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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user's perspective is consistent with a desister/detransitioner who is angry and holds gender-critical views. They reference personal medical experiences (e.g., getting HRT quickly, having "boobies," considering surgery) and describe a personal history of questioning their sexuality and gender, which is not typical boilerplate for a troll. Their passionate, argumentative, and sometimes harsh tone aligns with the expected anger from someone who feels they were harmed by transition.
About me
I started identifying as gay as a young teen and dove headfirst into that world online, which led to some really damaging experiences. At 18, I was quickly given hormones after one easy appointment, and everyone cheered me on without question. The excitement faded fast, and by 19 I was detransitioning, left with permanent physical changes to my body that I deeply regret. I now see my desire to transition was driven by untreated mental health issues and a need for escapism, not by being born in the wrong body. Through therapy, I'm finally learning to accept my reality as a male, and I believe true compassion means helping people love themselves, not change themselves.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young. I grew up identifying as gay from around 12 or 13, and it basically became my entire personality. I had unrestricted internet access too young, and I started experimenting with gay porn and exchanging nudes with older men on apps like Kik. Looking back, I don't know if I was ever truly gay or if I was just influenced to think I was. Every sexual encounter I had with a man was bad and is upsetting to recall. Now, I'm not even sure if I'm attracted to men anymore, which is strange because I genuinely believed I was at the time.
I started my social transition at 18. I remember feeling this manic excitement about it, like it was a new beginning. Everyone around me—my family, my friends, even doctors—was encouraging me and supporting me, which just made it feel more right. It felt like I was finally getting the validation I craved. I was given hormones after just one telehealth appointment with a nurse practitioner I'd never even met in person. It was way too easy.
But by 19, I was already detransitioning. The excitement wore off and I was left with the physical changes. The HRT left me with small breasts that I now have to hide with a compression shirt. I hate my body when I take it off. I can get surgery to remove them, but my chest will never look the same. I'm still coping with that.
Looking back, I get so angry seeing how everyone cheered me on as I spiraled into more confusion and depression. But I can't even be mad at them, because they were all just doing what they thought was best, which is the narrative everyone is pushing right now. Everything feels so messed up.
I see now that my desire to transition was tied to a lot of deeper issues. I had low self-esteem, anxiety, and I was using it as a form of escapism. I think a lot of people, especially vulnerable autistic or traumatized kids, get pulled into this. They see it presented as a positive and valid identity everywhere, and it encourages them. For me, I also struggled with what I now recognize as autogynephilia (AGP)—a sexual arousal at the idea of being a woman. I went through a period where I was flip-flopping about taking estrogen for months. It was so confusing because every time I felt not trans, it felt real, but every time I felt trans, it felt just as real. It was like a fetish fueled by OCD that I was letting go untreated.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I don't believe someone can be born in the wrong body. I believe gender dysphoria is real, but it's a mental illness, and the treatment should be therapy to help you accept your body, not agreeing with the delusion and medically altering it. Letting people indulge these delusions and permanently change their bodies isn't empathetic. There's no 'female mentality' inside a male body; any mentality you have is a male mentality because you are male. Gender isn't attached to clothes or behaviors. A man can be as feminine as he wants and still be a man.
I have a lot of regrets. I regret the permanent changes to my body. I regret not addressing my underlying mental health issues first. I benefited greatly from stepping back and accepting reality. Psychedelic drugs and therapy helped me a lot more than hormones ever did. I used to be so worried about not being seen as transphobic, but now I don't care. If believing that people shouldn't be led down this path makes me transphobic, then so be it. I think as more people detransition and speak out, the narrative will change. People will see the harm caused by the rush to medically transition, especially for children.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12-13 | Started identifying as gay, began exploring sexuality online with gay porn and inappropriate chats. |
| 18 | Started social transition; began taking hormones after a single telehealth appointment. |
| 19 | Began detransitioning; stopped taking hormones. |
| Present (Post-19) | Living with the physical effects of HRT (breast growth); working on self-acceptance and coping with the permanent changes. |
Top Comments by /u/e9082:
No yeah this is probably just going to snowball until detransition rates get high enough that it raises mass concern. I think a lot of people don't entirely agree with trans ideology but just go with it because they don't want to be called bigots and deny the other persons reality, but once it becomes much clearer with further research how many people (especially CHILDREN) are harmed by overperscription of HRT, I think those people will probably change their minds. Honestly in the grand scheme of things I don't think trans will last, I think the children of our current really trans accepting generation are going to be like Wtf did my parents allow me to do with my body, and will push back on it. Trans is currently really hot because people believe they are victims and that getting them access to HRT is truly life saving, but I do believe the narrative will switch to seeing those who were guided towards transition as the victims to our for profit medical industry.
When I was a new detrans I was really insistent on holding on to my not transphobic card, because I thought it made me a good person. Now, I see that it is not the moral decision to validate a delusion in others that causes them to partake in permanent physical changes to their body. I believe gender dysphoria is a thing, but the standard treatment should be therapy, not agreeing with the delusion and allowing them to divulge it. I sympathize deeply with transgender people, but I am not sympathetic enough to validate their delusions at the expense of them pulling in more people (specifically children) into this delusion with them. If this makes me transphobic, oh well
This IS empathy. Letting mentally ill people indulge their delusions and permanently alter their body is not empathetic.
Also, I do not see that he was saying you need to be a traditionally masculine 'alpha' guy, just that you have to be a MAN which is just a biological reality. The same thing applies to women, but he is a man so he was talking for men.
Many women transition in order to avoid dysphoria from growing boobs/hips and starting menstruation, this isn't something unique to MtF. Changing from our child bodies to our adult bodies is uncomfortable.
Even if you don't see it that way, detransitioning was an act of self acceptance. You are stopping trying to make physical changes to your body. Even if you are not happy with your body still, you have still accepted it more than when you were actively trying to change it with hormones.
People are born with severe disfigurement, missing limbs, lifelong debilitating illness, and can grow to accept it, I am so very certain you too can accept your masculine features even if they make you uncomfortable currently.
Truly. I used to think there were some people this could work for, but now I feel that isn't true. The research on outcomes of transition are inconclusive at best. There is no reason why changing your physical body would alleviate all your mental anguish. Gender dysphoria is always something deeper than just wanting to be the other gender.
Dysphoria to your gender is no different from any other kind of bodily dysphoria. The cure for weight dysphoria is not liposuction, the cure for racial dysphoria is not skin bleaching, the cure for height dysphoria is not leg lengthening surgery. Sure, some of these procedures may be available to a consenting adult, but it is never suggested as a treatment for their dysphoria by medical providers or therapists, as doing so would be deeply harmful.
If you don't like how you look androgynous and not feminine, taking testosterone is only going to move you further from happiness. Just give your body time to change back. Even if your body is really masculinized, you're probably closer to passing as a woman with more masc features than you are to passing as a man
I think it is easier to see yourself returning to womanhood after trying to pretend to be a man than return to manhood after trying to pretend to be a woman. (Obviously lots of factors make this different for every individual) I think a lot of men after transitioning have a hard time seeing themselves as being capable of being masculine or presenting male after having been trying to present as a woman. Also I think dating and sex are really major factors, it seems to be much easier to find a partner as a woman than as a man just overall, and having been trans adds some layers of difficulty to that as well. Many trans women have a lot more sexual prospects while transitioned, so why would they detransition to have even less sexual prospects than if they had never transitioned in the first place.
Do you think a man with boobs and no dick is going to be treated better than a balding ugly man? Idk what to tell you. This isn't an exclusively male problem, there are ugly women who face the same struggles.
There are tons and tons of bald, ugly, disfigured people who live happy lives, have successful careers, and have families. Acknowledging it might make some things harder is fine, but wallowing in what you don't have is only going to make you a more miserable and less likable person.
Yes yes it's very hard to be ugly, but regardless of if you are okay with it or not you are going to continue to be, so you might as well work towards accepting yourself. There are people born into much worse circumstances, and the fact that you can even have these thoughts is privileged. You are not starving, you are not struggling, and you are safe enough to be able to put mental energy into thoughts like 'why am I ugly.' Life is a gift, and you are not owed anything. Sure some people have it easier, but many have and still do have it MUCH MUCH worse.
We are not required to think what you think. Just because twitter has drilled this all into your head as being the truth, doesn't actually make it so. Saying transgender people indoctrinate kids is just a plain observation of what is happening, children are being exposed to transgenderism in media, it is being shown in a positive light, and it is discussed as if it is a valid identity. All of this is undoubtbly going to encourage others to believe they are transgender, especially the most vulnerable populations to this kind of propaganda, traumatized and autistic children.
Do you have any deeper reason why we should believe all of this, other than to not be transphobic? If you could break down concisely and logically why a man can be a woman, I would be receptive to this, but I just have never heard a sound argument towards this.
There is no 'female mentality.' You can have exclusively feminine interests, exclusively female friends, and this doesn't change the fact that you are internally still male. Any mentality you have is a male mentality because that is what you are.
I will never grow up as a male inside, I can only be female inside
This is just plainly not true, if you are grown up and are male, you have already done this. Nothing you could ever do could make you female inside, as you are male.