i grew up under similar circumstances to your kid, no apparent trauma, affluent parents, i was taking martial arts classes with male friends. i was completely convinced that i needed blockers and hrt at 13, started at 15, at the time i was so sure that natural puberty was going to ruin me and i would be miserable in the future as a woman. but really I think i just needed therapy specifically for severe body dysmorphia, not "gender dysphoria", and for someone to really try to convince me that i could have accepted my body for how it naturally is. that i couldve accepted myself as a woman and still done everything else in my life exactly the same. my parents always took me to specifically trans-positive therapists so of course they were going to affirm the HRT path. i remember my dad asked me back then what i thought it meant to be a man and i didnt have an answer, i just wanted to "be" one. in retrospect it was all based on a subconsiously-conservative perspective of gender roles. wanting to be someone else is a totally natural feeling for a kid. hell, at that age i wanted to be a vampire with all my heart too and i wouldve taken vampire drugs if it existed lol. not to say you should convince your child they arent trans or they shouldnt be feminine or associate with women. just love them how they are and let them express their identity without getting them dependent on elective medicine for life.

i'm getting a bit sick of those posts too, they are getting repetitive and honestly 99% of them aren't even asking for unique advice that warrents a new discussion. they could get all of the same "advice" by thoroughly reading about voluntarily shared detransitioners' experiences here and internally reflecting over some time on how it applies to them. "i hated growing up as a boy/girl and i have etc issues and i have been really happy with the new type of attention from transitioning but i also have doubts. i will probably go back to the trans community after this and tell them how negative and fearmongering detransitioners are, but should i detransition??" like pls

it's honestly so embarrassing. i think if someone had sat me down back then and earnestly told me like "this is a wierd thing to do, you are enabling your own self esteem issues, and you are making a fool out of yourself", i wouldve snapped out of it so quick. i really thought transitioning was some noble struggle that i was bravely pioneering .-. in retrospect it's all so fucking dumb.

growing up is realizing the t3rfs were right. if you take off the pronouns, trans flags, and anime girl icons from t3rf-hating rhetoric and lesbianactually posts and look at their words with a little disbelief then it is so easy to see it's all male entitlement, from petty insults to lesbians down to the r*pe and violence threats.

they get away with carrying that sentiment because t3rfs are "literally genociding trans women" as if anyone who actually commits violence against trans women are doing it in the name of radical feminism, ignoring that the majority of trans homicides were perpetrated by men against sex workers. or that the majority of cultural transphobia stems from conservative homophobia. No, it's more convenient to blame the women who wont let us into their girls-only club, let's make their lives hell, while somehow successfully convincing the general public that it's socially progressive. it's really sad.

first impression with short hair was AFAB androgynous, but with the longer hair, AMAB. in my opinion, the longer hair seems flat/unkept in a stereotypical mtf way and with the men's glasses frames does give mtf vibes. A feminine haircut (maybe with thin curtain bangs) with a little bit of fluffing would go a long way.

He did understand you. At least, how i read it, is that you can show love and compassion by having empathy for people in the state of mind that drives trans-identified people to do what they do. you can still be kind to them in person to person. in my opinion though enabling the trans movement-especially knowing what all of us here know now-and celebrating a culture of cosmetic surgery and hormonal steroid abuse to "cure" body dysmorphia is the opposite of love and compassion

first of all, specifically why do you want to be a woman? is it the lifestyle, the physical appearance, the gender roles, fetishization, a new identity? there are many reasons someone would want to be the other gender (and 99% of them can be coped with in healthier ways than transitioning) so maybe we could help better with that context

to clarify, are you shaving immediately beforehand? what products are you using? my first thought is that your concealer isn't thick enough or is maybe wearing off. I have very pale skin with dark hair so after shaving I still have specks where the roots are. I find that primer + peach concealer + green concealer + skin tone concealer + foundation + powder works the best for me. I use a blending sponge between each layer. I use elf products except for the L.A. Girl brand peach concealer and maybelline foundation. it sounds like a lot but each layer does not take much time at all and each product is only $5-10

i dunno what field you work in, or how your company culture is, i'm in a tech field. i transitioned as a teenager (including a hysterectomy) so everything was very low-stakes back then. now i have a career with a degree in my old name. i see a lot of people here talking about the reception of detransitioning to their friends/family socially, and to their jobs that seem more casual than careers that require professional licenses etc. or they transitioned for only a few years, and havent gone as "far deep" into it as it sounds like you and i have. so it is a little comfort to know that i'm not alone in this process because it feels like nobody else really gets the unique circumstance of detransitioning after 5+ stealth years especially in a professional context. i was about to make a post about it, too.

i havent changed my name legally yet (waiting on court processing documents) and i might end up in a similar situation in the next couple weeks where everything in my life is stuck in between legal names. i work remotely 99% of the time and am considering just keeping my male name in the profesional context even if i look like a woman at the occasional in-person event. at the end of the day i tell myself i am at work to work, not to be my true authentic self. it does feel really isolating and vulnerable to have this specific issue because nobody on the planet really gets it or understands how emotionally draining it is to bear this kind of burden.

in my opinion i dont think that being as far in as we are, is "too far gone". i dont think "too far gone" really exists in any context. it sounds like your license situation could be resolved within the next year. at that point maybe they will have new openings at another office, maybe they wont, maybe you'll find another company with equally good health insurance and pay. all there is to do is take it one day at a time and anticipate a better future. it's not fair to rob yourself of the rest of your life over the pain of a temporary period. hang in there.

from a stranger's perspective, comparing a few sample images between two people who i have never seen before, i would say that 90% of the "similarity" that commenter might have seen is just that you two have similar skin tones, similar styles of makeup and hair, and the same eye color. when actually looking closer and comparing your faces, every single feature is obviously different. like if someone saw a single flattering picture of kris, let it get filtered by their brain for a couple weeks, then saw a picture of you, maybe they would make that connection. for what it's worth, my first thought was that you look more like a cis woman professor i had in college.