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Based on the provided comments, the account "duganaok" appears authentic and not a bot. The user identifies as an ally, not a detransitioner, and their passionate, sometimes angry tone is consistent with a real person engaged in a sensitive topic. The comments show personal investment, nuanced opinions, and direct responses to others, which are not typical of bot behavior. There are no serious red flags suggesting inauthenticity.
About me
I never transitioned myself, but I came here after seeing others rushed into permanent changes they now regret. I believe being a masculine woman or a feminine man is perfectly fine, and that medical intervention should be an absolute last resort after years of therapy. I started speaking up because I saw detransitioners being silenced and attacked by the very community that should support them. I want them to know they are seen and heard, and that their unique medical needs deserve proper research and care. My role has been that of an ally, watching a system fail vulnerable people and feeling compelled to say something.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this is a bit different. I never medically transitioned myself, but I found my way here because I saw what was happening to others and I couldn't just stand by. I feel like I need to speak up for the people who are being silenced.
My thoughts on gender are pretty straightforward. I think it's completely okay to be a masculine woman or an effeminate man. I believe the problem starts when people are rushed into making permanent changes to their bodies that can't be undone. I've seen how a woman who takes testosterone and then changes her mind has to deal with things like facial hair forever. Or a man who develops breasts from estrogen and is left with a permanent reminder of a decision made in youth. Your body can never really go back to how it was, and that's a heavy burden to carry.
I've watched from the sidelines as the conversation around transition has become so polarized. In my view, transitioning should be an absolute last resort. It shouldn't be a quick, automatic solution. It should involve years of talking to different specialists and therapists, trying every other way to address the feelings of discomfort first. Any doctor who is too quick to hand out hormones or schedule surgeries is, in my opinion, irresponsible.
What really upsets me, and why I started commenting, is how the larger LGBT community treats people who detransition. From what I've seen, detransitioners are seen as a threat to a certain narrative. There's a huge effort to discredit them, silence them, and make them invisible. I've seen online spaces meant for detrans people get taken over by people who don't want their stories to be heard. It's insidious. The community will say they support detrans people, but only if they stay quiet. The moment they speak about their regrets or their pain, they are attacked. It feels like the LGB community I once knew is gone, replaced by a "queer" community that doesn't tolerate any dissent.
This is especially true for bisexual people, who I feel are under attack from both sides. It disgusts me how they are treated. My intention in speaking out was never to cause more pain to detrans people. I just wanted them to know that someone sees them, someone hears them, and someone supports them. I wanted them to know that if people try to shut them down, they should pay them no mind, because their experiences matter.
I strongly believe that detransitioners need and deserve specific support and medical research. They have unique healthcare needs that are being completely ignored. I signed a petition calling for the NIH to recognize them and fund research into their care, because right now, they are left to deal with the physical and mental aftermath on their own. It's a tragedy.
I don't have a personal timeline of transition events because this wasn't my personal medical path. My role has been one of an ally and an observer, watching a system fail vulnerable people and feeling compelled to say something about it.
Age | Event |
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N/A | I did not personally transition or detransition. My involvement has been as a supporter and advocate for detransitioners, based on my observations of the community and medical practices. |
Top Comments by /u/duganaok:
Transitioning really should only be done as a last resort and, if can be, avoided altogether.
There is such a thing as just being an overly masculine women or an overly effeminate male. Those things are totally okay.
It’s when you start making permanent alterations to your body is where problems come in. A woman can try to transition into a man and take testosterone, but then decide she doesn’t want to, only to have to battle with facial hair for the rest of her life. On the opposite side, men take estrogen and then decide later they want to stay a man but then they might still have disfigurement like breast that if they choose to remove would result in a unnecessary and invasive surgery and scars that would have all been avoided if they just left their bodies alone.
Once your body is altered it can never be truly restored to its “original” or “primary” state. And like a bad tattoo on your forehead or holes in your ears, it will just be a constant reminder to you, and everyone around you of the reckless and foolish decisions of youth.
There are trans people on the internet who send children drugs to help them stop puberty or start transitioning without their parents or doctors knowledge. Some of those kids end up finding their way here once they’ve grown a little. It’s a sad state of affairs.
Transitioning should never been automatic reactionary. It should honestly take years of visits of specialists providers and behavioral therapists before the process even begins. And during that time trying to solve what you feel with other methods.
Any provider who is quick to help you transition should honestly not be allowed to practice at all.
I really don’t like it when people like this comment here. This space is for people who are suffering greatly due to society pressure to transition and the consequences of that aftermath. I was never trans but I come here to listen and support what is arguably the smallest voice in the LGBT community. Many of these people have to live with disfigurement and hormonal body problems for the rest of their lives and live in despair. They are not bad people, they are just trying to cope.
Please respect their space and let them be amongst themselves.
In the previous sub to this trans people infiltrated modship and got the previous sub to not actually be for detrans people.
Trans people views detrans people as a threat to their narrative. The effort they expel is ultimately to discredit, silence and make invisible detrans people.
It’s insidious posturing and I feel it’s one the mods should take an active role in eliminating.
Bisexuals are under attack right now from Both gay people and trans people (if you aren’t attracted to trans people). And it disgusts me how you guys are treated.
It’s not that they are anti-detrans. They just don’t want the detrans individuals to speak to their experience because it’s counter to their narrative. They are only okay with detrans so long as they are silent and invisible. The LGBT community is effectively dead. The reality is that it’s the queer community now.
So even though lesbians gays and bi people don’t have issue, their opinions don’t matter.
Sorry. I just get mad. These people are incredibly hateful. And the people on this sub are victims of those people who took over the narrative. They don’t give a fuck about detrans. The greater community at large isn’t saying anything. And the media, the voice of the community, would side against the Detrans movement. It’s just all around a bad situation.
We, the undersigned of this petition, recognize detransitioners (those who desist from gender transition) as members of the diverse community of sexual and gender minorities whose healthcare needs the NIH SGMRO is intended to serve. We call upon the NIH SGMRO to acknowledge the existence of the growing detrans community, and to allocate funds in direct support of detransitioners' unique, urgent, and largely unmet medical needs. The Sexual & Gender Minority Research Office (SGMRO) was established in 2015 to coordinate SGM-related research and activities at the National Institutes of Health (NIH). Detransitioners are by nature gender-nonconformists, and many if not most are same-sex attracted. The Office's definition of "SGM" is rightfully broadly written, and it would include detrans folk:
Sexual and gender minority (SGM) populations include, but are not limited to, individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, asexual, transgender, two-spirit, queer, and/or intersex. Individuals with same-sex or -gender attractions or behaviors and those with a difference in sex development are also included. These populations also encompass those who do not self-identify with one of these terms but whose sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, or reproductive development is characterized by non-binary constructs of sexual orientation, gender, and/or sex.
Yet the SGMRO makes no mention of detransitioners on their website:
Sorry, no results found for ‘detrans’. Sorry, no results found for ‘detransition’. Sorry, no results found for ‘detransitioner’.
Detransitioners are an emergent and growing community. Individual profiles have been increasingly published in recent years by BBC, CBC Radio Canada, HuffPost, IJR, Independent, Paper, Sky News, The Atlantic, The Daily Signal, The Guardian, The Stranger, The Sydney Morning Herald, Them, USA Today, and Vocativ.
The world’s first and largest online community of detransitioners, r/detrans, has grown in less than two years to include over 2,000 detransitioners and over 3,000 allies globally.
Detransitioners’ numbers and experiences have long been downplayed by unreasonable terminologies and methodologies within the medical community. Even worse, new and unbiased attempts at scientific research into detransitioners’ demographics, well-being, and medical needs have been censured.
Proposal to research ‘trans regret’ rejected by university for fear of backlash, claims psychotherapist.
How the Fight Over Transgender Kids Got a Leading Sex Researcher Fired
Gender Dissenter Gets Fired
The new taboo: More people regret sex change and want to ‘detransition’, surgeon says Detransitioners are a repressed community, presumably for not fitting the dominant prescription of gender transition to alleviate gender dysphoria. Partisan, identity-based activism has inappropriately taken precedence over evidence-based care and the credo first to do no harm.
Detrans folk have experienced gross mistreatment and neglect by the status quo of gender-specializing healthcare professionals. Many detransitioners have been irrevocably harmed and traumatized, both mentally and physically, by the gender-affirmation model. This radical medicalization too-often presents inadequate differential diagnostic procedures, and it unfairly labels noninvasive approaches to gender dysphoria with politicized slurs. It is especially harmful to individuals not yet of neurological maturity, and to those of atypical neurology. Detransitioners deserve better. Desistance from transition shouldn’t be shamed. Discussion, research, and support for detransitioners shouldn’t be taboo.
The needs of detransitioners are urgent and largely unmet. They often include: Social interaction and re-integration; Suicide prevention; Psychological referrals free of gender-affirmation; Primary-care physician referrals free of gender-affirmation; Endocrinologist referrals free of gender-affirmation; Access to same-sex HRT; Access to facial and bodily hair-removal for females; Surgical referrals for chest/breast and genital reconstruction in males and females; Research efforts to develop donated organ transplants; Research efforts to develop laboratory-regenerated organ implants; General questions of what outcomes, timelines, and strategies to expect and achieve in detransition, based on sex, age, duration of transition, and methods of transition; As well as many legal questions, such as guidance and options in document restoration, and options for post-transition justice.
We, the undersigned of this petition, recognize detransitioners (those who desist from gender transition) as members of the diverse community of sexual and gender minorities whose healthcare needs the NIH SGMRO is intended to serve. We call upon the NIH SGMRO to acknowledge the existence of the growing detrans community, and to allocate funds in direct support of detransitioners’ unique, urgent, and largely unmet medical needs.
That is not my intention, please don’t feel that way. The last thing I want is for any detrans people feel bad because of my actions and choices. You do have an ally here, as much as I can be. It’s not speaking that I have my limits, I just don’t know. Also I’m kind of socially awkward.
My complaint is not without merit. It is true. If you try to speak up you will be attacked and silenced. I would challenge you to try but I don’t want bad to happen to you.
This will happen for comments on Reddit, or tweets on Twitter, this attack will happen within the sphere of LGBT media. It’s not SOME individuals. It is the rhetoric and philosophy of the LGBT community at large.
I don’t think what I am saying is entirely political or without merit. My intention was to let people know they are being thought of, and that there is support. And that if people attempt to shut them down then pay them no mind. That they matter, and that they are being heard. If at least for this individual.
If that’s not to your liking nothing more I can say.
It is my opinion. I can say whatever I damn well please. Your comment is actually a testament to my original statement. That LGB people are effectively silenced because only queer people are allowed to speak on such matters. Well here I stand against that notion and against your absurd attempt to curtail and control the conversation. You are oppressive, toxic and divisive. I am not the one telling people they have no right to voice their concerns or opinions. So you can literally fuck off for all I care.