Social contagions have always existed. We subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) seek consensus and belonging.

For rebellious males, maybe you've never felt this urge, I haven't really either. So it might be tempting to say that the urge isn't real. It's a common survival instinct for women, though.

In case it needs to be explained, changing your dating preferences does not warrant labeling yourself as "ex". But making permanent changes to your body that alter you to be something that no longer fits either gender is something worth pointing out to people for various reasons.

Big love and support to you both, I hope this all gets figured out, and that the pregnancy is healthy.

I'm over here worried about the baby, though, such experimental body chemistry from the medication and hormones used for transition can have major effects on the pregnancy. Plus if the treatments started at 15, and the body hadn't undergone a full female puberty, that can result in major physical complications for giving birth. I'm assuming that this has all been taken into account, but on the off chance that the prenatal care refuses to address potential problems that may threaten their job security, then it may be worth getting a second opinion from someone who doesn't feel obligated to affirm every aspect of this pregnancy.

More like I'm pro "any healthier solutions".

Gender transition is an extreme, experimental process, with a vast list of side effects, complications, and sacrifices along the way, some of which are permanent or last indefinitely, like being a permanent medical patient. As such, any solution with similar or greater effectiveness, that comes at less sacrifice, would be preferred.

Then, here's the kicker. One of the big arguments for transition is to avoid the 41% stat. But the stat is similarly high after transition, with some estimates placing it even higher. So, regardless of transition status, all people under the umbrella of gender dysphoria, may actually be at the same risk of self-inflicted death, which is about 5000x higher than the average person. If gender dysphoria is the common denominator for this harm, then desistance is not only the preferred solution, but rather the only reasonable solution, for the vast majority of cases (some exceptions being intersex). And I firmly believe that there are good options for desisting, as I have, and many others here have.

TLDR transition should be a desperate last ditch effort after all healthier options have been tried, but it often gets touted as the default solution, sometimes even for kids that haven't experienced gender dysphoria yet.

There's a few reasons this ideology is being pushed by very powerful people. You've got one reason figured out.

Others include clout farming (like celebs), subversion and destabilization (pushed by adversaries and revolutionaries), emotional leverage against political opposition (politicians and activists), lucrative ties or investment in the medical field (surgeons pharma and investors), and... one more really sick reason I'll also mention. So it's no surprise that it's gotten so much institutional support from wealthy, dubious sources. I'm guessing that supporters and activists that lack all of these ulterior motives are a minority of the support base, and definitely a minority of those funding it.

I don't think I need to elaborate on all of these reasons, since they're mostly self-evident upon further investigation. I'll just clarify about two of them.

Subversion and destabilization. For starters, see what Yuri Bezmenov said on this topic when talking about demoralization tactics. A lot of current events and movements will start to make sense when seen through this context. Are there any groups that would benefit from destabilizing other countries? What about revolutionaries destabilizing their own country? It's a standard step for usurping power, weakening the current system to take control of it and impose a new system. As for whether the trans movement is effective at destabilization of a society, that's up to opinion. Certainly seems like it's causing us to expend a lot of time and energy fighting each other instead of solving mutual problems, and weakening us to be more susceptible to other subversion or disempowerment.

The other sick reason is one I learned about last year. If you believe that there's a sick cabal of powerful people who have an unhealthy fixation with kids, you might understand why puberty blockers are being developed and encouraged. Maybe they want a legal way to be with someone who has a pre-pube body, by creating a group of adults who don't mature, who can look and sound like kids into their 20s. But if you don't believe any of the news or statistics about those child trafficking or blackmail operations, and you think there's no cabal of this sort, well... I wish I had as much hopium as you.

This is one of the things that initially scared me the most about the movement, convincing people into loss of reproductive function. It's one of our deepest, most essential survival instincts, plus all the other reasons for wanting it. I was surprised to learn how often women only start to feel this way in their late 20s, and apparently men (like myself at 28) can have the same delayed desire for wanting to raise a family. It breaks my heart to hear this story, and that so many others are going down a similar path without realizing it. I wish I could get through to them how big of a deal this is without sounding like a "man-splaining christo natalist".

If nothing else, I hope someone will see this and decide to avoid sacrificing their reproductive health. And I hope your relationship continues to thrive, and that you'll find fulfillment in whatever type of family you're able to have 🙏

There's some interesting articles about intersectionality and color revolutions that might shed some light on this.

There's a mix of people. Some who genuinely care about these issues, and think combining forces is the best way to win. But also others, using these issues and others as a means for removing old systems in order to implement new ones.

And honestly, it might just stem from parts of the medical industry that benefit from having permanent transgender medical patients, like they saw an opportunity to raise profits by injecting their message into other social movements. Lots of possibilities.

This will continue being an issue until the detrans/desist communities start to achieve the same level of cultural acceptance and presence as the trans movement. I don't endorse their methods, but I can't deny how effective they've been at spreading their message and pressuring people into compliance.

But, progress is being made. We will continue the march, and not remain unseen nor unheard. Stay strong, and spend more time in communities like this that'll reinforce what you truly believe is best for you ✌️

Tomboys must be cherished as they are. Femboys are usually better off becoming as attractive as they can be in the masculine sense unless they're trying to be the little spoon for a big spoon who likes men. I've gotten a lot of opinions on this. Still sucks that either one is being erased by transition, but especially tomboys, that's like shredding a golden ticket because you needed confetti for a party.

This is why the detrans need to speak up the most, being even louder than the people shouting "transphobe!" at us. Nobody is more qualified to speak on this issue than those of you here. Let them label us whatever they want. Keep shouting your stories from the rooftops anyways. People are starting to listen.