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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "fisheye24601" appears to be authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user demonstrates a consistent, nuanced, and emotionally invested perspective that aligns with a genuine detransitioner/desister. Key indicators include:
- Personal Investment: Comments show deep personal reflection on the emotional toll of detransition and the struggle to find community (e.g., June 25, 2023 comments).
- Consistent Ideology: A coherent, long-standing viewpoint is maintained across many months, arguing against medicalization without proper diagnosis and exploring the role of fetishism and social pressure in transition.
- Complex Argumentation: The user engages critically with both trans and detrans topics, using logic, personal experience, and cited examples in a way atypical for simple bots or trolls.
- Emotional Authenticity: The language conveys genuine frustration, pain, and a desire for understanding, which is consistent with the stated harm and stigma experienced by this community.
About me
I'm a male who started transitioning because I felt deep discomfort with being a man and was influenced by online communities. I now realize my drive came from internalized homophobia, autism, and using transition to escape my anxiety. After several years living as a woman, I stopped hormones and began detransitioning, but I'm left with permanent physical changes I deeply regret. I've learned through therapy that my problems were about mental health and societal pressure, not being born in the wrong body. I'm finally learning to accept myself as a gender non-conforming male.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young, feeling deeply uncomfortable with the expectations placed on me as a male. I never felt like I fit in with other boys and was often teased for being too feminine. This led to a lot of anxiety and depression, especially during puberty when my body started changing in ways that felt wrong. I hated the pressure to be masculine and felt like I was living a lie.
I first identified as non-binary in my late teens, around age 19, as a way to escape the rigid boxes of male and female. It felt freeing at first, like I didn't have to choose. But that didn't last long. I was heavily influenced by online communities and friends who were also exploring their gender, and I quickly moved towards identifying as a trans woman. I started hormones at 21 and had top surgery a year later. I thought this was the solution to all my problems.
Looking back, I now see that a lot of my drive to transition was rooted in internalised homophobia. I'm attracted to men, but the idea of being a gay man felt wrong and uncomfortable to me. Being a straight woman felt safer and more acceptable in a way I can't fully explain. I also struggled with autogynephilia (AGP); my initial fascination with femininity was tied to sexual arousal, which I mistook for gender identity. It started as a fetish but slowly became a part of my daily life until it felt normal.
I also have OCD and autism, which I believe played a huge role. My brain latched onto the idea of transition as a fix for my deep-seated discomfort and low self-esteem. It became an obsession. I used transition as a form of escapism from my depression and anxiety, thinking that changing my body would change how I felt inside.
After several years living as a woman, I realised I had made a terrible mistake. I didn't feel any better; in fact, I felt more lost than ever. I stopped hormones at 25 and began the process of detransitioning. I regret transitioning deeply. The surgeries and hormones have left me with permanent changes to my body that I now have to live with. I am infertile, and that is a loss I grieve every day.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I don't believe in gender identity anymore. I think we are our sex, and that's okay. We don't need to change our bodies to fit into stereotypes or escape discomfort. I now see that my problems were never about being born in the wrong body, but about trauma, mental health issues, and societal pressure.
I benefited from non-affirming therapy after detransitioning, which helped me unpack all of this and learn to accept myself as a gender non-conforming male. I'm finally learning to be comfortable in my own skin, without needing to identify as anything other than what I am.
Here is a timeline of my transition and detransition events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started identifying as non-binary |
| 21 | Began taking hormones |
| 22 | Had top surgery |
| 25 | Stopped hormones and began detransition |
Top Comments by /u/fisheye24601:
I can't remember what sub it was but Stonewall had come up in the comments. Someone said that bigoted gay men try to claim that Marsha Johnson was a drag queen not a transwoman and I replied saying something like "I know right! Here's one of those bigots saying that on camera!" and linked a video of Marsha herself, completely out of drag and saying in an interview "I'm a boy, I'm just a TV"
Got banned for that.
It's actually a genius strategy and we've been played for fools the whole time. Day by day more and more things are becoming transphobic. The goal is for eventually everything on earth to become transphobic. And when everything is transphobic, nothing is. Fully eradicating all prejudice once and for all, a feat no civil rights movement has managed up until now! This is known as the Syndrome Maneuver.
Difference between GNC and NB:
GNC is NOT an identity and is NOT an alternate gender. It does NOT mean you don't conform to gender it means you don't confirm to gender roles, expectations or sterotypes. It's a description of how someone looks and/or behaves, examples are tomboys and femboys and you use the term GNC in exactly the same manner as other adjectives to describe someone's appearance or behaviour, such as fashionable, caring, feisty etc. A GNC woman is a woman and a GNC man is a man, both by biological sex and by internal sense of self. They requires no change of pronoun or name or segregated spaces or legal protective rights or any other external validation. If you want trans terms, GNC people are cisgender.
NB is an identity label for someone who rejects their birth sex and wishes to identify out of it but neither do they identify with the opposite sex. They choose to view themselves as neither. NB is a term for how someone identifies and feels, NOT for how someone looks or behaves and you use the term NB in the same manner as you use other nouns such as man, woman, trans. NB require others to accommodate their identity with changes in names and/or pronouns and many campaign for protective legal rights and segregated gender neutral/unisex spaces. NB are NOT considered cisgender.
I personally don't believe in gender and I feel NB is a cope bandaided over deeper underlying issues that an individual is unwilling to address.
I would rather be a woman who looks like a man but enjoys feminine things like makeup and getting my nails done. What does this make me?
It makes you a woman. Feminine things are not an identity. Make up and nails are not an identity. Looking masculine or male is not an identity. Be a woman who enjoys all those things. It's something you already said in your post you are drawn to and comfortable with. It doesn't require any form of validation because you are objectively female and it doesn't require anything from other people either. I think this path is the way to a sense of peace with yourself.
(I literally have video evidence of the top transitioning doctor in the world lying about there being any detransitioners as of 2022)
They're right, there are no detransitoners. Everyone who detransitions was never trans to begin with and since you can't desist from something you never were that means there are no detransitoners and none of this is real.
Come on OP it's perfect logic. Don't post on here come back inside where it's warm. Where there is support and friendship and a flag to wave and affordable healthcare (finance available) and no true believer ever has to leave.
This one made me chuckle just because of the sheer irony of it.
There was a thread on r/confidentlyincorrect about someone denying that gay people are murdered and being shown evidence that this was incorrect.
Got a few thousand upvotes, everyone loved seeing the homophobes get slapped with facts and data. Hooray!
Someone in the comments added that trans people are murdered at alarmingly high rates as well. I thought that, since this was a sub based on disproving passionate statements with facts, I'd provide evidence from the CDC showing that trans people have been victims of homicide at a rate 3 times less frequently than that of the general population. Someone else replied with a peer reviewed study that confirmed these numbers. I was polite, and added that trans people do in fact suffer disproportionately high levels of hate crime but are relatively safe from homicide.
So wow, what a relief! Everyone felt much safer and assured that trans people were not undergoing a murder epidemic and it made everyone feel a little more positive about the world.
No not really. I was downvoted into the ground and permanently banned from the sub. Correcting misinformation with data, on the correcting misinformation with data sub, is only fun when the data confirms your political ideals so it would seem. And Reddit seems to align with the political ideal that values victimhood so highly that it desperately wants there to be a trans murder epidemic and squashes evidence to the contrary.
I see this all the time it maddens me. Has anyone ever stopped and asked people with DSD conditions or chromosomal abnormalities if it's cool to just say they are not really their birth sex but something else entirely? Would have thought that people with trans issues would be more sensitive about trying to dictate the sex of other people!
Trans people have existed in huge numbers throughout history for thousands of years! Except those ones that have been studied by psychiatrists in the field since the 1950s onwards and found to have consistently grown out of it when not given medical treatment. Those ones are fake trans the real ones were the ones that never sought any medical advice or psychiatric intervention up until 2010.
Sex is defined by the reproductive system your body was building towards during development, not by the functionality of the system once fully developed, nor by how intact it remains throughout ones life.
This covers pre-pubecents, those with non-functioning or damaged sexual/reproductive organs and most intersex conditions where aspects of both reproductive systems are present but where one is dominant. It is how biologists have always categorised sex in almost all animal species on the planet and many plants.
Also I tend to use male and female as words meaning gender. Which might not be technically right but is the terminology I am used to.
You can't chew out a whole community for using offensive language when you openly acknowledge that it is only offensive because you personally use those words incorrectly to mean something different.
Anyway this isn't a debate club it's a space to vent frustration for people who have been harmed and want to be able to voice their experiences without any source related to their harm being able to contribute. It's like calling group therapy an echo chamber...of course it is, that's the whole point.
Sex is a clearly defined clinical term and holds weight.
Yes there are issues with people feeling uncomfortable around this. That is what gender is for. You can use gender to mean whatever you want it to mean in a way that makes you comfortable.
In casual conversation they are interchangeable but within the specific context of being precise, sex had a clear and rigid definition.
Obviously I'm not going to go up to a trans person and tell them what their sex is if they use male or female. That doesn't mean I can't acknowledge what sex categorisation means.