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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, there are no definitive red flags indicating this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a detransitioner/desister.
The user demonstrates:
- Personal Experience: They mention having personal experience with testosterone (TRT) and detailed knowledge of hormone regimens and their effects, which is consistent with someone who has medically detransitioned or is a bodybuilder.
- Consistent, Developed Viewpoint: Their comments present a coherent, long-held theory about gender dysphoria being linked to trauma and social contagion, which aligns with passionate, critical perspectives found in the detrans community.
- Engaged Conversation: They respond directly to other users' questions and posts with tailored advice and opinions, which is not typical of simple bot behavior.
While the tone is often forceful and polemical, this is consistent with your reminder that detransitioners can be "very passionate and pissed off." The account appears to be a genuine person expressing strong, controversial opinions on the topic.
About me
I started identifying as trans after getting deep into online communities, thinking it would fix my deep unhappiness and depression. I took testosterone hoping it was a magic solution, but it only caused unwanted physical changes and didn't address my real problems. I realized my desire to transition was a form of escapism from my poor mental health and low self-worth. Now, I understand that my issues were never about gender, and I'm learning to just be myself without those labels. I regret not dealing with my core issues first and am frustrated that no one in the medical community ever questioned my decision.
My detransition story
My journey into and out of transition was a long and complicated one, rooted in a deep unhappiness with myself that I mistakenly thought changing my gender would fix. I was never a happy or well-adjusted person; I struggled with chronic depression and a very low sense of self-worth. Looking back, I believe my desire to transition was a form of escapism. I thought that by becoming a new person, I could leave all my failures and pain behind. It was like hitting a reset button on my life.
I was heavily influenced by what I saw online. I got deep into trans communities and it felt like I had finally found a place where I belonged. But I also saw how it worked like a social contagion, especially among young people. I saw friend groups where one person would come out as trans, and then suddenly everyone else would too. It felt less like a deep internal identity and more like a trend you adopted to fit in. I started to see parallels with other things, like how some people in the gay community in the past would intentionally get HIV to feel like they truly belonged to the struggle. It felt like the trans community had a similar extreme edge you had to go to in order to be the "real deal."
I took testosterone for a while. I was curious about the psychological effects, like if it would change how I thought or make me more aggressive or more focused on solving problems instead of talking about them. But mostly, I was just chasing a feeling. I thought the shot in the needle had some magic power to fix all my insecurities. I didn't think enough about the permanent consequences.
I experienced some physical changes from the hormones, like developing breast tissue, which is a common thing that happens when you introduce external testosterone and your body converts the excess into estrogen. I was worried it would be permanent, but I learned from the bodybuilding community about drugs like Letrozole that can help reverse it if it's caught early. Thankfully, I wasn't on hormones for too long, so a lot of the changes eventually reverted. But I know I'm lucky; I've heard tragic stories of others, like a young man who took puberty blockers and was left with underdeveloped genitalia, which led to him taking his own life because he couldn't have a normal sex life or find a partner. That's a permanent, life-altering consequence that isn't talked about enough.
A huge part of my detransition was realizing that my problems weren't about my gender at all. They were about my mental health. I had to learn to stop putting everything into "male" and "female" boxes. I had to ask myself: why did I feel the need to act like a girl? What were the "man things" I preferred that made me feel like a man? I realized that was the wrong way to think. The goal is to just be you. Enjoy what you enjoy without assigning it a gender. Like cuddling or working on cars—they're just things, not badges for a team. I had to become comfortable with who I am without worrying about which team I aligned with.
I am deeply frustrated with the medical and therapeutic community. I felt like no one tried to stop me or really question why I was doing this. I later learned that in many places, laws designed to ban harmful conversion therapy also prevent therapists from questioning a patient's desire to transition. They can't explore other ways to resolve the underlying issues, like trauma or depression. They just affirm and move you along the conveyor belt. I believe society, especially within the LGBTQ+ scene, is pushing transition too aggressively as a one-size-fits-all solution. We've lost the art of challenging gender norms. The drag scene used to be a great, fun outlet for that without permanent medicalization.
I don't think gender is what I thought it was. For me, it wasn't some deep internal identity. It was a solution I grabbed for because I was mentally unwell and looking for an escape. I have significant regrets about my transition. I regret not dealing with my core issues—my depression and low self-esteem—first. I regret not realizing sooner that I was trying to flee from myself. While I was fortunate to avoid the most serious permanent changes, I know many others were not so lucky, and I regret that I ever supported a system that allows that to happen so easily.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ? | Started identifying as trans, influenced by online communities. |
| ? | Began taking testosterone. |
| ? | Experienced development of breast tissue (gynecomastia) from hormone therapy. |
| ? | Stopped testosterone after a relatively short period (less than a year). |
| ? | Began the process of detransition, focusing on underlying mental health. |
Top Comments by /u/duffmanhb:
I have to deal with this for life and none of these health professionals even tried to stop me or really question me.
Believe it or not, they aren't really legally allowed to in many states. Many of those laws that are passed to "Stop conversion therapy" have these sort of provisions built into it. Professionals can't question you or recommend different types of therapy to resolve the problem as it's considered "conversion therapy".
Like how they do that? Pretty much EVERYONE is against those crazy Christian therapy things that try to "fix" people, so it's an easy legislation to pass. But it also comes with this sort of added garbage.
Sadly I think society in the LGBTQ scene right now is pushing too agressively to transition as a solution to everyone's problems. Like the other poster said, you really need to work on your mental health and work with what you got. Challenging gender conforming norms seems to be what used to work for most people. Especially drag was a great, fun, and inclusive outlet for people who presented masculine but wanted to spend the night partying as a woman. The drag scene is, and always be, the funnest scene around.
Well, that's just a downturn in life. That can happen to the best of us! You'll get through it. It will pass. Thankfully your dysmorphia no longer seems to be the problem, so the rest should be a breeze once you solve the problems leading you towards addiction.
I'll be honest, I just completely dismiss just about everyone who uses transphobic so casually. It's the go to defense to try and shut down any thought that isn't narrowly in line. Individuals who do things like that, aren't interested in intellectual discourse... They are just using thought terminating strategies
Please, please, come out publicly and share your story. We need more known figures to share what happened who aren't afraid of the inevitable onslaught you're going to recieve. Maybe you can be the straw that breaks the camel's back and gets the discussion more acceptable.
I wonder if these people realize how much fuel they are giving conservatives - the people they hate? Or if they are just so narcissistic they don't care?
Because the conservative slippery slope that they attacked as being fallacious has really come to fruition. They always insisted that puberty blockers were just this harmless no big deal thing, and getting anything more serious required intensive counselling and permitting to be super sure before progressing. Now we are finding out puberty blockers aren't that safe, and the "process" is basically a factory line with no resistance at all... While they push for less and less friction.
It seriously just fuels all of the conservative's fears, and is now triggering a lot of otherwise liberal people. It's motivating the base a lot and is backfiring -- if Trump wasn't already enough of a warning shot.
Absolutely. It’s seriously a life skill. I call it the slim shady. But it works in everything. From relationships to sales. Get the skeletons and insecurities out of the closet and on display as soon as possible. Once it’s out there no one can threaten to hurt you by threatening to dig out your skeletons and it actually builds a ton of respect and trust because you aren’t hiding anything.
If you try to hide something like this people are just going to ask questions and let their imagination take over and make assumptions blah blah blah. Just bring it out. Own it. And suddenly you’ll learn that it’s all out there no one can do anything more.
I have and will always continue to believe women are the surperior gender in an era of indoor work and mental abilitiy over outdoor work and physical ability. My opinion.
We worked really hard to dispel the myth that there is some inherent superior or inferior gender. That differences between sexes doesn't translate to superiority in some way.
Yet here we are.
I'm going to just go off my gut here and say this could root from your hatred of men. For whatever reason, you don't like other men, and therefor yourself. So you are trying to transition?
So real talk: I have a theory of what triggers dysphoria. Has anyone ever met a trans person who isn’t chronically depressed? I haven’t. I haven’t met someone who grew up comfortably middle class, never molested, and grew into dysphoria. It’s never happened. I suspect childhood trauma creates this condition. The individual is simply trying to change their identity to flee from the trauma
Met a guy in Berlin who’s friend killed him self because of puberty blockers. Friend just had a phase from depression and looking for an escape. He thought if he could change who he was, he could escape his PTSD from abuse, as well as be part of a larger community he was so desperately eager for. Anyways, his penis never grew to an adult size after he got off the blockers and effectively had a baby penis. After enough women unable to sign up for a sexless life with him he took his own. So sad.