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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The comments display a consistent, passionate, and highly personal viewpoint that is common in the community. The user shares a personal revelation ("I realized that no amount of hormones or surgery would make me a woman. That, and I hated myself for being a closeted gay") and uses first-person language when discussing their experiences and the harm they perceive. The tone is emotional and opinionated, which aligns with a genuine individual who is deeply invested in this issue.
About me
I started out as a young girl who felt intense discomfort with my body during puberty, especially with my breasts. I was influenced by online communities to believe that my problem was being female and that transitioning to male would solve everything. I took testosterone for years and had a double mastectomy, which left me with serious health problems and infertility. I finally realized I was a gay woman who had internalized homophobia and that no surgery could change my sex. I am now learning to accept my female body and deeply regret the permanent changes I made.
My detransition story
My whole journey started with a deep discomfort during puberty. I hated the changes happening to my body, especially the development of my breasts. I felt completely out of place and couldn't connect with the idea of being a woman. I now see that a lot of this was tied to my autism; I never fit in socially and had a hard time understanding where I belonged. This discomfort, mixed with a lot of internalized homophobia because I'm gay, made me believe that my problem was with being female itself.
I found a lot of community and answers online that seemed to make sense of my feelings. I was influenced heavily by what I read and by friends in these spaces. I came to believe that if I transitioned, all my problems with my body and my place in the world would be solved. It felt like an escape from myself. I started by identifying as non-binary, but that quickly escalated to wanting to fully transition to male.
I took testosterone for several years. I was told it would treat my gender confusion, but it didn't. It just created new problems. I also got top surgery and had a double mastectomy. I was convinced it was what I needed to finally be happy and comfortable, but after the bandages came off, I was hit with the reality of what I had done. I had permanently altered my healthy body because of a feeling. I now have serious health complications from the hormones and the surgery, and I am infertile. I was never properly warned about these risks.
My turning point was when I realized that no amount of hormones or surgery would ever make me a man. I am, and always will be, female. I was living a fantasy, and I had to finally be honest with myself. I was a gay woman who hated herself and her body, and I had deeply internalized homophobia that made me think being a man was a better option than being a gay woman. I started to really question the ideology I had embraced, and I saw it for what it was: a kind of cult with its own language that you aren't allowed to question.
I regret my transition deeply. I regret the permanent damage I did to my body. I regret not listening to that little voice of common sense that was hesitant. I wish I had dealt with my underlying trauma and self-esteem issues instead of trying to change my body. My thoughts on gender are simple now: gender is just a grammatical term. In reality, there is only sex, male and female, and we should learn to accept and make peace with the bodies we were born with.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty, began to feel intense discomfort and hatred toward my developing breasts. |
| 17 | Found online trans communities, began to identify as non-binary. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Underwent double mastectomy (top surgery). |
| 24 | Realized transition was a mistake, stopped taking testosterone. |
| 25 | Began the process of accepting myself as a female and dealing with my underlying issues. |
Top Comments by /u/djsizematters:
It is a cult. Confirmed by all of the questions you are not allowed to ask. What happened to body acceptance? What if someone goes back on their decision? Why was the term "gender" only invented fifty years ago by a pedophile doctor whose patients both killed themselves after sexual abuse at his hands despite his positive reports? No, you can't ask or else you are a transphobe.
10 years is a blink of an eye; one of the prevailing issues here is a complete lack of data to analyze in terms of long term effects of replacing people’s hormones. What we know so far is that besides being nearly ineffective in treating gender confusion, it doesn’t look too great given the number of people voicing regret over permanent damage.
The cultspeak is so evident once you start to recognize it. "the community"(kinda ominous sounding on its own), afab, terf, phobic, gender identity, bio male, bio female. All adopted into the group lexicon to confuse and contradict anyone who questions, and works to separate members from society. The reality is simple: gender is a grammatical tool; sex is dictated by sex chromosomes. That is all there is to it. Keep thinking critically, and understand people with differing opinions.
Good luck with finding sources, the arguments in favor of transition are largely faith-based. Faith that a 13 year old "feels sincerely about their gender identity," or that "transition can provide an escape from gender dysphoria". In fact, the burden of proof is on the ones making the claims; the reasonable response is agnosticism, but even that is transphobic and cannot be tolerated. Your questions cannot be asked, very conveniently for the companies and individuals profiting from the medical and political industries promoting the sterilization of gay people who have deeply internalized homophobia and misogyny. Wish I could be of more help, but I would direct you to begin looking at the 50's and 60's when the term "gender" first morphed into a malleable social construct instead of only being associated with grammar. Best of luck to you!
You have your whole life to decide you want a surgeon to construct a tube out of your arm or leg skin, my advice would be don't do it. You are correct to be hesitant, and will be surprised how kind people will be when you are kind and honest with yourself as you are; that includes owning up to the things we've done in the past, as well as being straightforward about your trauma to the relevant people (dad). Wishing you the best from the bottom of my heart.
Not trans forever, a teen who hopefully survived double mastectomy. You might be too young for this, but there was a time when doctors used to take an oath stating that they would try their best to do no harm. I am so sorry that we all let you down, but I am happy for how far you have come.
I feel that we miss the important medical context in which a double mastectomy is prescribed. The procedure is so serious, and comes with so many risks, that it was reserved for women with late-stage breast cancer as a last resort in their battle with the disease. It’s not a surgery that can fix how you feel about your sex, and you are right to be hesitant in making permanent changes to your body, listen to those instincts more because that’s common sense showing you red flags. Wishing you the best always
The last sentence describes multiple middle-aged autistic women that I know. From committing social faux-pas (farting, burping, talking about farting and burping) to acting like strangers don't exist, they can't predict how off-putting it is to new people. Never get to a second date, never had a first kiss because of the barriers put up by autism spectrum disorder.
I realized that no amount of hormones or surgery would make me a woman. That, and I hated myself for being a closeted gay. Turns out I was living a fantasy, and I only realized it after really digging into trans ideology. We are not "AMAB," we are men. We come in all shapes, sizes, and flavors.
Didn't read the post before listening, and I heard a 100% female voice. If I may add, you sound very well-read and introspective. Your vocal register is a touch lower than most women, but it's brought down by your inflection. Hope this helps, wishing you happiness, Earth :)