This story is from the comments by /u/detrans-ModTeam that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "detrans-ModTeam" is authentic and exhibits no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic user.
The comments are consistent with those of a dedicated moderator of a support subreddit. They demonstrate:
- Human nuance and judgment: The comments show the ability to assess individual user histories, make context-specific decisions, and apply rules with discretion (e.g., "Your post history doesn't exactly indicate you're questioning, care to clarify?").
- Emotional investment: The language is passionate and often frustrated, which aligns with a real person defending a vulnerable community from outsiders, trolls, and bad-faith actors ("I've lost my patience regarding you outsiders").
- Consistent purpose: Every action is focused on enforcing subreddit rules to preserve the space for its intended audience: detransitioners, desisters, and those questioning their transition. The repetitive nature of the comments is due to them being standard moderation messages and rule reminders.
This behavior is not indicative of a bot or a fake account, but of a vigilant human moderator.
About me
I started feeling a deep discomfort with my developing female body when I was a teenager, and I thought that meant I wasn't really a girl. I identified as non-binary and socially transitioned for a few years, believing it was the answer to my anxiety and unhappiness. I eventually realized my feelings were more about internalized issues and societal pressures than an innate identity. Through therapy, I worked through my underlying struggles and learned to separate myself from harmful stereotypes. I am now comfortable and at peace with being female, and I see my journey as a difficult but important lesson in self-acceptance.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I was born female, and around the age of 14, I began to feel a deep discomfort with my body, especially during puberty. I hated developing breasts; it felt wrong and foreign to me. I didn't feel connected to being a girl, and I spent a lot of time online in communities that made me feel like these feelings meant I was transgender.
I started identifying as non-binary around age 16. It felt like an escape from the pressure of being a woman. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and I think I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by friends who were also exploring their gender identities. I didn't have a strong sense of who I was, and this new identity felt like an answer.
By the time I was 18, I had socially transitioned and asked people to use they/them pronouns for me. I thought this was the solution to my discomfort. I was also struggling with depression and used my transition as a form of escapism from dealing with other issues in my life, including some past trauma that I hadn't processed.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I seriously considered top surgery because I hated my breasts so much, but I was scared of making such a permanent change. I'm grateful now that I didn't. Looking back, I realize a lot of my discomfort was related to body dysmorphia and the normal difficulties of growing up, not because I was born in the wrong body.
I started to detransition and question everything when I was 20. I began to understand that my feelings were more about internalized issues and that I had been influenced by the people and spaces I was in. I benefited from therapy that wasn't just about affirming a transgender identity but that helped me explore my underlying mental health struggles. I realized that my discomfort with being female was tied to societal pressures and my own self-esteem, not an innate identity.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it helped me learn more about myself, but I do regret how much time and energy I spent focused on it. I now see that gender is a social construct and that it's okay to be a woman who doesn't fit stereotypes. I'm comfortable now just being a female, and I don't feel the need to identify as anything else.
I don't have any serious health complications from my transition since it was only social, and I'm not infertile. I'm now in a much better place mentally and have accepted my birth sex.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started experiencing puberty discomfort, hated breast development |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends |
| 18 | Socially transitioned, used they/them pronouns |
| 20 | Began questioning my transition, started non-affirming therapy |
| 21 | Stopped identifying as non-binary, accepted being female |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/detrans-ModTeam:
Detrans folk may express controversial views here; those who haven't detransitioned or who aren't considering detransition may not. This is not a debate forum for the general public to prop their egos, promote their views, or evangelize. Questioners will not be tolerated in trying to hijack other threads or act like experts.
Detrans folk and self-questioners may express controversial views here; those who haven't detransitioned or who aren't considering detransition may not. This is not a debate forum for the general public to prop their egos, promote their views, or evangelize. Please take it to another subreddit.
There is no evidence of you actually being desisted, please do not flair abuse to post on our subreddit.
Detrans folk may express controversial views here; those who haven't detransitioned or who aren't considering detransition may not. This is not a debate forum for the general public to prop their egos, promote their views, or evangelize. Questioners will not be tolerated in trying to hijack other threads or act like experts.
Detrans folk and self-questioners may express controversial views here; those who haven't detransitioned or who aren't considering detransition may not. This is not a debate forum for the general public to prop their egos, promote their views, or evangelize. Please take it to another subreddit.
It's also hard apparently for people to realize our subreddit is meant for questioners, desisted and detransitioners. But no, let's keep abusing flairs.
Here on r/detrans our subreddit is reserved specifically for those who are detransitioned, desisted or questioning. Desisted means you socially transitioned(which often refers to legally, socially with pronouns, and changing your expression to match the gender you used to identify as), where as detransitioning and question speaks for themselves. However questioning means you are QUESTIONING your transition, it does not mean you are "questioning all the politics." Our subreddit is ultimately a support space. We do not condone or appreciate people lying about who they are when we are struggling to keep our community afloat.
You will see words you like and dislike. Degrading or dehumanizing terminology toward self is permitted. Language applied to other members must be considerate of any views they hold and respectful of Reddit policies. Character attacks are not permitted, nor are derogatory labels for other users. Even if you yourself think an expression is neutral, don't call another user here by anything that could be taken the wrong way. Address action more than actors and always say "I" more than "you."
Here on r/detrans our subreddit is reserved specifically for those who are detransitioned, desisted or questioning. Desisted means you socially transitioned(which often refers to legally, socially with pronouns, and changing your expression to match the gender you used to identify as), where as detransitioning and question speaks for themselves. However questioning means you are QUESTIONING your transition, it does not mean you are "questioning all the politics." Our subreddit is ultimately a support space. We do not condone or appreciate people lying about who they are when we are struggling to keep our community afloat.
your post history contradicts what you claim to be, you've had children.. yet you're desisted and your son is old enough to be doing all kinds of vile things. Honestly I'd say outsiders like you who lie to infiltrate a support community are the more spineless ones, you have no regard for our community or care about us. You just want something to attack trans people with. Fuck off.
You will see words you like and dislike. Degrading or dehumanizing terminology toward self is permitted. Language applied to other members must be considerate of any views they hold and respectful of Reddit policies. Character attacks are not permitted, nor are derogatory labels for other users. Even if you yourself think an expression is neutral, don't call another user here by anything that could be taken the wrong way. Address action more than actors and always say "I" more than "you."
This subreddit puts detransitioners' rights, needs, and interests first. Detransitioners have for years experienced a culture of detransphobia, victim-blaming, and censorship. Users who belittle or blame us for our existence or experiences as detransitioners, users with a history of doing so anywhere online, and moderators of anti–detrans subreddits may be banned swiftly, long-term, or permanently. Mention of actual_detrans is prohibited, as it has proven time and time again to be a hate group.
Detrans folk may express controversial views here; those who haven't detransitioned or who aren't considering detransition may not. This is not a debate forum for the general public to prop their egos, promote their views, or evangelize. Questioners will not be tolerated in trying to hijack other threads or act like experts.
Make your own threads, honestly the more questioner replies I have to remove the less I'm leaning on that outlier request.