on accepting myself as a female and moving forward with more self-awareness.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated and rooted in a lot of other issues I was dealing with. I started identifying as transgender, FtM, when I was around 16. I think a big part of it was that I had a really poor body image and what I now recognize as an eating disorder. I hated my body, especially my breasts, and I think I confused that feeling of just wanting to look different and be someone else with gender dysphoria. I wanted to be strong and masculine like characters I saw and idolized on TV, and I thought becoming a man was the only way to do that.
I was on testosterone injections for about a year, starting when I was 17. The doctors told me some of the side effects, like acne and vaginal dryness, but they didn't tell me everything. They didn't properly explain the risks to my fertility or the possibility of serious atrophy. I had to go online to ask other people about it. I wish I had gotten therapy for my other mental health issues, like my eating disorder and low self-esteem, before I ever started transitioning. I think if I had worked through those problems first, I might have realized that changing my gender wasn't the solution.
A question that really made me think was: "Can you imagine yourself as an elderly trans man?" and "If you were alone on a desert island with no one else to judge you, would you still choose to transition?" Nobody asked me those questions at the time, and I wish they had. It really puts things into perspective. For me, the answer was no. I also couldn't imagine myself getting old.
After about four years of identifying as FtM, I realized it wasn't right for me. I stopped testosterone and started to detransition. I don't know what to call myself now—FtMt?—but I'm just working on accepting myself and my body as it is. I've learned that I can be masculine or feminine, strong or intelligent, without it being tied to a gender. Gender doesn't matter to me anymore.
I don't regret my transition because it was a path I needed to walk to get to where I am now, which is a place of much more self-acceptance. I also don't have any hate for transgender people. The support group I went to was always supportive, even of my decision to detransition. I fully support any trans people in my life; if it makes them happy, that's what matters. I just believe that doctors and therapists need to be more careful and do a better job helping people work through their other issues before starting medical transition.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started identifying as FtM (female-to-male). |
| 17 | Began testosterone injections. |
| 18 | Stopped testosterone and began to detransition after realizing it wasn't right for me. |
Top Comments by /u/damdames:
Can you imagine yourself as an elderly transman/transwoman ? If you were alone on a desert island with no one else to judge you would you still choose to transition? (Some questions no one asked me that I wish they would’ve because it really puts things into perspective.) Another thing I wish I did was get therapy for my other mental health issues. Definitely get therapy and work through those issues before you transition. (Ex: if you have an eating disorder or eating disorder tendencies and a real shit body image, theres a good chance you might confuse dysphoria with just wanting to look different.) Pretty sure that last part is what I did, I was FtM for four years, testosterone injections in the last year and no surgeries. Now I don’t know who I want to be. (FtMt?) I am just working on accepting myself and my body and I will go from there, always keeping in mind that I am more than just my gender. I can be masculine, feminine or whatever. I can be strong, intelligent and just like that cool character I saw on TV and idolize. Gender does not matter to me anymore, but it used to.
As a minor whose been on HRT I’ll give my doctors some credit they told me SOME of the bad side affects (pimples, no idea the effect testosterone has on fertility, vaginal atrophy but they just went over the vaginal wall thinning and dryness but thats IT.) but definitely didn’t tell me the bad possibilities of what COULD happen being on T, like what happened to buck angel with his atrophy
I made a post on r/ftm months ago (when I still identified that way) where I asked about testosterone and its effects on fertility, which you can find right here . I wish you the best of luck and I hope things work out well for you. Take care !
Think about how it might not feel like a lie to your sibling, again think about how your sibling feels and try to push past your own feelings for your siblings sake. Try calling them he and watch for their reaction, see if his eyes light up when you do. Then maybe it won’t feel like such a lie. Sometimes in life your feelings don’t come first and thats not such a horrible thing when its something as small as your feelings on gender. But thats what love is about, putting others needs before your own. I wish you luck with your sibling.
Thats your brother until he tells you other wise, which may be never and you’ll have to learn to accept that. I hope you also learn to accept him someday. Family is more important than your views on gender identity, if transition is what makes he currently thinks is going to make him happy then support him. You’ll regret this years from now if you don’t, I’m sorry you feel as though you’ve lost a sister, but you’re gonna lose your sibling entirely if you don’t show them love. You only get one life, let your sibling choose what they want, whatever that may be. I wish you and your family happiness and I hope you can all sort this out together. Side note: Detransition usually does not make someone hate transgender people or think that they are just a fetish. I found out transition was not right for me but that did not fill me with hate. I will fully support any current/future trans people in my life, but thats just me because I don’t care about what someone identifies as, it does not affect me in any way. If it makes them happy that is what truly matters, and if it turns out it doesn’t, then I will support them through that too.
I’ve been wanting to do some form of therapy ever since I started questioning so I will definitely look into that! My sister is in college looking to become a psychologist so I’m sure if I ask her about it she can help lead me in the right direction. Good advice though I’ve just barely heard of that before now and I’m happy to hear it has been helpful to you.
I don’t think I was ever in a cult! I’ve never considered anything trans related a cult mentality unless its stuff like r / egg . In fact the transgender support group I used to go to (still kind of do) are super supportive of me and the idea of detransitioning. No actual trans person I’ve ever met in real life as tried to convince me to stay/be trans but to do what makes me happy. I agree that trans people should be monitored better when taking HRT for safety purposes and I wish they would’ve done more research before releasing HRT to the public in my amateur opinion.
I’ve asked that question to friends and most just say “yeah I can’t really imagine myself getting old, I can barely imagine myself in 10 years from now. And I haven’t ever actually gotten the answer you got so I’d say its a good question for some, and less good for people who have such internalized misogyny.