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About me
I was a tomboy my whole life, but my short hair went from being a simple style to a signal that I must be trans. I felt pressured into identifying as non-binary because it seemed easier than fighting to be seen as a masculine woman. I now see this ideology as harmful, where we treat a mental disconnect with surgery instead of helping people feel comfortable in their own bodies. My own detransition meant growing my hair out just to be recognized as the woman I am. I've finally found peace by stepping away from those online spaces and learning to see my own beauty as a female.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I was always a tomboy. I had short hair my whole life and never had a problem with it. But over time, I noticed that having a pixie cut went from just being a girl's haircut to a universal signal that you were trans or non-binary. People stopped seeing me as a masculine woman and started assuming I was something else entirely. I never wanted that association.
I started to believe that maybe I was non-binary because it felt like the only box that fit how others saw me. It was easier to go along with it than to constantly fight to be recognized as a woman who was just gender non-conforming. But deep down, it never felt right. I felt pressured into an identity by the culture around me.
My thoughts on gender now are that "trans" isn't a real thing in the way it's presented. I see it as a harmful ideology. I compare it to a mental illness where people want a healthy limb amputated because their brain tells them it doesn't belong. It’s a crime for a doctor to amputate a healthy limb for someone with that condition, but they’ll perform a double mastectomy on a sixteen-year-old girl who feels the same way about her breasts? It makes no sense to me. We should be helping people come back to reality, not affirming a disconnect from it. The problem is in the mind, and we shouldn't be solving maladies of the head with surgeries.
I don't regret exploring my identity, but I deeply regret that I ever felt pushed into identifying as trans. The biggest change for me in detransitioning was having to grow my hair out long. It was the only way I could get people to recognize me as a woman again. It’s sad that we’ve regressed so much as a society that a woman can’t have short hair without her gender being questioned.
I now think I'm very beautiful as a woman, but it took time to see that. After being one way for a while, it's hard to shift your perspective. It took hearing it from others and building my confidence back up to realize that what was in front of me all along was just me, a woman, and that was okay. I benefited from stepping away from the online spaces and just working on myself internally. I don't need an ideology to tell me who I am.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood - Early Teens | I was a tomboy with short hair, seen as a masculine girl. |
| Mid-Teens (around 16) | Cultural shift; my short hair was seen as a sign of being trans/non-binary. Felt pressure to identify as non-binary. |
| Late Teens / Early 20s | Realized the identity didn't fit. Underwent a social detransition. |
| 20s | Grew my hair out long to be recognized as a woman again. Worked on self-acceptance and seeing my own beauty. |
Top Comments by /u/fishesar:
it reminds me of the mental illness where people view their limbs as not their own and feel compelled to get amputation. it is a crime for a doctor to amputate healthy issue due to that mental compulsion but they’ll cut the healthy breasts off a sixteen year old girl because she has a different mental illness? it makes no sense
If a doctor performs an amputation for a mentally ill person they will be arrested. Its happened to a doctor who then pivoted to trans mutilations. I see no difference between denying an adult an amputation because their brain tells them they need it and us denying mutilating an ill “trans” person. When someone is experience psychosis do we tell them “yes you ARE Jesus and speaking to god” because it’s more comfortable for them? No, we help them come back to reality.
i’ve had short hair my whole life and over the course of my life time i’ve witnessed pixie cuts go from a girls hair cut to being a universal signal of trans/nonbinaryness on a female. the only way i pass for cisgender again after de transitioning was by having to grow my hair out to be seen as a women again. we’ve literally regressed so much as a society
and i’m trying to explain the similarity is that this is all mental. it’s all coming from people’s brains. you THINK you’re gross. you are unlikely to be actually gross. we should not be solving maladies of the head with surgeries. all it does is affirm the psychosis/disconnect with reality. i highly recommend some more therapy and internal work. you aren’t gross! you are worth loving yourself as you are!
this is not a place for trans hug boxing. this is a place for honest conversations about trans ideology, its direct effect on our lives, and its effect on society as a whole. people who have had years of their lives and their bodies ravaged by it will be a little angry and “over it”
for me it’s purely cultural so i get recognized as a woman by others. when i was gnc i never got gendered correctly anymore even though i was a major tom boy growing up. everyone assumed i was trans/non binary and i do not wanna be associated with that
i don’t believe “trans” exists. its pure ideology and i think it’s very very harmful. transition is like cutting off the arm of someone with that mental disorder who thinks their limb is their own. and so i can’t be transphobic if trans ain’t real 😋 maybe this sub ain’t for you hon. you may be happier joining the hons over at 4trans4 who are constantly on the verge of suicide because of their lifestyle choice
i totally get the mindset you’re in. i was also always masculine before detransitioning. i now think im very beautiful but it took a second and hearing it from others to realize. it’s hard to shift and see what’s in front of you after being one way for a while but you are gorgeous! your confidence will grow and you will see yourself as you are as time goes on