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About me
I was a tomboy who always hated girly things and felt uncomfortable with my body, especially when I developed during puberty. I found online communities that convinced me transitioning to male was the only answer, so I got on a waiting list for testosterone. I woke up just in time after realizing how dangerous it was and how they hid the serious health risks. I went to therapy that helped me work through my issues and learn to accept my female body instead of trying to change it. Now I'm grateful to be healthy and I believe we should help people be comfortable in their own skin, not encourage them to alter it.
My detransition story
My journey with this started when I was very young. I was always a tomboy and never liked girly things. I looked up to my dad and mimicked him from a young age. I was uncomfortable around other girls, preferred hanging out with boys, and always picked male characters in video games. I also always hated my body, but I never wanted to be male.
My discomfort with puberty was intense. I hated the development of my breasts and felt a deep sense of wrongness with my changing body. I now see this as a mix of body dysmorphia and the normal, though difficult, discomfort that comes with growing up. At the time, I was also struggling with depression and very low self-esteem. I now believe my desire to transition was a form of escapism from these feelings; I thought becoming someone else would fix the pain I was in.
I was heavily influenced by what I saw online. The trans communities I found presented transition as the only solution for someone who felt like I did. They made it seem brave and peachy, and I fell for it. I started identifying as non-binary first, but that quickly escalated to wanting to fully transition to male. I got on a waiting list for testosterone.
What stopped me was a growing sense of suspicion. I started seeing how the community operated—it felt like a cult that didn't care about my health, only about recruiting more people. They never talked about the serious health complications or the fact that the long-term effects of hormones are a complete mystery. I read about one of the oldest female-to-male transmen who almost died from uterus atrophy, and it terrified me. I realized they were not telling us the whole story.
I never went through with taking hormones or getting any surgery. I am so grateful I woke up in time. I benefited immensely from non-affirming therapy that helped me work through my trauma and my body issues. The therapy taught me that I needed to make my mind match my body, not my body match my mind. The older I get, the more I appreciate my body for what it is.
I don't believe I was ever truly trans. I think I was a confused, traumatized tomboy who was influenced by a harmful online movement. I have major regrets about ever starting down that path and believing the lies, but I am thankful every day that I stopped before doing any permanent damage to my healthy body.
My thoughts on gender are simple: gender dysphoria is a real feeling, but it is a mental illness that needs to be treated, not encouraged with hormones and surgery. Discomfort, especially during puberty, is often mistaken for dysphoria. We need to help people be comfortable in their own bodies, not tell them to change them.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Always a tomboy. Hated girly things. Uncomfortable around girls. Looked up to my dad. |
| Puberty (approx. 12-13) | Hated breast development. Felt intense body discomfort and dysmorphia. |
| 19 | Heavily influenced online. Identified as non-binary. |
| 20 | Planned medical transition (testosterone). Got on a waiting list. |
| 20 | Researched health risks, became suspicious of the community. Cancelled plans. |
| 20 | Started non-affirming therapy to address trauma and body issues. |
| Now (21) | Detransitioned. Learning to appreciate my body. |
Top Comments by /u/dinorap1:
Do you guys think there is an overuse of the word dysphoria?
Absolutely. More specifically, excessive misuse of the word “dysphoria.” Discomfort itself is often mistaken for dysphoria. Yes, periods are uncomfortable, painful, and gross. Does this mean you are dysphoric over the fact that you have periods? Not exactly.
You guys DESERVE a voice and your experiences do NOT undermine others! The trans community is rife full of attention-seekers and they don’t want others telling them the realistic side of transitioning. The possible regrets, the health complications.
But that’s okay.
Don’t let that discourage any of you, because you are all valid, deserve help, and are worthy of love.
The way scientific truth (in regards to transgenderism, at least) gets you suspended on Twitter is pretty fucking telling of how much trans ideology is all based on emotion, not logic.
Parents, teens and (regrettably) children need to be educated on this subject... hell, everyone in the LGBT community needs to know this.
Nah. I just believe this trans thing is getting out of hand and a lot of people aren’t getting proper help, they’re getting encouraged to take hormones and alter their bodies when it hasn’t really been studied what the long-term effects it can have on people are... people need to be safer.
To me it just sounds like you are a tomboy... I am one too. I’ve always looked up to my dad and have mimicked him from a young age. I never liked girly things, I always picked boy characters in video games and hung around with boys. I was uncomfortable around girls.
I’ve always hated my body too (never wanted to be a male though.) but the older I get, the more I start to appreciate it for what it is. Taking HRT will only destroy your healthy body that you have now, unfortunately.
Trauma really does distort the mind in strange ways. Your body dysmorphia might tie back to it... transitioning in the long run will not be healthy for you. It isn’t for anyone, no matter how peachy it appears from the outside looking in. Therapy would benefit you a lot, I’d wager.
I may have woken up, but the transgender nightmare is only getting worse for the world.
You couldn’t be more right. The trans movement is taking the world for a delusional rollercoaster ride of hell. It NEEDS to stop.
Yes, gender dysphoria is real. No, it doesn’t mean you’re the opposite sex, it means you have a mental illness that needs to be TREATED, not ENCOURAGED.
For your health, it’s a very good idea to stop hormone blockers now. It has been linked to serious health complications you do not want to have. Not to mention, one of the oldest FtM transmen almost died from uterus atrophy and got a serious infection that almost killed him.
Trans people have NO idea what is going to happen to their bodies in the long run. It’s a complete mystery. And I love your quote: “I need to make my mind match my body, not my body match my mind.”
It’s kind of sad that the overly woke people have overused those words so much to the point that they have practically lost their meaning in any other serious conversation.
But the word ‘valid’ still holds meaning. It means your struggles and successes are meaningful, worthy of attention, regardless of what some others think of you.
Ugh. If I were going to school these days I would probably have fallen victim to this brainwashing. I am very tomboyish, always have been. Never liked a girly thing in my life. But I have no interest in transitioning whatsoever, nor do I feel the need to simply because I like boyish things.
Exactly, the trans community does NOT give a shit about your well-being or health, they just want to lure more and more children and vulnerable insecure people into their cult.
Unfortunately, not nearly enough research has been put into this and the surgeries and hormones are experimental. But the earlier you stop and detransition, the lower your chance of having complications.