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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account does not appear to be inauthentic. The user, "edgelessdiamond," consistently identifies as a trans woman who is happy with her transition and is participating in the detrans subreddit to understand different perspectives.
Key points indicating authenticity:
- Consistent, Detailed Narrative: The user shares a specific, personal story (suicide attempt by crashing a car) and a timeline (considered transition at 14, started at 29, now 30) that is repeated and expanded upon across multiple comments.
- Complex, Nuanced Opinions: The user expresses a consistent but nuanced viewpoint, advocating for more therapy before transition but strongly opposing gatekeeping. This shows a capacity for complex thought beyond simple bot-like responses.
- Off-Topic, Detailed Advice: The long, highly specific advice on voice training (including personal anecdotes, techniques, and links) is not something a typical bot would generate and reflects real-world experience.
There are no serious red flags suggesting this is a bot or someone falsely posing as a detransitioner/desister. The account presents as a genuine, passionate trans individual engaging with a difficult topic.
About me
I was born male and transitioned in my late twenties after a suicide attempt made me realize I had to be myself to survive. I took hormones seriously, knowing they cause permanent changes, and I believe in thorough therapy beforehand to ensure it's the right path. For me, transitioning was the way out of hell, and I am now the happiest I've ever been, engaged to a wonderful man and thriving in my career. I worked incredibly hard to train my voice and am never clocked as trans. My journey taught me that you must do what makes you happy to become a whole person.
My detransition story
My name isn't important, but my story is. I’m a woman who was born male, and I transitioned in my late twenties. For me, it wasn't a choice; it was a necessity to save my life. I had thought about it since I was 14, but I kept pushing it down. Everything came to a head when I was 29. I was in a terrible place, depressed and going nowhere. I tried to end my life by driving my Mustang into a tree at 60 miles per hour. I'm lucky I survived. That was my breaking point. I realized I had to transition or I wouldn't make it.
Starting hormones was a serious decision. I knew they weren't something to play around with; your body will not be the same, and there are real, permanent repercussions. I always warn any young person thinking about HRT to read stories from people who regret it, to understand both sides. I believe we need more therapy beforehand—maybe six months of serious conversations to make sure someone is sure—but not outright gatekeeping. If someone is determined, they'll find a way to get hormones anyway, so it's better to have a safe, guided process.
For me, transitioning was my way out of hell. It came with its own set of problems, but I am the happiest I have ever been. Society accepts me for who I am, I have a solid career now, and I'm excelling in everything. I'm engaged to a wonderful man who I love deeply. I don't regret a single choice I made. I transitioned for me, to be myself, and it worked.
I worked incredibly hard on my voice to make it sound female. I had a few therapy sessions, but I mostly taught myself through practice, swallowing exercises to raise my larynx, and recording myself. I even prayed for help, having grown up in a religious family, and it felt like a switch flipped. It took months of conscious effort, but now I have a passable voice and I'm never clocked as trans because of it. I believe words have power; you can speak things into existence.
I think detransitioners and transitioners should work together. Invalidating trans identities doesn't help anyone. We need to create better awareness and safety measures for everyone's health. We're all kind of guinea pigs, and future generations will benefit from our experiences, both good and bad.
My thoughts on gender are that you have to do what makes you happy, regardless of labels or what anyone else thinks. You hold the power to yourself. You can stay in a hole or decide to pull yourself out. For me, that meant transitioning. It was my path to becoming a whole, happy human being.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | First started thinking about transition. |
| 29 | Attempted suicide by driving into a tree. This was the catalyst. |
| 29 | Started hormone replacement therapy (HRT). |
| 29 | Began intense voice training, which took about 3 months to become passable. |
| 30 | Fully living as myself, happy, engaged, and excelling in my career. |
Top Comments by /u/edgelessdiamond:
I'm agreeing with everyone here. I'm a transwoman myself and you need to listen to your body hormones are nothing to screw around with. Your body is telling you no. You should def stop.
You can be strong as a woman or man it doesnt matter. Get a gym membership make yourself stronger if that makes you feel better. It doesn't sound like your trans just confused and that's fine. If you want to take a label of nonbinary or whatever that's up to you. Any person who alienates you for going off of hormones is not your friend fuck people who want you to live a certain way I dont care who they are at the end of the day their not living your life...
Detransitioners and transitioners should work together. To create better awareness and better safety measures in place for out health as a fact of moving forward.
Invalidating trans identities doesnt help this it just causes more discord.
From what I've seen in this reddit is alot of trans hate and possible assumptions it may be time to start a better subreddit or a discord where transitioners and detransitioners can come together to make things better for all.
You need to stand up for yourself. Do what makes you happy if theres something you dont like then change instead of complaining. If you dont like your voice change it. I changed mine yes it's hard work. Yes you went through a Male puberty and now you dont have your original voice but the truth is your original voice is still there the only thing that happened is your voice box dropped. You have muscles in your neck and you can put it back in place to gain back your original voice.
I have a cis woman voice. I'm never clocked as trans because of it. I worked damn hard at my voice. You should only change something if you desire the change.
Fuck social status, fuck what people think tell yourself every day in the mirror whether you believe it or not, that you are a beautiful smart intelligent woman. Stop listening to negative voices in your head. When you think negatively the brain works to produce neg thoughts when you think positively the brain works to produce positive thoughts.
You hold the power to yourself. You can stay in the hole or decide what your gonna do that's gonna make you feel better and get to work to pull yourself out of that hole.
Have any of you ever thought that if you didnt transition that you wouldve always thought of what if and done it anyways. I'm a trans woman myself I dont regret any choices I've made. But I like to jump on the detrans reddits and also people who regret srs and whatever to understand things from both sides. I have no desire to go back let alone what it would do to my career and what's already happened. Any young person that's asked me about starting HRT and the like I've warned them that hormones is nothing to play around with so many think they can just switch it back without any repercussions. I made the choice because I almost killed myself when I totaled my vehicle ran it into a tree. For me transitioning was my way out of hell sure it came with it's own set of problems but I'm a happier human being thanx to it. I regret nothing.
I completely agree that they should conduct more surveys to verify the numbers and to work on providing better care and better knowledge to people before anyone decides to go on this journey hormones are nothing to fuck around with. It really does suck when I hear about people who arent trans who went through stuff. I like to dive in here just to educate myself more and I always encourage anyone thinking about starting HRT to also jump on here and read about all of those who regret what they chose to do...
A big part of getting your voice back in to that range is changing where your larynx sits at. You wont figure it out over night. Taking singing lessons will help you gain more control of your voice too. Ive heard people recommend this still something I would like to do.
Idk if I've perfectly mastered this myself. I personally had a few voice therapy sessions and my therapist helped a little bit but did not know anything about raising the larynx of the vocal cords. She mainly helped me with speaking from the top of my throat instead of from my chest. That is important most women who goes on t though often times dont change how they talk though so they end up with the tranny voice. If you did talk from your chest or still do though this may be something you need to work on too.
At some point after a month of practicing I went full time just speaking in a higher pitched voice and fine tweaked my voice as time went on some friends told me it didnt sound natural some people probably thought I was mental but eventually I found my female voice. I practiced swallowing and holding voice box in a higher position.
Also I personally believe words have power so you can also speak things into existence.
Like as you practice in such tell yourself that you have a female voice that you never went on testosterone etc... it helped me alot. Idk I grew up in a religious family so I asked god to help me too and for me it was overnight when I prayed it's like a switch flipped in my brain.
When I initially figured it out I practiced singing really high like beyond my vocal range capabilities till there was nothing coming out and my voice box got stuck in a higher place which made my voice sound alot more feminine. I would say be cautious here as I imagine you might be able to damage things. How you'll know if your damaging things is if you feel like your vocal cords are stretching like strings stop if you feel this stretching sensation.
If your throat becomes sore dont worry about it give yourself a day or 2 break and then go back at it...
If you want it to change quickly your going to have to become consciously aware of it and continually focus on staying in a higher range of pitch. Record your phone conversations with "cube acr" android app listen to yourself. Record and play back your voice as you practice you might sound really stupid at first more than likely will and that is okay.
Do vocal exercises plenty of vids on youtube for this.
My voice became passable after 3 months of training but it still wasnt as natural as it is now. I still find myself dipping into the andro range if I'm not conscious of where my voice box is but it is getting easier and more effortless as time goes on.
Since your voice is already andro and you were born female i cant imagine it would be as hard for you to shift your voice box up higher.
Who knows her voice lessons in that video below may be something you should look at.
I will tell you though the key is moving your voice box back to where it was before testosterone lowered it... check out the 2 vids below past that google is your friend and also dischord android app theres a channel called "Transpeak" with alot of good resources in it.
Idk that's pretty strong hate I actually believe that they are trying to help. At the same time we are all guinea pigs in various things, it's just part of life and the future generations will benefit from our mistakes. As far as avoiding collateral damage idk if it's truly possible. You want people to gatekeep you and you probably wouldve done it anyways or possibly killed yourself there are plenty of easy ways to get hormones now adays on the internet it only takes google... Gatekeeping is not the answer more therapy to try to dissuade before simply giving informed consent I totally think would be good. But you probably dont like my opinions and I dont like yours either but I'm throwing in my 2 cents deal with it.
It was your choice to transition that's what informed consent is there for. Doctors used to be gatekeepers, finally trans healthcare got to a place to where they realized that you cant tell someone that they are trans or not. I'm sorry but it just sounds like you just want to blame somebody else. If they had told you no and done all the testing you wouldve gone through doing it anyways because you wanted to transition, I dont believe it's fair to blame the doctors. Or try to impose gatekeeping which quite frankly doesnt work. You want insurance to cover reversal surgeries? I disagree and even if I wanted to detransition I wouldn't expect insurance to pay for my fuckup. I've seen stories of people being swishy washy going off hormones detransitionijg then retransitioning again!
Okay one thing I do believe we need though is like 6 months of serious therapy before giving the option of informed consent making it well known that hormones are not to be fucked around with your body will not be the same are you sure this is who you are? Okay you thought about things for a few years and you thought youd start because trans healthcare might be pulled?
You know why I transitioned? I tried to end my life drove my mustang into a tree at 60mph I'm amazed that I made it out alive. I thought about transition since I was 14. I'm 30 now started at 29 after I tried to take my life, I did not want to take this path this wasnt a choice for me.
I'm the happiest I've ever been society accepts me for who I am I have a solid career now I'm excelling in everything now, before I was going nowhere!
You chose to take hormones on a whim and now you want to blame your doctor?
I think a good part of it is mindset I had a really hard time dating before transition. If your having a difficult time dating I dont believe transitioning or detransitioning will make this any easier... I am now engaged to my bf he and I love eachother. I'd imagine the guys would be all over you. Youd probably have a decent chance with bisexual girls as well not so sure about the straight ones. I was never interested in straight woman often times I dont relate to them and I just dont find them attractive. for myself personally I get hit on more now than ever....