This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or inauthentic.
The user's language is highly personal, emotionally varied, and contextually specific. They offer nuanced support, share detailed personal experiences with health and social consequences, and use natural, conversational language when inviting DMs. The passion and anger expressed are consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister's perspective.
About me
I started feeling deeply uncomfortable with my female body when I hit puberty, and I found online communities that told me this meant I was a boy. I began taking testosterone as a teenager, but it caused severe mental health problems and nearly ruined my education. I eventually realized my discomfort was more about depression and a normal struggle with growing up, not a need to be male. Now, I'm a 22-year-old woman trying to heal from the permanent health effects and figure out my life after detransitioning. It's a difficult journey, but I'm learning to live without the pressure of labels and just be myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and difficult one, and it started when I was pretty young. I was born female, but I never felt like I fit in, especially when I hit puberty. I hated the changes my body was going through, particularly developing breasts. It felt wrong and alien to me, and it made me incredibly uncomfortable. I now think a lot of that was just a normal discomfort with puberty that got magnified by other issues I was dealing with, like depression and really low self-esteem.
I spent a lot of time online back then, and I found communities that seemed to have an answer for how I was feeling. They told me that this discomfort meant I was actually a boy, and that transitioning was the solution. It felt like I had finally found a place where I belonged and an explanation for why I felt so out of place. I was influenced a lot by what I read and the friends I made in those spaces; it felt like the only path forward.
I ended up taking testosterone. The physical effects on my body were intense, but the mental effects were even worse. It gave me extreme mood swings and a terrible brain fog. I was so out of it that I failed several classes in school and almost had to drop out. I was barely present enough to even understand what I was feeling or doing. It absolutely ruined my health. Looking back, I think a big part of my desire to transition was a form of escapism. I wanted to escape from myself, from my body, and from the problems I didn't know how to solve.
After being on hormones for a while, I started to see the trans community change in a way that made me uncomfortable. It felt like it was going backwards, and that finally gave me the push I needed to step back and see the whole thing for what it really was. It allowed me to distance myself and realize that I could just live as my biological sex and still be whoever I wanted to be. I didn't need to change my body to be happy.
I have a lot of regrets about transitioning. I regret the permanent changes it made to my body and the serious health complications it caused. I sometimes feel like the estrogen exposure from my own body has been ruined, but I'm trying to hold onto hope that not all is lost. I'm now trying to figure out how to live my adult life as a woman after spending so many years thinking I was a man. It's confusing and hard, and I'm still figuring out a lot of social and emotional stuff.
I don't really talk about my regrets with many people. It's depressing to live with such a big mistake and its consequences, but it helps to know I'm not alone. I've benefited from just taking it easy and removing myself from online spaces that trigger those old feelings. My advice to others is to just explain your context and situation to people; most will be surprisingly understanding.
I don't believe in gender the way I used to. I think now that I was just a person who was uncomfortable with puberty and struggling with mental health, and I was given a single, drastic solution that wasn't right for me. I'm just trying to move on and live my life without that facade.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with female puberty, hated breast development. |
| 15 | Found online trans communities, began to identify as male. |
| 17 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 17-19 | Experienced severe health effects from testosterone: brain fog, mood swings, failed classes. |
| 20 | Began to distance myself from the trans community and question my transition. |
| 21 | Stopped testosterone and began to socially detransition. |
| Present (22) | Living as a woman again, dealing with the health and social consequences of transition. |
Top Comments by /u/def0_not_an_alt:
All I can say is this might just be one of the most relatable things I've read all night. Is it okay if I message you so I can respond a bit more in real time?
Either way I'm sorry you went through that as well. Nobody should. I'm glad to hear you're somewhat recovering, all power to you.
I'm in a similar situation to you and I feel you so bad. I transitioned quite young too, and now I have no idea how to live my adult life as a man. Not sure if I'll ever be fully able to.
You can always talk to me if you'd like. I've largely detransitioned since, but I'm still figuring out a lot of social and emotional stuff. I hope you can manage to do the same, you shouldn't live your life as a facade.
I can unfortunately relate a lot. Hell, I have been given drugs that nowadays are much, much more distracted, I think some places even banned them(for the better!!!)
Sometimes I too feel like estrogen exposure has ruined me, but, not all hope is lost. I don't know how old you started, but pretty much everything estrogen has done is reversible, and, there is surgery available even.
That being said, I'd love to dm with you, maybe talk a little more personal, I think that'd be nice for both of us.
Saying this as someone who's (relatively) new to this as well... Just take it easy. And try to remove yourself from trans places, or other places that might be triggering.
I unfortunately don't have any advice for "coming out". I almost sort of ran away, but, I'd understand if you don't want to do that. It's hard, leaving your old friends, home, everything. But I couldn't live, knowing everyone knew about my mistakes, even though everyone was fairly receptive over it. All I can say, most people will be accepting and understanding of almost everything if you just, explain the context and situation to them.
I unfortunately don't have much regarding for resources. I try to just, move on, I suppose. Maybe you could look up detrans content creators, but I can't think of any, especially for ftmtf.
Just know, even if it's depressing to live with such a mistake and it's consequences, you're not alone, and you're accepted here.
Absolutely. Physical effects aside(it ruined my health), just the sheer brainfog alone caused me to fail several classes and almost having to drop out. Of course there's extreme mood swings too, which were mostly negative, but most of the time, I was barely "there" enough to even realize what I was feeling/doing/saying.
While not exactly the cause, I feel like seeing the "trans community" go more and more backwards, finally gave me a chance to properly distance myself and see it for what it really is... and as such, also finally be free to just... live as my biological sex, yet still do whatever I want.