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- Personal, detailed narrative with specific timelines and a consistent story of detransition.
- Complex emotional reasoning for transition and detransition, citing trauma, OCD, autism, and internalized issues.
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- Engagement in debate and a clear, passionate worldview consistent with a genuine detransitioner.
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About me
My gender dysphoria started from trauma, OCD, and being autistic, and I transitioned in 2014 thinking it was the answer. I took testosterone for six years and found that while it eased some initial distress, it created new problems and health worries. I realized my discomfort with male stereotypes didn't make me a woman, but just a feminine man. I needed to detransition and address my underlying issues to finally find peace. Now, I live happily as a gender non-conforming man, free from that ideology.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated and rooted in a lot of other problems I was dealing with. I now believe my gender dysphoria was a symptom, not the cause of my issues. It was spurred on by a mix of trauma, OCD, and being autistic. I also had a lot of internalized issues about being a man and never felt like I fit in with other guys.
When I first started transitioning around 2014, it felt like a solution. The online communities I was in were so affirming; they made me feel awesome and brave for figuring out my "true self." That feeling of validation was incredibly powerful. But looking back, I see how dangerous that kind of constant, unquestioning affirmation can be. It paints transition as the only positive solution for anyone who doesn't conform to gender norms, and that's just not true. It's okay to be a feminine man.
I took testosterone for about six years. While it did ease some of my initial obsessive disgust about my sex, my brain just moved on to fixate on other things. It was like a dog chasing its own tail. "Becoming a woman" was an unattainable goal, and I started to feel like it came at the expense of actual women. I also became concerned about the health risks I was taking. I read studies showing that taking estrogen, which I was doing as part of my transition, significantly increases the risk of strokes, heart attacks, and blood clots.
I’m embarrassed about those six years. The changes from testosterone are permanent and still bother me sometimes, like my voice or body hair. Society still expects me to act like a typical man in certain situations, like wearing a suit, and I hate that pressure. But I’ve stopped lying to myself. I realized that my love for feminine things and my discomfort with male stereotypes didn't make me a woman. It just made me a gender non-conforming man.
I was exposed to hardcore porn at a very young age, which I think caused a kind of non-sexual, autistic hyperfixation on female anatomy. Even though I'm exclusively attracted to men, I became obsessed with the idea of having a female body. This, combined with a desire to escape from being seen as male, fueled my transition.
I don't regret transitioning in the sense that I needed to go through it to learn this about myself, but I do regret not understanding the root causes of my feelings sooner. I benefited from eventually stepping away from affirming spaces and dealing with my underlying trauma, OCD, and autism. My dysphoria relaxed a lot once I started to heal those individual issues.
Now, I live as a very feminine man. I dress in an androgynous or feminine way and am happy to leave the ideology behind. I’m just me.
| Age | Date (if known) | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 9 | N/A | Exposed to hardcore porn, leading to a non-sexual hyperfixation on the female form. |
| ~20 | 2014 | Began social and medical transition (started testosterone). |
| ~26 | 2020 | Began detransitioning after 6 years on testosterone. Realized dysphoria was linked to trauma, OCD, and autism. |
| 27 | 2021-12 | Living as a detransitioned, gender non-conforming male. |
Top Comments by /u/executiveproton:
i dont think that this extreme and constant affirmation is healthy at all and these subs are the epicentre of what i would describe as "mtf culture" right now. i think that painting transition as being nothing but positive and the idea that transitioning is the solution to everyone's problems (who is facing identity/dysphoria issues) is skin-crawlingly dangerous.
these communities didn't even exist in 2014 when i began my transition - i was a part of some online communities with a heavy trans population and felt like i fit in there. i know what it's like to be affirmed in this way - it fills you with butterflies in your stomach, everyone thinks you're awesome and brave, and are so happy for you finding your true self. i got to feel like this, and that was a community of just a couple dozen people. these subs have hundreds of thousands of members and what concerns me is that they push this narrative that any/all signs of gender non-conformity are signs of being trans when this is simply not true. it's ok to be a feminine guy or not fit in with the other guys!
anyway, i've written about this before on this sub and if you want to read about my experiences as a detrans guy then you can see it here. i also read and republished an open letter from mother to her trans son today which really resonated with me. i highly recommend you give that a read too here
i recognize that we may have a difference in worldview, and that's ok. my opinions about the importance of sex vs gender are not typical for most "reddit users" but that's not my point. i just hope you live a long, healthy, and happy life.
edit: fixed a link
i'm honestly embarassed talking about the 6 years i spent transitioned and i wouldn't be surprised if a lot of guys just don't want to talk about it or don't need/want/expect help regarding it. furthermore, a community has been formed around ftm detransitioners that is largely feminist, and as a male i don't feel comfortable inserting myself in such spaces. finally, neovag notwithstanding, the changes women face from T are more invasive than the changes guys face from E.
as a side note, please run as far away from egg_irl and traa as possible
because my dysphoria stemmed from a mixture of trauma, OCD, and autism (as well as internalised misandry and general gender non-conformity) and while transitioning somewhat alleviated my compulsive obsession and disgust over my sex, my brain just moved onto other things. not to mention that "becoming a woman" was an unattainable goal that comes at the expense of others (women). like a dog chasing its own tail.
i am still a very gnc male. my before and after detransition photos look the same, because i love being feminine. i just stopped lying about it making me a woman somehow
Thanks for sharing! Yes I still dress in a very androgynous to feminine manner, and am happy leaving the ideology behind and living as a "femboy" (although that term has sexual connotations nowadays, I can't think of a word to replace it). The effects of testosterone on my body still agitate me, however, and there are some situations where society expects me to still wear a suit. I hate it.
I actually haven't reported you whatsoever and am happy to speak to you. I'm not really a user of this subreddit either (so your accusation that I am in the r/detrans cult falls flat). This essay was written for Twitter, I just posted it here to let guys who went through the same experiences as myself know that they aren't alone :)
Likewise, you are a part of a body modification cult that I apparently can't criticize either?
i have agp aspects insofar as i was exposed to hardcore porn when i was 9 years old and it caused a kind of autistic non-sexual hyperfixation on vaginas and the female form (despite being completely homosexual), and i find great catharsis in not being seen as male
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8515285/
A systematic review and meta-analysis of CV [cardiovascular] outcomes in transgender people reported few cases of myocardial infarction (MI), stroke, or venous thrombosis; however, the incidence was higher in transgender women compared to transgender men
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A Dutch study of 2517 transgender women using estrogen followed for an average of 9 years found twice as many strokes and MIs as in cisgender women and almost twice as many strokes and no difference in MIs compared to cisgender men; also a five-fold and four-fold increase risk in thromboembolic events compared to both ciswomen and cismen, respectively
i think i was in the same boat, but i feel as though my dysphoria was spurred on my a myriad of other issues in my life, which after i manage to heal each individually, relaxed those awful feelings of dysphoria. i don't know why anyone in their right mind would want to transition of not to alleviate dysphoria. this is what i'm saying - not conforming to gender norms should not necessitate transition