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About me
I started feeling intense discomfort with the expectations of being a woman when I was a teenager. I found online communities that convinced me transitioning was the only answer, and I identified as male for a while. I eventually realized my desire to transition was really about escaping sexist stereotypes, not my body itself. I am grateful I never medically transitioned, as I found true peace by rejecting gender roles altogether. I now believe my dysphoria was a sign to challenge society's rules, not change my body.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started with a deep discomfort that I, and many others, mistook for being born in the wrong body. I now believe the problem wasn't my body, but the rigid and often cruel stereotypes society attaches to being female. I felt pressured to fit a specific idea of womanhood that I couldn't relate to, and my personality and interests didn't align with what was expected of me. This created a powerful sense of dysphoria.
I started to explore my identity online and found communities that offered transition as the only solution to these feelings. For a while, I thought taking hormones and getting surgery was my only path to being my authentic self. I was deeply influenced by what I read online and by the friends I made in those spaces. It felt like an escape from the person I was supposed to be.
However, I began to question everything. I started to realize that my desire to transition was rooted in a desire to escape the stereotypes and assumptions tied to my female body, not in a fundamental mismatch between my brain and my body. I had to do a lot of work to unlearn the idea that my body should dictate my personality. This process of unlearning gender did far more for my peace of mind than any medical intervention ever did.
I never went through with medical transition. I am incredibly grateful for that now, as I see the permanent changes others have gone through and the serious health complications and infertility some now face. I only transitioned socially for a short time, and I consider myself very lucky that I didn't make any permanent alterations to my body that I would now regret.
I don't believe in the concept of a "male brain" or a "female brain." I think the idea that we need to change our bodies to match a personality type is a harmful social construct. True freedom, for me, came from rejecting gender entirely and learning to just exist as a person. I have no regrets about not transitioning medically, but I do regret the time I spent believing I was something I wasn't, and the pain that entire ideology caused me.
I now believe that for many people, dysphoria is a sign that we need to change the way we view our bodies and challenge society's rules, not that we need to change our bodies themselves.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Began experiencing intense discomfort with puberty and the social expectations of being female. Felt like my personality didn't fit. |
| 18 | Found online trans communities and was heavily influenced by them. Started to believe I might be trans and began a social transition. |
| 19 | Started seriously questioning the concept of gender itself. Began the process of unlearning gender stereotypes and stopped identifying as trans. |
| 20 | Fully detransitioned socially. Realized my dysphoria was caused by societal pressure, not a innate identity, and found peace in rejecting gender labels entirely. |
Top Comments by /u/exh_ust_d:
I wouldn't say there are defined "signs" necessarily. But the ideas society has of gender and bodies are weird and confusing, so I'd just say that it's important to try figure out why you want to transition before you make any lasting changes.
For many people who identify as trans, who go on to regret their transition, their motivations are guided by self loathing and a desire to escape stereotypes associated with their biological sex and presentation. Dysphoria/euphoria is not necessarily a sign that you need to change your body, but rather that you need to change the way you view your body.
What makes your brain female in that case? There are so many people feeling like their brains don't match the gender they're assigned, that I'm kind of sceptical about the whole idea. I honestly believe that we need an overhaul of gender and the idea that bodies should go with particular personality types, and this is the only way to truly overcome dysphoria
Idk I think the whole notion of being cis vs being trans is...kind of fake? You can accept yourself as physically female without actively identifying with that gender identity and associated personality traits. Imo trying to overcome body dysphoria is the most important hurdle, even if you still socially frame yourself as a guy.
It's not "wrong", some people just realise that transitioning wasn't the right option for them. As long as you're happy and not hurting other people/infringing on female centric-spaces, then there's no reason for you to question your lifestyle or gender identity.
I really relate tbh.
I think you just need to figure out how to be yourself. You don't need to be "prepared for womanhood" and you don't need to take hormones to masculinize yourself.
Gender is bullshit. You just need to exist, and find people to hang out with who can accept you as more than a label.
I agree with the sentiment of this but I think it's unfair to expect people to detrans. Transwomen should be respected in their existence but remain as a separate category to cis women without access to female safe spaces and resources (but perfectly welcome to create their own!)
I'm sorry but a lot of us would be considered terfs. The trans community has harmed a lot of people here, and a lot of the lgbt+ community have absolutely no compassion for those who detrans. (the user above is still being an asshole but yeah)
Personally trying to unlearn gender has done a lot more from me than taking hormones/binding has. I think the main issue is that society assigns personality traits to bodies and it's agonising having a body that's got a load of gross assumptions so deeply tied to it.
You may not class us as terfs, but the general trans community does. You get called a terf for simply not being attracted to penises, or thinking pre-transition mtf's shouldn't be in the same rape crisis centres as afab people. The term has lost all meaning, and is mainly just used to silence people.
Gender isn't real, no child should be forced to live up to an arbitrary set of social rules based on the body they happen to be born into.
Just let kids be kids. No one needs to "man-up" or "act ladylike". People are just people. Perpetuating the idea that biological sex => personality type is the reason why kids end up thinking they have to take sex hormones in order to become their authentic selves.
With all due respect, your notions of gender are misinformed, and you clearly have no experience or understanding of gender dysphoria or detransitioning.
You failed to respond to most of my points, so I will repeat and reiterate.
On sexual violence and maturity:
And what about those who are raped or pressured into sex? Under this proposed law, how would they prove this? Only 2% of reported rapes even go to trial, with far more going unreported. What about those under the age of consent? Are they too young to consent to sex, but old enough to consent to pregnancy?
On brain maturation, age and irreversible decisions:
In what universe are people who are "too immature" to have abortions, somehow mature enough to go through the physical, social, and hormonal ordeal of (non-consensual) pregnancy?
Pregnancy is irreversible, and carries with it permanent effects, hormonally, physically and socially which are far worse than the 5% risk of regret (incontinence, sagging skin, vaginal tearing, varicose veins, psychosis and for 0.14% of women, death) With any regret lessening as time passes, being related to social stigma and being completely unrelated to age (young women in education are actually less likely to regret getting an abortion)
Abortion isn't "irrational" it is naturally the best option for many women, particularly young women who are still in education and are not interested in putting their professional and personal lives on hold and permanently changing their bodies, acquiring chronic health problems, to bring an unwanted life into the world.
"Don't be so dramatic"
Forced pregnancy is horrifying. If anyone is being dramatic, it would be you making up claims of post-abortion life-long regret. People aren't "suffering for the rest of their lives" because they weren't forced to continue an unwanted pregnancy, and the idea that phenomena exists and is widespread is illogical and incorrect.
Pregnancy is a completely natural biological process.
So is cancer, so are disabilities, so are all medical conditions. Something being biological doesn't make it a better option and doesn't preclude it from being inconvenient and humiliating. Thankfully, medical science has reached a point where we can fix the shitty parts of our biology and women and men can live and enjoy sex equally, without women having to carry the risk of pregnancy in the process.
I suspect that you might be a right-wing troll, or at least a deliberately obtuse misogynist, so I'm not going to reply to any further comments if any are made.