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Reddit user /u/dramaticskinnybitch's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 14 -> Detransitioned: 16
female
hated breasts
regrets transitioning
now infertile
puberty discomfort
took puberty blockers
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About me

I was born female and started identifying as a transgender guy at 14 because I hated my developing body and felt being a woman was terrible. I was on hormone blockers for two years, which stopped my period but affected my health and possibly stunted my growth. After I stopped the treatment at 16, my long-standing depression lifted because I was no longer trying to be someone I'm not. It was hard to tell everyone and get used to my old name again, but now at 17, I'm happily living as a woman. My body is more androgynous now and I have some regrets about the physical changes, but I am finally at peace with myself.

My detransition story

My whole journey with transition and detransition was a very confusing time, but I’m in a much better place now. I wanted to share my story to show others that it’s possible to find your way through it.

I was born female and I started identifying as a transgender guy, FTM, when I was 14. Puberty had started for me really early, around 10 or 11, and I developed curves and large breasts very quickly. I really hated my breasts and my body; it felt wrong and uncomfortable. At the time, I think a part of me believed that being a woman just sucked, and I was envious of guys. Everyone online and my friends were so supportive of me being trans and told me how brave I was, which felt good.

I was put on hormone blockers from age 14 until I was 16. At the time, I saw some good effects: my period stopped, which I was happy about, and my breasts shrunk a lot. But there were bad effects too. The doctor told me the blockers lowered my estrogen and made me more prone to osteoporosis, so I had to take vitamin D supplements. It might have also stunted my growth a little bit, which isn’t great since I’m already short.

I also struggled with depression for a long time, even before I started transitioning. It’s hard to say if the blockers made it worse, but I can say that after I went off them at 16, my depression completely went away and I started to feel normal again. I think a huge part of it was that I finally stopped trying to be a person I’m not.

I realized that transitioning wasn’t for me. I was terrified to tell people because everyone had been so supportive of my transition, and I was scared of their reaction. But I eventually did. It was really uncomfortable at first to be called “she” and my birth name again after two years of being “he.” I would actually flinch when I heard it. It took a lot of time and patience, but I slowly got used to it. Now, I’m 17 and I actually flinch if someone calls me by my old male name. I’m happily living as a woman.

My body is different now. My period came back but it’s still irregular, and my body is a lot more androgynous looking. I lost the curves I had before the blockers and sometimes I feel insecure about looking so flat and childlike, but overall, I am the happiest I have been in a very long time. I finally feel like myself.

I don’t really have any deep thoughts on gender anymore. For me, it was about a discomfort with puberty and my body, and some internalized feelings about what it means to be a woman. I do have some regrets about the physical changes, like the possibility that my growth was stunted and my ongoing irregular periods, but I accept it all as part of my past. The journey made me who I am today.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

Age Event
10/11 Female puberty began. Developed curves and large breasts, which I hated.
14 Began identifying as a transgender male (FTM). Started hormone blockers.
16 Stopped taking hormone blockers and began to detransition.
17 Living happily and comfortably as a female.

Top Comments by /u/dramaticskinnybitch:

9 comments • Posting since February 15, 2021
Reddit user dramaticskinnybitch (detrans female) explains her experience with puberty blockers from age 14-16, detailing physical changes like breast shrinkage, irregular periods, and potential height stunting, but concludes she is now the happiest she's been.
67 pointsMar 20, 2021
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I was on hormone blocker for 2 years, age 14 till 16, I am almost 18 now. Puberty started early, at 10/11 and I already had a regular period and curves. After going off the blockers it took a while until my period started again and even then only irregularly (which I still struggle with, but its getting better) and my breast have quite shrunken. Before the blockers I was curvy, with big breasts and an ass and now everything is gone and I look flat and more androgynous ... which I feel insecure about because it makes me look like a child and it doesn’t help that I’m short. Another thing is that it could have stunted my growth a bit (possibly, and only a few cm or so I was told by my doctor). But you know what? I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in a looong time and I finally feel like myself again. So even if the last few years have been quite a ride and I did make many mistakes, I accept it as a part of my past. I’m also so so so grateful to have found this subreddit. It has not only helped me realise that transitioning is not for me, but also made me feel less alone.

I don’t know what you want to know more, if you have any questions just ask away :)

Reddit user dramaticskinnybitch (detrans female) offers support and reassurance to a user feeling lost, stating they are not alone and that happiness can be found through detransitioning or transitioning.
35 pointsMar 14, 2021
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I can relate to your feelings about being lost and alone. I just wanted to leave you a comment and say: you’re definitely not alone in this. There are a ton of people who felt that way and have found their way to happiness, whether that be detransitioning or transitioning. Give yourself time and patience and you will eventually figure things out. Hang in there my friend!

Reddit user dramaticskinnybitch (detrans female) explains the positive and negative effects of puberty blockers, including breast shrinkage and loss of period versus increased risk of osteoporosis.
27 pointsMar 20, 2021
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Well the “good” side effects were that my boobs shrunk, which was obviously what I wanted at the time. Also my period was gone. The bad were that because the blockers lowered my estrogen levels, it made me more prone to osteoporosis and I was advised to take vitamin D3 supplements. Other people might have experienced more side effects, but these were the only things I noticed.

Reddit user dramaticskinrybitch (detrans female) explains her brief transition from female to male between ages 14-16, her realization that it wasn't for her, and her current life as a happy 17-year-old woman.
24 pointsFeb 15, 2021
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hey, your story sounds very similar to mine. I was trans ftm from age 14-16, everyone told me how brave and strong I was but after the age of 16 I just realised it wasn’t for me and I was actually fine with being female. Everyone was so supportive of my transitioning I was terrified telling others the truth but I eventually did. I’m now 17 and happily living as a woman. It is possible!

Reddit user dramaticskinnybitch (detrans female) comments on the link between hormone blockers and depression, noting her pre-existing condition disappeared after stopping treatment.
22 pointsMar 20, 2021
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I certainly was depressed, but to be fair I already struggled with depression to begin with. What I can tell is that after I went off hormone blockers, my depression went completely away and I started to feel “normal” again in terms of my mood. So maybe it was? Or maybe because I finally stopped trying to be a person I’m not. Again, it’s difficult to answer 😬

Reddit user dramaticskinrybitch (detrans female) explains that a major reason for her transition was a belief that "being a woman sucks" and suggests adding questions about self-harm or eating disorders to the self-reflection process.
8 pointsMay 16, 2021
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I agree with envy so much! Only later did I realise that a big part of my desire to transition was my belief that being a women sucks (which it actually kinda does tbh)

Other questions could also be if you struggle with self harm / eating disorders or other self destructive behaviours

Reddit user dramaticskinrybitch (detrans female) explains how embracing her true self after detransitioning helped her overcome depression and find optimism, assuring others that life is worth living even with infertility.
7 pointsMar 14, 2021
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I too had doubts if living as a detrans female would even be worth living. I felt hopeless and depressed. But I found that once I stopped trying to be a person I’m not and started to embrace my true self, life got a lot better. I started seeing things in an optimistic way again; before I felt like there was no way out but there is. There will always be options for you. Your life is and will be worth living, even if you got infertile. Trust me, things will get better <3

Reddit user dramaticskybitch (detrans female) explains the process of re-adapting to feminine pronouns and her birth name after detransitioning, noting it takes time and patience to feel comfortable again.
5 pointsMay 12, 2021
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For me, at first it felt really uncomfortable to be called she/her again after years of being he/him, and I also disliked hearing and being called by my birth name. It took a while to feel feminine again. But eventually, over time, I got used to it and now I don’t mind it and am actually comfortable with it. So yes, I’d say it’s normal. Just give yourself time and patience <3

Reddit user dramaticskinnybitch (detrans female) explains that detransitioning takes time, sharing that she used to flinch at her birth name but now cringes when called by her old male name.
4 pointsMay 16, 2021
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How long has it been since you detransitioned? It took a while for me to get used to my old pronouns and my birth name and I remember feeling really uncomfortable and I used to flinch as well. Over the last few years though I grew comfortable with my birth name and now I actually flinch / cringe if I get called by my male name