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The user's narrative is highly specific, nuanced, and internally consistent over two months. They describe a complex personal experience (a desisted male taking estrogen while living as a man, being married with kids) that is not a common bot or troll narrative. Their tone is empathetic and supportive of others, which aligns with a genuine community member who has experienced significant personal struggle.
About me
I was born male but had a deep feeling I wanted to be female, so I started taking estrogen. My medical care was very responsible, and while the hormones helped a little, they didn't change my body drastically. I realized I could never actually become female and that trying to live as a woman was an impossible goal. I now live comfortably as a feminine man and still take a low dose of estrogen to manage my feelings. I don't have big regrets; I was trying to heal my suffering and am now focused on moving forward.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I had this deep feeling that I just wanted to be female. I was born male and I really had no reason to be dissatisfied with that, but the feeling was just there. I thought, and still think, that being a woman fundamentally means being female, and I knew I could never truly become that. But the feeling was so strong that I decided to try medical transition anyway, hoping that getting closer to female would be enough to make me happy.
I started taking estrogen. The doctors at my clinic were actually very thorough and careful. They monitored all my hormone levels closely and made sure to address any potential issues, like the different types of estrogen and progesterone. It wasn't the reckless process some people describe; my healthcare was responsible. The estrogen did help with some of my dysphoria, but it never had a massive, pronounced effect on my body. The main change was that it made me look about fifteen years younger. I developed a small chest, but it's easy to hide. I didn't have any issues with sexual function, but as far as I know, the hormones made me sterile. My wife and I are married with kids and didn't want any more, so that wasn't a problem for us.
I realized that trying to fully transition and live as a woman was an impossible goal. You can't actually change your sex. I came to see that being a gender non-conforming man—a feminine man—is miles easier than trying to integrate yourself medically, socially, and legally into the opposite sex. A transitioned person is like the hyper-extreme version of a GNC person, and it's incredibly difficult.
So now, I live my life as a man. I still take estrogen because it does help manage the dysphoric feelings, but I don't try to present as a woman anymore. I've let go of the labels. My focus now is just on living my life in a way that makes me comfortable, without worrying about what others think or what box I'm supposed to fit into. I'm not perfectly happy, but then again, nobody is. I try to look forward, not back.
I don't have big regrets about transitioning. I was suffering and I did what I thought I needed to do to try and heal that suffering. I don't think it was the best solution, but it was my path. I don't think I "fucked up" my whole life. I'm just trying to make the best of the life I have now.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| (Age not specified) | Started taking estrogen (HRT) under careful medical supervision. |
| (Age not specified) | Realized medical transition could not make me female and decided to stop trying to live as a woman. |
| (Present) | Currently live as a man, but continue to take estrogen to manage dysphoria. |
Top Comments by /u/distilledbitters:
It’s not just trans healthcare. The problem I find is that a medical institution might not provide a service, like tubal ligation, because it’s against their religious views. Many of the physicians working for these hospitals don’t have an issue with providing the specific service but they can’t due the administrative policies of the hospital. Many hospitals have religious affiliations. Some people can’t get abortions or sterilization because the only hospital nearby is a Christian hospital.
What specifically is making you feel disgusted with yourself? I read some of your recent posts on other subs, I hope you know it’s okay to be woman who takes testosterone if thats what really makes you happy. I’m a male who takes estrogen. I try my best not to focus on labels/others opinions and just live life my way. I’m not perfectly happy, but reality is that no one is
You haven’t “fucked up” your whole life. You’re 26, that is young in the grand scheme. You could potentially have a truly fulfilling life ahead of you. There’s lots of really great people here on this sub who’ve been through very similar experiences. You aren’t (and never have been) disgusting. You were suffering and did what you could to heal that suffering. Sorry for prying, but I skimmed your comments and see you’re seeing a therapist Monday. That’s really great! Look forward, not back.
At least in my experience, it’s so much easier to be GNC than it is to be Trans. I believe sex dysphoria is real, it can be intense, and it causes some to attempt transition. Being a feminine man or a masculine woman is miles easier than fully integrating yourself medically, socially, and legally into the sphere of the opposite sex. It’s impossible to transition fully into male or female, so to some extent a transitioned person (trans) is the hyper extreme version of a GNC person and it’s not easy.
I thought (and still think) that being a woman meant being a female. I really have no reason to be dissatisfied as a male. I don’t have any special reason why I want to be female, I just do. I made an attempt to transition medically in hopes of getting close enough to female so I might be happy, but it’ll never be enough. I still take hrt but that’s it.
I’m married with kids and take estrogen still even though I live as a man. It does help me with dysphira but it hasn’t had a massively pronounced effect on my body, other than looking 15years younger. My chest is easy to hide and I haven’t had any issues with sexual function. As far as I know, I’m sterile at this point but we don’t want anymore kids. You really need to involve your spouse in any decisions you plan on making (unless you are planing on dissolving the marriage anyways).
There are also REAL endocrinologists who are not alarmed by hrt too. My experience was my doctor was very thorough. All of my hormone levels were watched very carefully and the issues in OP’s shared post (E1, E2, E3, low testosterone, and cycling progesterone) were all discussed and addressed by the clinic I visited. It’s not at all like the post suggests (at least it wasn’t for me) my doctors were careful to cover their bases. I don’t think transitioning is the best solution by any means but I think it’s unfair to spread misinformation about it. Misinformation is the biggest issue I have with the trans community.