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The user engages in complex, multi-point debates, shows empathy and support to others, and expresses a consistent, passionate ideology rooted in gender-critical feminism. Their language is nuanced, emotional, and reactive to other users' arguments, all of which are strong indicators of a real person.
While the user identifies as gender-critical (GC) and not a detransitioner, they are careful to state they respect the sub's purpose and primarily offer support or challenge misinformation, which aligns with the stated rules of the community.
About me
I felt uncomfortable as a girl from a young age and hated the changes of puberty. I found an explanation online, came out as a trans man, and started testosterone hoping it would fix my depression. After having top surgery, I realized my feelings were more about rejecting sexist stereotypes than being male. I stopped hormones and began detransitioning, which was scary but also a relief. Now, through therapy, I've learned to accept my female body and understand that I can be a masculine woman.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young, feeling uncomfortable with the expectations placed on me as a girl. I never felt like I fit in with the other girls and hated the changes my body went through during puberty, especially developing breasts. I felt like my body was betraying me. I spent a lot of time online in my teens and found communities that explained these feelings as being "trans." It made sense at the time; it felt like an answer to why I felt so out of place.
I came out as non-binary first, around age 17, and then later as a trans man. My friends were mostly supportive, and it felt good to belong to a group that understood me. I started testosterone when I was 19. I was deeply depressed and had a lot of anxiety, and I hoped that transitioning would fix everything. I also struggled with my body image in a way that I now recognize was similar to an eating disorder; I was obsessed with making my body look a certain way.
A couple of years after starting hormones, I got top surgery. I was 21. I hated my breasts and believed removing them was the only way to feel comfortable. For a while, it felt like a relief. But the underlying depression and anxiety never really went away. I started to question what I had done. I realized that a lot of my desire to transition was rooted in not liking the sexist stereotypes associated with being a woman. I didn't want to be seen as weak or passive. I also think I had internalized some homophobia; I'm attracted to women, and the idea of being in a lesbian relationship felt uncomfortable to me at the time. Being a straight man seemed easier.
I began to detransition about a year after my surgery. I was 22. I stopped taking testosterone. It was a scary decision because I was worried about what my friends and family would think. The trans community had been my support system, and I was afraid of losing that. But I also felt a huge sense of relief. I was finally being honest with myself.
I don't regret my transition in the sense that it was a path I needed to go down to learn who I am. But I do regret the permanent changes to my body, especially the top surgery. I'm now infertile, which is something I have to come to terms with. I've benefited a lot from therapy that wasn't focused on affirming a trans identity but instead helped me work through my depression, low self-esteem, and the trauma that contributed to my feelings. I've learned that my body is not the problem; the problem was my inability to accept it and the pressure I felt to conform to rigid ideas about gender. I now believe that gender is a social construct, and that my sex as a female is a biological reality that doesn't have to limit who I am or how I act. I can be a woman who is masculine, and that's perfectly fine.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and my developing body. |
| 17 | Came out as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone and began socially detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/feminismwritings:
I don't understand why she has been banned. Because there are some screenshots of her posts on discord servers? And those express her personal opinions? That makes no sense. She hasn't broken any of the rules of this sub: you can't hold her to the rules of this sub on other forums.
It feels like you're running this sub like a cult.
I am a GCer and I agree with your post. I hope you guys manage to keep this sib going as it's an important space for you guys. I won't reply or post to anything except to offer words of support or to gently correct any misinformation (e.g. if there are comments that are cruel or incorrect about the facts of transition).
Unless she has given you permission to write these responses it's completely irresponsible and unethical for you to write these details about her body, when you have banned her so that she can't speak for herself.
Your actions on this sub are completely unethical and wrong. You might mean well but you are making people extremely suspicious by silencing this person for unclear reasons. I'm pretty horrified.
I'm sorry you're feeling this way it sounds hard. If you feel depressed, please do seek professional support.
I wonder (and this is just an idea) whether it would help to be less focussed on you're body's appearance, and instead more focused on your body's capabilities and your mind's capabilities. This is absolutely not a criticism of you for focusing on your body - most people are to some extent interested in how their body looks. But if we focus on our looks, we will always find things 'wrong', and we will probably not get fulfillment from constantly 'working on' how we present to the world.
Instead, it can be helpful to focus on the 'you' that is within. What hobbies do you enjoy? What causes do you care about? What friends do you like hanging out with? Live your life to the fullest and enjoy growing the personality you want to have rather than the appearance you want to have. The first is for YOU, the second is for other people. :)
It might also be fun for you to focus on what your body can do. Can you climb or run or arrange flowers or make art or make food? Is your body skilled at dance or sport or fixing machines? Focusing on your body as a powerful thing rather than an object to be seen and perceived by other people might feel really empowering to you.
Wishing you lots of luck xx
I don't think it's a good idea to accept posts from people claiming to be medical professionals when we don't know anything about their qualifications or background. I'm very skeptical of the claims made here. There are desperate and vulnerable people on this sub and it's not right to allow authoritative-seeming posts on a medically controversial issue for which there is no consensus.
Hiya! A better interview on the same book might be the one recently posted between Posie Parker and Abigail Shrier (the author), but I don't know if I'm allowed to post that as Posie is a radical feminist. Can the mods confirm whether or not that's postable?
Hiya. There's a lot here so let me make just a few small points:
A lot of your fears and drivers seem to be about how other people would feel and what other people would want. It's YOUR body. If you feel like you want to stop taking hormones, stop taking hormones (ideally under a doctor's advice on how to do that, of course). Do not live your life for other people. It's noone else's business how your body looks or is dressed. It's very sweet that you are worrying about your parents' feelings, but your parents love you and will get over it. If they coped with you transitioning they can certainly cope with you detransitioning.
In answer to your question 'how did you know you were a woman'? I realised that being a woman is a biological fact, it's not a 'feeling' inside. When a chicken is born, a farmer who knows what he's looking for can identify the sex of the chicken. The farmer doesn't wait to see how the chicken acts to know if the chicken is a rooster or a hen. If a rooster stops crowing, it will still be a rooster, because the word rooster refers to the chicken's reproductive potential. The rooster can't lay an egg and has male organs, so it's a rooster. Why do you think humans are different or special? We're the same as any other animal that comes in two sexes: our sex can be observed by our sex organs which determine our reproductive potential. I know that's 'boring' but science is boring lol. And imagine the alternative: if being a woman is determined by how 'feminine' you act or feel or dress, then that's a very fucking sexist definition of being a woman. I am a woman (an adult female human) but I don't act feminine AT ALL. I like building things, I am the boss at work, I wear masculine clothes. But I'm still a woman because that's just a fact, not a feeling.
Hope this helps. Good luck. I hope you can slowly accept your body for whatever it is right now and recognise that you can be any kind of woman you want to be - you don't need to be 'girly' or 'pretty'. If you feel more comfortable in button downs and brogues so be it, who cares? I know lots of very attractive women who dress in a masculine way, it's sexy af. Be a woman who doesn't conform and breaks down these sexist rules.
You can indulge in your AGP without changing your body. Dress however you want. Fantasise about whatever you want. Tuck your genitals when you masturbate if you want to. Read fantasy erotica. Noone is stopping you. Your fetish is your private world. Lots of people have fetishes, they don't make it the basis of their whole identity. They don't make permanent irreversible changes to themselves as children based on their fetish.
Every single other body dysmorphia we treat as a mental health issue, with kind, humane therapy. We do this for people with BIID or anorexia. There is no longitudinal evidence showing that surgical physical transitioning has positive effects on the well-being of people with gender dysphoria.
There was a small study done of people with BIID after they had their body part amputated. A lot of them were very happy about the amputation and didn't regret it. But they still unnecessarily mutilated their healthy body, and in my view it would have been much better to treat them with therapy, even though in the short term they themselves preferred the amputation over the therapy. Just because people want to harm their bodies, doesn't mean that's a good thing.
For the record, I think legally adults should be allowed to get this kind of medically unnecessary plastic surgery if they pay for it themselves. But they aren't making a healthy decision, and more than a man who gets a penis enlargement or woman who gets a boob job is making a healthy choice.
Well I'm not sure about her wider politics, but her activism is all related to women's rights. I don't think she's politically Conservative (i.e. Tory) but I don't know, sorry. She's the activist who is trying to stop Mermaids (the UK charity) from coming into schools. She's pretty vocal on protecting women's sex-segregated spaces.
I don't think her video interviewing Abigail Shrier has anything particularly right-wing in it, they're just talking about the book. But if it would offend people on this sub to have a conservative voice speaking about trans issues I won't post, obviously want to keep this a protected space.
Listen, noone will take you seriously if you say things that. I'm almost starting to think that you're just trying to wind people up, which is annoying because I'm trying to empathize with you. Paraphrasing/quoting from wikis for brevity:
Autogynephilia is defined as a male's propensity to be sexually aroused by the thought of himself as a female. It is a paraphilia.
Most clinicians and researchers believe that paraphilic sexual interests cannot be altered, although evidence is needed to support this. Instead, the goal of therapy is normally to reduce the person's discomfort with their paraphilia and limit any criminal behavior. CBT has shown some limited success in reducing distress related to paraphilia.
A fetish is a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body.
AGPs are aroused by the thought of themselves having a female body.
None of the above, 1-4, is anything akin to 'cis female sexuality'. Unless they have a fetish, women are not aroused by the thought of themselves as a man or a woman.