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About me
I started hating my body when I hit puberty and my breasts developed, and I fell into online communities that convinced me I was a man. I took testosterone for three years, but it made me feel emotionally numb and less human, so I stopped. Now that I'm detransitioning, I feel a fog lifting and realize my discomfort was with puberty, not my sex, but I have almost no support. I regret the permanent changes like my voice and facial hair, and I'm worried about how I will look. I'm learning that it's okay to be a woman who doesn't fit a stereotype and that my body was never wrong.
My detransition story
My whole journey started because I hated my body when I hit puberty. I developed breasts and I couldn't stand them; they felt completely wrong on me. I spent a lot of time online and fell into trans communities that made everything seem so clear-cut. I thought all my discomfort was because I was born in the wrong body and was supposed to be a man. I believed that for a long time.
I socially transitioned and then I started taking testosterone. I was on it for three years. At first, I thought it was the answer. But after a while, I started to feel really numb. I couldn't cry anymore, even when I desperately needed to. My emotions felt flat and limited, and I even found it hard to respond to other people's feelings, which was scary because I've always been an empathetic person. I felt less human.
I stopped testosterone two days ago, and it's like a fog is lifting. I'm starting to feel my emotions again, and it's such a relief. I'm realizing now that a lot of my initial feelings were just a deep discomfort with puberty and my developing body, not a sign that I was a man. I think I was influenced a lot by what I saw online.
Now that I'm detransitioning, I see how little support there is for people like me. When I was transitioning, everyone was so supportive. But now, telling people I'm detransitioning is hard. A friend of mine, who is trans, treats me really weirdly now. She gives me looks when I shave my facial hair or wear something feminine, like she's uncomfortable and trying to silently convince me I've made a mistake. It feels like there's all this support to transition, but the moment you question it or want to go back, people try to silence you or make you feel like you're wrong. The only person who has stuck by me without any judgment is my sister.
I don't regret exploring my identity because I needed to figure things out, but I do regret taking testosterone for so long. I regret the physical changes, like my voice and facial hair, that I now have to live with. I look in the mirror and see a masculine face, and I know it's from three years on T. I'm worried about looking like a man in a wig as I try to grow my hair back out. I'm watching detransitioned women on YouTube and trying to have hope that my body can heal and feel like mine again.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's not as simple as I was led to believe. For me, it wasn't about having a male soul in a female body. It was about hating the changes of puberty, low self-esteem, and being influenced by a very loud online narrative. I'm starting to believe that it's okay to be a woman who doesn't fit the stereotypical mold, and that my body is just my body, not something that was wrong.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| (Puberty Age) | Started hating my breasts and feeling intense discomfort with my body during puberty. |
| (Age at Start) | Socially transitioned and began identifying as male. |
| (Age at Start + 0) | Started testosterone. |
| (Age at Start + 3) | Stopped testosterone after 3 years due to emotional numbness and a lack of feeling human. |
| (Age at Start + 3) | Began the process of social detransition, telling close friends. |
Top Comments by /u/dpatterson2014:
I'm with you there. 100% I have actually seen a lot of these debates lately and I haven't seen one single trans person have a real logical debate. And in like 98% of the videos I have seen, the right winger was treating the trans person with respect. And genuinely asking questions about things they didn't understand and was trying to have a normal healthy debate. The main thing I've heard them ask is what is their definition of a woman, and they get all hot and bothered. They don't answer, just have an emotional meltdown. They say the regret rate of transition is like 1% but from what I've seen due to my own research and the fact that this sub exists makes me question that.
I can't wait to be far in my detransition! I've been watching YouTubers that have detransitioned for the past few days and cis gender women I noticed detransition beautifully. I wonder if it's a testosterone thing because they looked older on testosterone and younger when being far into their detransition. make sense I look masculine, I was on it for three years after all
I totally understand. I'm happy I found the therapist I did because I literally don't have support from anyone else. Someone I used to consider a good friend, who is trans and told me how much they saw me as a man treats me weird and looks at me like I'm weird. On some "well I'm actually trans!" Bullshit. If I talk about my detransition process at all, she looks REALLY uncomfortable(FTM) I stopped wearing a wig because I was told it wasn't doing me any favors and I look feminine in a hat and she was like "oh I thought you were just having a masculine day!" Like fuck you. She gives off vibes like she's trying to make me feel like I've made some kind of mistake by going off testosterone. And personally it feels like she's trying to convince me that I'm still trans. Giving me weird looks when I shave my facial hair or when I wear anything feminine. She's very visibly uncomfortable about my detransition. I have another trans person in my life that I haven't told yet. I have not fully socially detransitioned. I've only told people I thought were close to me. The only person that has never treated me any differently is my sister and that's literally it. There's all this support if you want to transition but if you decide to detransition it's hard to find support anywhere and honestly people try to silence us and I have a problem with that.
Shit like this is why people choose to live as trans even longer before they decide to detransition. I'm glad to hear your friend came around. So SO much support when you transition but the moment you detransition it's a whole different ball game. It's ridiculous. Shame on that therapist
Yeah, easy to tell it's a wig but there are lots of women who wear wigs. I'm not really concerned about people being able to tell it's a wig. I'm worried I look like a man in a wig. I love the color so much. I picked it because it's the only color I didn't dye my hair before I shaved it off.
While on testosterone, I started feeling limited emotions and could NOT for the life of me cry when I needed a good cry. Also felt numb instead of feeling emotions which is NOT healthy at ALL. Been off of testosterone for exactly two days and I'm starting to feel emotions again. It's a relief to feel human again. None of this ever impacted my empathy thankfully. I also stopped knowing how to respond to the emotions of others